<p>Salesofarev,</p>
<p>Congratulations on your acceptance! I am happy to know that you are visiting Emory … as I think that’s the best way in which a prospective student can come to acquire a “feel” for the campus and what the potential is for a good “fit” with your preferences for a school.</p>
<p>I have to chuckle, because you’re offering a fallacious proposition when you say, “I’m hoping that you can respond to my “self-segregation” part”, while you then attempt to debunk my response (before I’ve even given it) by suggesting that my opinion might then be “biased or subjective” and therefore that you didn’t know if you “can trust it too much”. I’ll ignore this for the moment …</p>
<p>I don’t know what you mean exactly by “self-segregation”, but I do see some groups self-segregate at Emory. The Korean student population in particular does this, and whether it is for reasons of culture or language or both, I do think it exists, based on what I have observed and what my daughter (a junior at Emory) has shared with me. My daughter actually had a Korean roommate last fall, before she (the Korean student) was able to get off the wait list for the single room housing she had requested originally. My daughter has sometimes been the only non-Korean at dinners, etc., but she was comfortable with this (probably because she is bi-racial and comfortable with different races). Otherwise, my daughter has friends of all shapes, races, colors and interests. The ONE interest she does not have is partying on frat row … because she doesn’t drink and has little interest in getting drunk. On the other hand, one of her best friends is in a sorority. She also confessed to me recently an interest in a guy… and mentioned his name, clearly of Indian origin (which she is not). So… I tend to think that getting along with people is one of willingness to open up, to hear what they say, and to engage with interest. Let’s face it, it’s difficult to dislike somebody who shows an interest in you, right?</p>
<p>Last year, my daughter had a roommate who was on the Emory Women’s Volleyball team, and that particular roommate was nice enough, but my daughter hardly saw her – being on different schedules, and the roommate also traveled frequently on weekends (for matches at other schools; to go home to Kentucky; or to see her boyfriend). I guess this can be alienating, but she has a good group of friends now that she’s close with. Two friends from out of state have even visited her during the summer here in California. No doubt, making friends when you head off to school is a big deal, but you won’t be alone in having to make new friends. (My daughter attended pre-school through HS with the same kids, and she has best friends whom she’s known since age 3, so it was a challenge for her to go from CA to the East Coast and make brand new friends.)</p>
<p>What I sense in you – and this is only an intuitive hunch … is that you have a genuine thirst for learning and acquiring knowledge, perhaps sponge-like even, and you want to be around others of a similar perspective. I can assure you (if you choose to believe me!) that you will not be alone at Emory in this regard. I am impressed with the mix of students at Emory and the different ways in which they approach learning, research, collaboration and discourse. I’m in awe with some students I have met – smarter than a lot of adults I know! When you visit, I’d suggest that you seek out students and engage in conversation. They may seem busy, but most are very open and helpful if you open up to them. Ask the questions that you won’t get from the Office of Admission’s Information Session… or from your tour guide (my daughter has been a tour guide in the past). The students can be a bounty of information that can help you make your decision. Talk to professors and department secretaries … who can offer you honest feedback. Also, I like reading the Emory Wheel to keep current on campus events/thoughts: [The</a> Emory Wheel | Emory University’s Student Newspaper](<a href=“http://www.emorywheel.com/]The”>http://www.emorywheel.com/)</p>
<p>On your visit, I’m optimistic that you will get a lot of answers to your questions. As I have said often, your decision is one that may be based on so many factors that have no “right” or “wrong”… just personal preferences for what YOU deem important to your goals. Emory is not the place for everybody, but it’s right for a lot of students, and that’s why the retention rate is high. </p>
<p>Now, regarding my “bias”, if you look through my posts over the past 4 years or so, you’ll see that I am actually very objective in what I say. Yes, I like Emory, but honestly, I’d be happy if my daughter had chosen another school – as a parent, I just want her to be happy and to find her true path. I post primarily in the Emory discussion forum because it’s where I have an interest, and I don’t have a desire to have 10,000 posts and just hear myself talk. If you go back to some of my earliest posts, you’ll find that I began posting only to be of assistance to others. I do not respond to everybody (especially if I detect a frivolousness), and I don’t have time, energy or patience to deal with “chance” threads or addressing the zillion posts on CC. Very often, my posts are intended to inform or to correct perceptions. Peruse my posts, and you’ll see this to be true. I have built up good relationships with Emory officials over the years, and I share my knowledge accordingly. As recently as last week, I had an Emory official send me an e-mail to thank me for my assistance here on CC – and yes, they lurk on occasion but largely do not participate in discussion, so stay anonymous. Incidentally, I actually research quite well (comes from many years of doing it), and again, you can search my earlier posts regarding the University of California system, and you will find that I was equally thorough and predisposed to providing candid and accurate information – purely for the purpose of being helpful. I had one parent who contacted me privately and after a number of e-mail exchanges, awkwardly offer to pay me for what he considered to be highly valuable counseling (I declined politely). I had another student here in the Bay Area who needed a LOT of help applying to the UC system, and I actually helped him to focus and construct his application strategy, his essays, and mapping of a comprehensive college plan – he’s now attending UC Berkeley. I offer these bona fides only to dispel any concerns you may have about my motives and credibility. Honestly, I just enjoy helping. ;-)</p>