This is going to be a little long, but please read all of it!
I wasn’t planning on posting on here for help choosing, but I am getting really stressed out about this and I just want this decision part to be over. I really need your help and advice. When I was young, I always used to tell my parents that I was going to go far away for college. I wanted to have that freedom and independence, a chance to create my own life without constantly having a safety net. However, A few years ago, I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety (mainly social), and now my mom is worried about me being far away (7 hours away from Oberlin). I’m sorta worried about my mental health and being far from home too, but I also feel like I’d be able to preserve and push through and find help if I needed it, even without being able to go home on the weekends. My mom is really upset right now because she thinks that I already made my choice (Oberlin) and she’s devastated that I’ll be so far. The thing is, I haven’t made my choice and with each passing day I feel more and more torn inside. That’s why I really want to hear some fresh perspectives from people who don’t have a personal stake in where I go to college next year.
My college decision is not going to be based on finances. I’m fortunate enough to not have that have to play a huge part in my decision. That being said, of course it would be great to go to a cheaper college, but I don’t want the basis of your advice to be on the finances.
Also, both my parents said that they would be fine with wherever I choose to go. It just sucks for me because my mom (and even my dad to an extent) literally loves all the other colleges except for Oberlin (she hasn’t seen it in person yet though). Neither of them understand what I see in it ((but I’m not committed to it; I’m very confused) and it will make me sad if my parents hate my college deep down.
Anyways, here’s my basic list of positives and negatives based off of my personal preferences.
LAFAYETTE
-con: almost too close to home (50ish mins away)
-pro: close to my bff (25 mins away)
-con: no merit scholarship offered (most expensive option)
-pro: parents love it
-con: don’t think it has a lot of diversity
-pro: nice feeling on campus
Have visited and going back for Admitted Students day
GETTYSBURG
-pro: good distance away from home (2ish hours away)
-con: don’t really care about the Gettysburg War at all
-pro: $22, 000 merit scholarship (cheapest option)
Saw the campus for a minute or so, know least about, going to visit on Admitted Students Day
OBERLIN
-con: far away (7 hours away)
-pro: no greek life
-pro: no football
-pro: very music-centric
-con: almost extreme liberal (I don’t want to use coed bathrooms for example)
-con: parents dislike it
-pro: lots of cool opportunities (like Exco and winter term)
-pro: $15,000 merit scholarship
Visited campus before, going back to Admitted Students Day, know most about
I also really love singing and musical theatre and that’s a big factor in my decision (want to make sure there’s plenty of opportunities on campus for these things and that it’s emphasized on campus).
Any thoughts on this would be much appreciated! A new perspective could help give me some clarity!