<p>Ok I'm sorry for the rude tittle but I just wanted to know your feelings about this. i'm not gay and I sooo do not want to go to a school where the majority of people are les.. I mean I'm not some narrow minded nut who thinks that all girls=all gay. But would you say that perhaps you feel intimadated if you are straight and also the Wellesely cataloug (the best ever) claims that you get to interact with guys but , if you are like any normal person,you prob won't have time to do this right? I mean don't you have to go out of your way to "go accross the lake for the MIT boys?"</p>
<p>First of all, you're absolutely right that the title you chose is very rude. Please correct me if I'm wrong, but you seem to be implying that a school with an active LBTQ community somehow dominates or threatens the straight community. </p>
<p>This absolutely is not the case with Wellesley. Yes, there is a very active LBTF organization on campus. If you decide to attend Wellesley, that is something you will have to come to terms with. Are the majority of students LBTQ? Beats me. The general feeling on campus is that everyone has a sexual orientation and that everyone is entitled to respect regardless of where s/he self-identifies along that spectrum.</p>
<p>Do visit the campus before you make any decision about whether or not you like the community dynamic. Sexual orientation is only one kind of diversity--there are a lot of people who -will- be different from you in countless different ways.</p>
<p>As someone who is straight, I never once felt awkward for being so. I didn't really care about meeting guys, either, but there are plenty of opportunities much closer to campus than MIT. Olin, Babson, and Brandeis (among other schools) are nowhere near as far away as Cambridge.</p>
<p>riggggghhhhtttt . This is obviously a very touchy topic and I'm so sory I asked the question, but I did not mean it to imply that I had any problem with lesbians, one of my friends is les ok so just chill sheeeesh</p>
<p>Ringer05 is to be commended for a thoughtful and reasoned response. No "chill" is needed on her part. Just a recommendation to footscrubber, drop the "some of my best friends are (insert appropriate minority group name)" rationale. It doesn't work. Also, your effort to be provocative, if that is what it was, with the title of your post and use of lingo such as "les", does not invite the quality of response provided by Ringer05. Do your homework. Visit the school when it is in session. Get a sense of the place and its people. Then you will have a better idea if it might be a good fit for you.</p>
<p>One last point, what is a "normal person", in your estimation?</p>
<p>" i'm not gay and I sooo do not want to go to a school where the majority of people are les.. "</p>
<p>The majority of people here aren't lesbians as far as know. I don't know what percentage are lesbians, but I would bet large amounts of money that there is a higher percentage here than in the general world population by more than a few standard deviations. It is also largely enough that being flagrantly homophobic is an extremely stupid thing to do at Wellesley. </p>
<p>"I mean I'm not some narrow minded nut who thinks that all girls=all gay. " You will meet many of these people outside of this school, where the real problem lies.</p>
<p>"But would you say that perhaps you feel intimadated if you are straight"</p>
<p>no</p>
<p>"and also the Wellesely cataloug (the best ever) claims that you get to interact with guys"</p>
<p>You do if you try.</p>
<p>"but , if you are like any normal person,you prob won't have time to do this right?"</p>
<p>You make time with whatever priorities you want. </p>
<p>" I mean don't you have to go out of your way to "go accross the lake for the MIT boys?""</p>
<p>Yes, but whatever. The other third of Lake Waban is owned by private estates (and the perimeter is all public property). MIT is 13 miles, several towns, and a bus ride that includes a highway, away. But if your definition of "out of your way" includes the fact that the bus leaves every hour, and there are two on-campus stops, then you need to broaden your definition of "out of your way"... or look somewhere else.</p>
<p>"so just chill sheeeesh"
Please analyze your diction and tone in comparison to ringer05's. She replied in a remarkably civil manner given your post.</p>
<p>From your attitude, it doesn't sound like this place is right for you.</p>
<p>Word to elizabeth22. Wellesley's not the place for you. Even though "one of [your] friends is les." Just keep in mind there will be homosexual/bisexual people wherever you end up. And you'll have to deal with it.</p>
<p>hmm.. Honestly, to just disregard the debate over attitude and whatnot for a moment here, I just want to say that if you are at all considering women's colleges and are concerned with your comfort level with the LGBT community, Wellesley, at least in what I have gathered, hosts a smaller-profile LGBT community than say Smith. Not that a straight girl couldn't feel totally comfortable at Smith - just ask TheDad's daughter for example. Staying on the same topic, I also gather that Barnard is the most co-ed.</p>
<p>In addition, after talking with many W students, I hear that Wellesley women seem to be more social than those at Bryn Mawr. That, of course, may not be true - however, I found that comment interesting since Bryn Mawr reminds applicants of its close relationship with Haverford (being down the street or something like that), one which is often is portrayed to be closer than the one Wellesley has with MIT (being "across the lake"). But, oh well, whatever... definitely what I have heard more than anything else is that at W, your social life is what you make it.</p>
<p>Finally, I apologize if my post appears to ramble and seem incoherent or even off-topic. I just wanted to share some thoughts with thefootscrubber, because I know the idea of attending an all-women's school can be daunting for many girls.</p>
<p>As far as I've heard there is a far greater number of lesbians at smith and mount holyoke than at Wellesley. Also I recently spoke to a girl in her senior year and she said it was fairly easy to meet guys, and Wellesley lets you have overnight guests up to three nights in a row. AND if you really feel so inlcined you can take classes at MIT through the school and meet guys that way. She also had a funny story about a GUY who tranferred to Wellesley for a semester-- that was one strategic move on his part.</p>
<p>"As far as I've heard there is a far greater number of lesbians at smith and mount holyoke than at Wellesley"</p>
<p>Heard from whom?
Did someone take a poll?</p>
<p>Um, I don't think the majority of people will be lesbian, given that lesbians are considered a minority. </p>
<p>There's more to life than boys. </p>
<p>Many straight people flourish at Wellesley. But I don't think it's the school for you. Any school will have homosexuals. Just because they're there doesn't mean you have to stop being straight.</p>
<p>There are homosexuals at every school. Wellesley most likely does too, but I doubt they're the majority. If you're not comfortable with lesbians then just don't apply to the school. It's all very simple. Even if Wellesley does have a lesbian majority, it's an excellent college, no use denying that.</p>
<p>Just because you have a lesbian best friend, it doesn't mean your open-minded. There are people out there who have gay or lesbian family members and still think it's wrong to be gay.
As a lesbian, I find your post offensive...and I'm sure your friend or best firend would also.
Most lesbians don't try to change a girl's sexual orientation and if you're straight, you're straight, no changing that. Many lesbians have heard rude comments from guys saying they can "change" them and I'm sure they wouldn't want to return the disservice to a straight woman.</p>