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<p>Yes, thank you for making that point, because that is indeed a fact I learned on CC. The evidence you mentioned (that many kids report, after the fact, that they are happy in a school that initially was not their most desired school) is important to consider. The Harvard alumnus Byerly who has amassed such a huge post count here on CC often expresses the matter by saying that eighteen-year-olds are adaptable: they can get used to more than one kind of school, and certainly can get used to any of the combinations of different specific features found at similar schools. </p>
<p>So I guess the way I approach the word "fit" now is to figure that if my children have developed good fitting-in ability in their secondary education, they can choose an array of colleges to apply to at fairly low risk. Wherever they get in, they will have a chance to thrive and be happy. That's encouraging news for all of us parents, and I learned it here on CC.</p>