Yes, I saw that. It was a rhetorical question addressed to the OP.
I would move in a heartbeat for medical care for a child. Their health trumps everything else. It may very well affect college receuiting of your other child to Harvard or MIT but there are plenty of other great schools for her. Driving sixty miles was too much for us for a chronically ill child. And when we had to drive hundreds of miles to another state for care i can tell you continuity of care is next to impossible and highly disruptive. If I were in your shoes I would move.
I agree with the others about moving if it makes sense for the healthcare. However I am less sanguine about it. You don’t say how often or how acute the treatment is so it may be fine to do the traveling. People travel for medical care all the time. Of course, it is your call. For example, if the child has a stable but unusual condition and needs to see a distant specialist 3-4 times a year then maybe moving is not worth it, especially with the college issue of the other child.
Another thing to consider is cost. If she wants to be a pathologist, that is expensive on top of medical bills. She might be wiser to leverage her academics for merit in undergraduate.
Thanks for your replies. We travelled for medial care all summer. Now we have to decide if we move or stay.
We could stay, have my husband and daughter rent a home in the rural area and my son and I could rent a place by the hospital and just visit back and forth for the year. It would be stressful and cost extra but it could happen. the real estate market here surged and we sold our home for a bigger profit them we thought. While I would rather take the money and buy a home outright , I could take a little and spend on 2 rents.
I found out my daughter can graduate a year early. She took a few classes online like all her PE , health, World civ, basically all the required classes that were not honors. She also did not take religion (yes religion is in public schools) so she had extra credits for taking academic classes during religion. So we thought apply right now as a junior and if she get accepted, defer a year and move and let her experience the real world for a year before college? I don’t think she can accomplish much more as a senior. Most kids do work release their senior year. She has won basically everything she could win, had leadership positions, and has maxed out all classes of any real value. She has taken every foreign language class, all science, computer and math classes. I would be fine with her applying as a junior as long as she could defer a year and leave for college at 18 not 17.
There is minimal support at our high school for college admissions. It is basically a folder to the local colleges or do it yourself. They did give my daughter the letters or messages sent to them by the colleges looking for students. Someone had asked how we had meet with colleges already. Colleges had contacted our high school saying hey were looking for students, a few colleges asked for my daughter and a few other students specifically (who had won national awards). The colleges had small meetings with us at the closest city. They were 100% looking for kids from this area. I know they have offered several kids that were interested admission and generous financial offers, sadly not many take the offer because they do not want to leave.
I know 650 kids in a class and rural seems odd, but families here have lots and lots of kids:) In first grade, everyone but my daughter was related in some way. There are 7 houses on my street and 37 kids and I only have 2! so 6 houses have 35 kids.
Move the whole family. It will be better for everyone’s mental health which will make the physical care easier. Let your daughter try out that new high school for a year. Maybe she will like it, and have good opportunities there, and decide to stay for her senior year too.
Paying for two homes and commuting between them just to maybe possibly improve your daughter’s college admissions chances is stupid. She already has done everything that she could at her rural school. She is ready to move on to something bigger and better. She has the information about the places that were interested in recruiting from that high school and should just get and stay in contact with them. When she does apply (either this year as a junior or next year as a senior), they will remember where she spent her first high school years and give her whatever bonus points come from that. They won’t hold the family’s move against her.