I just started my new job at the beginning of the summer and I’m attending a small college in the fall and transferring to the local state college in the spring because I was accepted into their spring term. I put on my resume that I was attending the state college all 4 full years because I didn’t think it was important to put the small college since I was only attending there for one term. My manager believed I was attending the state and I didn’t wanna get caught lying on my resume so I didn’t say anything and went along with it. All my coworkers go to the same college as I’m going to be attending(state college) and they always ask questions about my classes and my professors and my orientation and I have so far lied about everything. They believe that I’m starting at the state college this fall and I’m not attending a small college at all. This lie has gone too out of hand and I don’t know what to do anymore because they will soon realize that I don’t have the parking sticker on my car for the state college. They’ve so far brought it up twice I still need to get one and I just brushed it off. I don’t know what to say because if I told them the truth, I would come off as a big liar and I don’t want that. I plan to cover up my lie by telling them that my financial ai didn’t come through last minute and I was forced to go to the small college and then transfer to stay college in the spring. Class for the state college starts on Monday but the small college starts in another week. I don’t know if this will work but I need your opinion to see if the financial aid lie is convincing and it’s not going to get me in trouble later on and have the lie drag on. please help.
Tell the truth. It’s a good life lesson what can happen when you lie. Imagine if this was a financial lie and you’re at a firm? Better this happened now than later.
The truth will set you free and then you won’t have to keep figuring out which lie you told to whom. Learn from this. There’s no shame in being a spring admit—our relative was and it all worked out just fine.
Why don’t you just say you decided to start at the small college this fall instead? Don’t say anything about the transfer, just say you and your parents decided that was best.
But… have you cleared this semester elsewhere with the state school? Not all would allow that.
I agree that you need to clear your fall plans with the spring admit U—now. Good luck!
I was in a similar situation. Told my manager, coworkers I’d be at school A in fall then got off the waitlist at school B. The next time a question about school A came up, I said “oh actually change of plans I’m going to school B now”. They didn’t care and moved on pretty quickly.
Just be honest here.
Agree your bigger problem may be starting at the small college this fall. In short, that’s not how things work. Your state school may expect no other matriculation, in order to be a freshman.
Say you got off the worker last minute at the small college and you didn’t know how to tell them.
Is the “small college in the fall - state college in the spring” thing approved by the state college?
So you’ve learned a lesson - don’t lie. But in a way, I had to chuckle because it sounds like a good premise for a movie. Ok, I realize not funny for you but there is humor in there somewhere.
Relax. Just say you’ve decided to go to the smaller college because it is the best financial option and best fit for you. Many times the small, private schools give great aide packages. If you want to say something about the state schools say, “maybe I will transfer there. I’ll see how it goes.”
That’s it. End of story. Good luck. We all do dumb things especially when we are young. At least it wasn’t something that was videotaped and posted on social media! It could always be worse!
*off the wait list (not ‘the worker’. Vagaries or a weird autocorrect system).
“I plan to cover up my lie by telling them financial aid didn’t come through…” Don’t lie again to cover up your lie. You will create a web of untruths which will become difficult to remember the details of… it’s a lot of work to avoid telling the truth. Frankly, I think your co-workers will have more respect for you if you just own up to it and be honest. This is one of those things you can really learn from… I hope you do! Everyone makes mistakes… just learn from it. Hang in there… and remember that honesty is the best policy.
Nobody at work needs the details. Simply say “Oh, my plans have changed. I’ll be starting at State U in the spring.” If anyone questions further, simply say “financial reasons” and move on from the conversation.
Stop lying. It is stressful and ridiculous. Just say “oh I didn’t update you? I am going to in the Spring and this fall. I’ll see you at in January” Don’t compound your lies. Most people won’t care and will move on. Someone may figure you out and then wonder as we do why are you lying so much? If people persist just say " I had a lot going on and spring fit better so I decided to go then" Learn from this experience. Don’t just go along with stuff to make it easier. People are kind hearted. They probably didn’t want you to be without a parking pass or look forward to seeing you at or were sharing ideas on orientation etc. Go where you need to but make a goal to be honest this year and life will be easier. Good luck
@InfiniteWaves If I was a co-worker and got that response from OP, my first thought would be, “Wow, that person lied about where they were going. Repeatedly. Why? That is really weird. What else is a lie?” I don’t think OP can move forward with College B without addressing that fact - it will have people making judgments about that person’s honesty/sanity. A sincere apology and an explanation of WHY he/she was untruthful (the why of College B vs. College A is really immaterial at this point), it would go a long with putting this issue in the past.
@Undercrackers, If someone tells you their plans changed you think they’re a liar? That’s a little harsh. People’s plans do change you know. I doubt anyone will question a change of college plans. It happens all the time. OP has no reason to bare her soul to her coworkers. It’s a job, not a confessional.
@austinmshauri I am addressing the fact that OP had been, per their words, repeatedly telling people he/she was going to this other school:
“they always ask questions about my classes and my professors and my orientation and I have so far lied about everything.”
So, as a coworker, I’m supposed to be cool with someone lying to me over and over again and then them just saying, "Hey, things changed’? I’m sorry, but that’s not how people work. Plans change - that’s no big deal and people will shrug and move on. What they will not move on from is someone pretending over and over again that they are going somewhere where they are not and then having no explanation or expressing no regret for deception. As I suggested, if OP wants this to be put to bed, a “Hey, I’m sorry I wasn’t being honest about going to College A. Things changed and I didn’t handle it very well - I’m going to College B now.” I see nothing wrong in this.
@undercrackers, Her coworkers aren’t going to know she lied unless she tells them. They don’t have anything to move on from, OP does. I don’t think this is a mistake she’ll make again.
The OP did say she’s been lying, she does need to admit to being untruthful or she can’t get out of the hole she is digging herself by pretending to be enrolled at the state school already. It is too late to just say she changed her plans, she’s already been making up stuff about attending the state school. I think she just needs to come out with her real story and tell her coworkers she didn’t know how to handle the situation, and she is sorry she wasn’t open with them about her actual circumstances.
First of all it doesn’t matter where you go to school as long as you can be at your job.
If you are feeling bad, then you could say “I wanted to let you know my plans have changed…I am going to local school this fall because I was actually accepted into the spring term at State College. My hours won’t change.”
Just remember OP, it’s not a lie … if you believe it.