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Yes, he was very much in denial about his drinking problem and we CC parents tried to get him to "see the light"...but he gave many of the same reasons you have given us to show us that underage drinking was the societal norm and not a problem in general and for him in particular.
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<p>It was going to end, until the "paragon of light-handed child-rearing" compared me to Lucifer (I think people have asked that his name not be mentioned). I don't have a drinking problem, he did. I'm glad you're so savvy on my posts that you can draw accurate parallel between us. I haven't been drunk in weeks and no one I know has expressed concern over my drinking habits, but thank you for making implications. </p>
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<p>Anyways, on drinking. I think people should drink responsibly, but I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with underaged drinking. Obviously getting behind the wheel is stupid, which is why I don't even bring a car with me on nights I plan on drinking. Clearly, attempting to consume absurd amounts of liquor is going to result in alcohol poisoning. A little common sense makes most alcohol-related problems avoidable.</p>
<p>I don't mean to scare you or your friend, just to relate relevant facts about an incident with which I'm familiar. A boy in my son's Scout troop was picked up for a violation. He received community service and probation. Because he was a minor, nothing appeared in the paper and his parents hoped the entire matter would stay under the radar. However, they were shocked to learn at the first meeting with the probation officer that her standard policy was to meet with a number of people, including the principal at the offender's school, to prepare a report on the youth's attitude, behavior, etc. The parents could not opt out of this. I don't know that the probation officer revealed the nature of the offense to the school, but surely the principal would realize that probation officers don't show up to chat about charming Scouts who have been selling popcorn door to door. </p>
<p>This policy may vary from one jurisdiction to another. Furthermore, I have no idea whether probation officers contact colleges, as well as high schools, in which offenders might be enrolled However, you shouldn't assume that the college will not find out about the DUI. Your friend should specifically discuss local policies about probation and community service with her attorney.</p>
You have made it clear what you want. In response, dt123 made some helpful points but at this point all anyone can do is speculate. Nothing may happen; Something may happen. It might happen now or later or never. We don't know and we can't know, because we need far more information than you can provide here to answer your question properly.</p>
<p>Of course, there is an answer to this that is available to you or your friend. Anyone that gets a DUI needs an attorney. Ask the attorney.</p>
<p>I will say that for some graduate school applications there are questions phrased like "have you ever been charged with...or convicted of ..."</p>
<p>As to running from police. I agree that my advice would be never do this. However, a friend of my son's was drinking underage on a college campus and carrying an open can of beer, as were 3 of his friends. When police stopped to question them, the other 3 ran and the one boy who played it straight and talked to the police was charged. Now he is concerned it will damage his chances for med school. Okay everyone, the lesson is.....</p>
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<p>Agreed--especially one involving a minor. Maybe there are ways to arrange it so the record will be expunged with a certain number of years of good behavior.</p>
<p>okay, this thread can be closed now, my friend has her court date in August and she has an attorney. so while your advice is appreciated, it is no longer necessary.</p>