Is this a good strategy for roommates?

<p>Yeah I need a new place. I want mature and reasonable roommates, is it a good idea to find roommates who are graduate students? I know if they are grad students, they are more thoughtful.</p>

<p>Right now, I have two roommates who never wash their hands when they use the bathroom whether it is #1 or #2. </p>

<p>One of them smokes and throws his cigarettes outside the building. He stopped doing this after the RA came and he drinks in residence. Also he likes to bring his friend over and bug me. How? Basically his friend asks me a ton of questions and I have to answer my roommate and him. For instance</p>

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<p>Roommate's friend: What are you cooking?
Me: Lamb
Roommate's friend: oh I can't cook, so I go out everyday. I am also allergic to lamb
Me: Maybe you should stand back then?
Roommate's firend: Ah no it's okay</p>

<p><em>Both roommmate and his friend approach and smell the meat without my permission</em></p>

<p><em>Both withdraws abrutly and makes an ugly face</em></p>

<p>(Here I get really ****ed off because I am eating that you know?)

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<p>Among other things this guy annoys me. Thankfully he is moving out 4 weeks later.</p>

<p>I don’t think you should require your future roommates to be graduate students. There are plenty of mature undergraduates and I’m sure you will find some grad students to be a pain to deal with.
Also, if someone keeps asking annoying questions, you do not have to answer. You can just keep going about your day, meaning if you need to keep reading, just ignore them or if you need to do something out of the room, just walk out and continue about your day.</p>

<p>Okay my roommates and his friends are drinking in the living room and I don’t think that is allowed. Should I report this?</p>

<p>How old are they? Also, check the rules regarding drinking in the dorms at your university, because drinking rules differ from university to university–for example, at my university, drinking in the dorms is allowed, but a minor can’t be present–if a minor is present, the alcohol must be put away. There’s also a policy where if the RA can smell alcohol, they’re required to check it out.</p>

<p>Honestly, I’d be angry if my roommate reported me for drinking in my apartment that I pay rent for. Talk to them and ask that they refrain from doing it in the house/apartment, or at least be a little quieter about it. You say you want a mature roommate, but in not communicating with your roommate, it sounds like you’re a little immature. </p>

<p>Also what makes you think that grad students won’t drink?</p>

<p>I am a graduate student and I would think long and hard before I lived with an undergrad. However, if the undergrad</p>

<p>1) could prove that they had a steady source of income from which to pay the bills
2) seems very mature and responsible, and not willing to bring parties home or live a wild lifestyle
3) is clean and responsible for their own space, and
4) is going to keep regular hours, or at least if they are up all night, will keep quiet to themselves in their own room</p>

<p>then I would consider living with them.</p>

<p>In general, grad students do tend to be older and a bit more mature than undergrads. But I’m sure you can also find some older and more mature undergraduate students who would like to live with a quiet, mature student.</p>

<p>You also need to practice some ignoring techniques though. Or say “You know, I don’t really feel like talking about this right now.” Or “Please step back from my food; I have to eat that.”</p>

<p>Why should they be upset about getting reported for doing something they are not allowed to do? It doesn’t matter if you pay rent for it; if it’s against the law or the housing policy you can’t do it. Just like you can’t get mad if your neighbors call the police because you are smoking pot or having a loud party in an apartment that doesn’t belong to a university. They’re against the law, and it doesn’t matter how much rent you pay - you can’t do things against policy.</p>

<p>get a one bedroom apartment and live alone!(or suck it up and deal with it)</p>

<p>Laffy, don’t you have some friends or acquaintances you can ask to live with you? Maybe another student in your major, or from an extracurricular activity?</p>