Since your search isn’t particularly price-sensitive, I feel as if you need a few more parameters to narrow down what would work best for you. Right now it seems as if you are in a mode of trying to parlay every possible advantage (ED bump, possible preference for full-pay students, etc.) to get into the absolute most competitive college you can. This isn’t an unreasonable line of thinking on the surface, but if you really want to end up in med school five years from now, you need to think in terms of the “long game.”
College GPA is a huge determinant of whether applicants make it into med school or not. Do you really want to pull out all the stops to get yourself to a college where 90% of your peers got better grades in high school than you did? Obviously you don’t want to err too far in the other direction either - there’s no point in going to a college that isn’t rigorous, such that your high GPA won’t mean much. But there are many excellent colleges in the zone in between, where you could land in the top half of the class on natural ability alone, and be confident that hard work could put you in the top 5-10%, but know that the achievement of being in that top 5-10% will really mean something.
Plus, it’s wonderful that your parents will consider spending $70K+/year on your undergrad, but do keep in mind what the total tab is going to look like by the time you get through med school. Doing your undergrad someplace where you could get some merit aid and perhaps keep the total cost of your bachelor’s degree under $200K rather than $300K+ is… not a crazy idea.
One option that is very much worthy of consideration is the College for Creative Studies within UCSB, which is a research-focused small honors college with an additional layer of application. https://www.ccs.ucsb.edu/majors
As a musician and a STEM student with particular interests in research and medicine, you might really love the University of Rochester. You could study piano at Eastman, participate in the ample research opportunities for undergraduates, and find all of the shadowing/volunteering opportunities you need through the med center. (D3 tennis too, if you play at that level.) You would very likely get some merit aid.
Women’s colleges can be particularly good places to do pre-med. Mt. Holyoke, Scripps, Bryn Mawr, Smith… all have merit aid potential and excellent sciences. Barnard and Wellesley don’t give merit aid, but in addition to their own excellent offerings they also allow you to take classes and do research at Columbia and MIT, respectively. Agnes Scott offers both great merit aid, and cross-reg/research opportunities at Emory.
Clark and, as TTG mentioned, Holy Cross, both have excellent sciences and research opportunities in their own right as well as through UMass Med School which is right there in Worcester. Brandeis can also be a great place to go premed, with easy access to Boston. Yes, CWRU if you like urban U’s… also Pitt where you would qualify for the Honors College.
Basically, there are many, many options, so it would help to narrow down what kind of experience you are looking for, beyond the academics.