<p>My H wears sweatshirts and jeans to work. Sweatshirts that don’t even fit. He used to wear flannel or cord shirts which I think look much better, but while he will wear those on the weekends, he still wears his sweatshirts for work.</p>
<p>But considering what he does in them, I am glad he doesn’t trash my favorite Pendleton.</p>
<p>So, Bay, why doesn’t everyone dress like they’re going to a debutante ball? All the time? I dressed in a floor-length white gown with white gloves- the whole works. If I wore that to work, I wouldn’t be able to do my job.</p>
<p>Because people dress differently for different occasions. When I’m grocery shopping, it’s for comfort. I don’t need to talk to anyone or interact with anyone. With dinners or whatever, I dress appropriately because I DO need to interact with people.</p>
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<p>Yes, of course, one should take the occasion into account when deciding what to wear. My point about wearing sloppy sweats (not including for exercise), is there is no occasion appropriate for them, unless perhaps you are sick at home, in which case you get a pass.</p>
<p>The people you should respect to at the grocery store are other shoppers and the checkers. Why do you not consider that checkers at the grocery store deserve respect?</p>
<p>I understand that you are not trying to impress anyone by wearing your sweats, and I agree that you will accomplish that goal.</p>
<p>In this day and age, you are always being judged. You never know who you will meet in that same grocery store. Your next employer, future MIL, neighbor will all have been able to form an opinion about you because of what you are putting out in this world. Not all athletic wear comes off as schlumpy, but I tend to notice if someone looks like he slept in his clothes. </p>
<p>That said, I think college is a place that is not the real world and wardrobes vary greatly by campus.</p>
<p>Bay, honestly, if they take disrespect to my sweats, then that is their issue. I can honestly say I don’t think I’ve ever noticed what other people wear at grocery stores. I’m not going to wear uncomfortable clothes to impress people I’ll more than likely never see again. I’m sorry if that bugs you.</p>
<p>Again, it might depend on the culture. I’ve never noticed anyone having an issue with sweats around here. Maybe I don’t hang around the right people <em>shrug</em>.</p>
<p>But fwiw, I never look like I just got out of bed. I don’t wear wrinkly clothes and my hair is always brushed and looks nice.</p>
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<p>1) There’s nothing I’m talking about that couldn’t be purchased at Target. This has nothing to do with money and everything to do with a concerted decision to look decent vs schlumpy.
2) Wearing sweats or yoga pants consistently also makes it easy to get complacent about weight esp for those who work at home, and I’m guilty as charged.</p>
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<p>Ironically, you judge people who do like to look nice as “shallow.” Is that necessarily true?</p>
<p>I think there is a difference between wearing sweats and look schlumpy. I see girls all the time wearing jeans and fitted shirts but look like they have a giant knot on their head. That to me looks FAR worse than someone with a decent shirt, not overly baggy pants, and nice hair.</p>
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<p>Exactly. That’s a PERFECT example. The black half-zip athletic type sweatshirt is JUST as comfy to put on as the big-schlumpy-hide-in-it sweatshirt - and looks tons more polished.</p>
<p>And to me, that would qualify as “sweats” and something I thought would be labeled as inappropriate by some on here. Maybe this is a terms barrier <em>shrug</em></p>
<p>By sweats, I don’t mean just overly worn out or ratty looking. Hoodies and decent sweatpants are sweats too. I don’t think I have anything like the schlumpy things described.</p>
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<p>I never said people should wear uncomfortable clothes, nor did I say they should wear certain clothes in order to impress anyone. People should wear clothing that shows respect to other people around them, whether they ever speak with them or see them ever again. Yes, schlumply sweats in public, and especially pajama bottoms, bug me a lot. I know I am not alone in those feelings, but I also know that most people do not care about my feelings and I accept that.</p>
<p>There is a difference between sweats and schlumpy.</p>
<p>^I agree. As I said way back at the beginning of this thread, there are cross-over type sweats that actually look like slacks and a long-sleeved shirt. Those are much more acceptable than schlumpy sweats.</p>
<p>I Errol agree with that.</p>
<p>Ugh stupid phone. Will* not Errol lol</p>
<p>Love this thread! I don’t think D owns any sweatpants, but she does wear yoga pants sometimes with what I call a sports bra but she considers an adequate top. Her first choice is tights/leggings, NO pants, a shirt that might or might not cover her assets, and cowboy boots. Send a Texan to NYC and that’s what you get! I will say she does have at least some fabric covering all the important parts so I don’t worry much about it.</p>
<p>I guess it really depends on where you are. People here wouldn’t be caught dead wearing sweatpants in public. Sweatshirts with shorts or jeans though would be fine. Yoga pants on girls is fine but pants that show guys, ahem, assets are for hanging around the house. An acceptable alternative would be track pants.</p>
<p>But everywhere is different.</p>
<p>On another note, why not just ask your S what he sees around campus? That might help!</p>
<p>The thing is it’s 90+ degrees outside today, so the thought of sweatpants makes me feel like I have Scarlett fever. LOL!</p>
<p>I notice many recent comments unrelated to the original question. On campus wear, not interview or job attire in the real world. Students are paying for the privelege of getting an education- they can and should wear what they can afford and are comfortable wearing. Visitors, such as parents, may have a different dress code. College campuses are not the same as being “in public”, they are a world onto themselves.</p>
<p>" Respect" isn’t one of my buzzwords. To me, saying that you feel disrespected by someone’s attire is akin to a gangbanger who is ultra sensitive to his or her perceived status or lack thereof, and is constantly looking for proof that they are " respected". :rolleyes:</p>
<p>However for example, I do remember what I talk about with the checkers at the grocery store and ask about their dog/fruit trees/mother, when I see them. In my world, that shows more consideration than someone who is dressed to the nines but who is talking on their cell and barely give those around them a nod.</p>
<p>emeraldk,</p>
<p>The expectation of respect I refer to is no more nor no less than one would extend to another average human being on the planet. I acknowledge their existence, I say please and thank you, and at the very minimum, out of respect for them I consider their feelings when I select proper attire for the day.</p>