<p>I haven't, and I'm applying to college this year. Yale early action, to be specific. I'd like to think it's because I'm literally always busy.. but there could also be some other underlying problem with my personality. I've been interested in girls but I've never asked anyone out because I've been worried I wouldn't be able to maintain a strong relationship with them since I'm always busy. My sister (and my older sister as well - she's at Princeton now and didn't have a first date until age 19) hasn't had a boyfriend either.</p>
<p>Just curious.. post your thoughts/your personal experience!</p>
<p>I think being busy factors in a lot. I’ve had one “boyfriend” but we hardly ever saw each other outside of school/in a group because we were both incredibly busy and did different activities (I’m a total science dork, he was in like 6 plays that year). And that was with us being close friends, so I can’t imagine how it would work with different friend groups.</p>
<p>I mean, I <em>can</em> see how it would work, but it would involve <em>gasp</em> putting the person before school, etc. Either way, I don’t think it’s necessarily a <em>personality</em> problem, just different priorities.</p>
<p>A significant other sounds more, intimate (?) than a boy/girlfriend. Anyway, I’ve still got a few years left of HS and I’ve never had a ‘significant other’. Doesn’t really bother me though. My brother, who is a pretty introverted 18 year old has a girlfriend, but recently he’s become ‘less focused’ on his work (according to my mom), so it probably does take up your time. One of my friends said she doesn’t like having to make dates to see each other with the guy.</p>
<p>Oh and if you did have a ‘significant other’ he/she was:
A) As introverted as you
B) As ugly as you
C) Dared to date you
D) Paid by parent
E) All of the above</p>
<p>I put it in question format to make it easier for you guys.</p>
<p>^ That’s not true for all people. Some people really do just have different priorities. People who have boyfriends or girlfriends usually tend to be less focused on their schoolwork, which is why some of us “smart kids” choose to refrain.</p>
<p>Wow, redjohn, I’m sure you get tons of girls based on your stunning personality.</p>
<p>I mean, it just sucks up your time and it becomes all any of your friends want to talk to you about. I actually do get asked out a lot, but staying friends is easier. =)</p>
<p>^^ The question he posted asked how many overachievers had never had a SO, which is why I said something about “smart kids” choosing to refrain. Besides that, did you read my whole comment? What average student chooses to focus on schoolwork as apposed to having a bf/gf? I don’t know any. My comment was about how many overachievers don’t have a SO because they’re too focused on their schoolwork, not because the completely ridiculous reasons you listed.</p>
<p>Fair enough. It’s just that ugly is almost universally held to be worse than beautiful, paid to date you worse than not, dared to date you worse than not. </p>
<p>Whereas a sizable part of the population-- maybe even half-- prefers introversion to extroversion, something you can’t say for the other traits you listed. </p>
<p>That’s what I meant when I quoted the Sesame Street poem.</p>
<p>Well, I do think redjohn was deliberately trying to be inflammatory instead of stating a blunt truth. If he’d just said “well I bet your bf/gf was as ugly and socially awkward as you” that could be seen as a blunt truth-- the paid to/dared to date statements weren’t realistic, so I assumed they were just meant to fire people up. </p>
<p>But it didn’t really bother me. More offensiveness needed!</p>
<p>Meh. not too sure that the sizable portion PREFERS extroversion. Maybe some, but I’d wager that most are too scared to put themselves out there.</p>