<p>You know what they say, the nerds in HS are your boss in the future. </p>
<p>I’m not a CC overachiever, but in my school the stereotypical overachiever on paper is damn good-looking so say what you will. But not all smart people are ugly.</p>
<p>Being busy doesn’t keep you from having a boyfriend/girlfriend. A lot of it is about intention, whether you are really looking for one or not. And a lot of it is about luck, too–being in the same place at the same time, so to speak. There could be someone who you would really click with but never really got to know because your paths never really crossed.</p>
<p>And some high schoolers just aren’t looking for relationships yet–for all of 9th grade, relationships weren’t even on my mind. Same for 10th grade. Then after 10th grade, I was in two back-to-back relationships that totaled well over a year. And yeah, we were busy at times, but that didn’t keep us from having a relationship.</p>
<p>Distance, however, does make a huge difference. My last ex ended it right before he left for college (he’s a freshman now and I’m a hs senior).</p>
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<p>The girl who’s accomplished the most in her extracurriculars (as well as being stellar academically) at my school also happens to be very pretty. </p>
<p>Intelligence supposedly correlates positively with physical attractiveness (albeit very weakly). I think most of the reason nerds are commonly seen as unattractive isn’t because of their genes, it’s because they don’t take as much care to choose fashionable, flattering clothes and style their hair nicely. Maybe because they have more important things to worry about. At any rate, those little tricks are easily learned in college or later, so it’s not a big deal. For a middle aged dude, Bill Gates isn’t too bad looking!</p>
<p>lol A majority of the nerds around here are also not close to the smartest. Being a nerd =/= being smart, so therefore being a nerd =/= physically attractive.</p>
<p>I understand what you are saying though, sinflower, and it is very logical.</p>
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<p>I’ve dated my boyfriend for two years and never saw a drop in academics—actually, my academics got better, just because I never had to worry about having a “date” to prom/date dance etc like the other girls at my school (I go to an all-girls school)</p>
<p>I kind of have, but I’m only a freshman, and I wouldn’t exactly call him “significant,” but I don’t consider myself ugly or introverted.</p>
<p>ive never been in a legit relationship but i’ve hooked up a few times. i have gone far, but very often. quality > quantity. but i really want a legit boyfriend 
i hate just hooking up, i want a sentimental relationship in which two people are in love with each other and care about one another, not just some one night stand. ugh life is irritating.</p>
<p>I don’t think being busy is much of an excuse. There were few people busier than I in high school and college and I still managed to have a boy through it all. Things that come along and are meant to happen will happen. No amount of work can keep people like that apart.</p>
<p>And don’t fret if you haven’t had one. It’ll happen :).</p>
<p>i tried having a boyfriend, but it just doesn’t work out because whenever he wanted to get together, i would always be busy and whenever i had time, he was busy. we were both busy and at one point we hadn’t seen each other in over a month. it was just a fail of a relationship so we had to stop. after this happened i just knew that i would never be able to have a stable bf so i just stopped caring and was satisfied with minor hookups. not anymore though, when i get into college i am not letting “being busy” get in the way of me having a life.</p>
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I think it’s that because people realise they are busy, they don’t want to date? That could be one reason?</p>