<p>My "friend" basically fabricated her resume and essays. for her applications. She claimed to be officers of clubs that didn't have officers, and exaggerated in her essays. I don't think that most of the things she lied about will even even make that big of a difference... however one of the things she included in her essay is something I did that she had nooo part in!
Would it be wrong of me to e-mail the college informing them that they should check up on some of the claims she made in her application?</p>
<p>it was wrong of your friend, to be sure, but make sure you want to get involved in what could become a huge problem if you do decide to email them.</p>
<p>I say report her to your high school’s authorities instead, and let them handle it.</p>
<p>yes, i don’t really want to be involved… and she can NOT know if i do this… i just wanted to send them an e-mail saying: e-mail my school and ask them about the particular club, they will tell you there are not officers for this club, so clearly she lied on her app…
after that would they even contact me anymore?</p>
<p>No, it would not be wrong. Colleges don’t have the ability to fact-check every application that comes their way, so they rely on their paranoid frenemies to rat them out. Seriously, though, there is nothing wrong with informing a college that your friend has been dishonest. They will then contact your school to verify that you’re not just sabatoging a competitor. </p>
<p>Do make sure, however, that your friend has actually lied. Did you read these essays, or did someone tell you about them? Can you remember the specific wording? Make sure the lie is explicit. Make sure, too, that your friend actually submitted that essay and not a later version, lies removed.</p>
<p>Yes, I read her final essay a few minutes before she submitted it, I’m positive she didn’t change them at all. She directly states a few lies in her essay, some that could be figured out very quickly if they e-mailed our school, and others that are a bit harder to prove.<br>
I’m not “sabotaging a competitor,” we’re not applying to the same school… i just think it is very wrong that she could potentially take the spot of some one else who is more deserving</p>
<p>Don’t go there. Find something else to focus on.</p>
<p>Are you serious? That is so underhanded.
Unfortunately, my English is not so good that I could properly express my anger
about what you are planning to do.
Seriously, if you have a problem with what she is doing, tell it to her.
I mean, at least she is trusting you because she let you read her essay!!
If this disturbed you that much, you should have gone to her the day you read her essay…
I mean, you will jeopardize her future enormously…
Of course, lying in her essay is a bad thing, but if you do that
you are on a level with her…</p>
<p>In my opinion, if you write an anonymous Mail you are a real wimp!
But that is my opinion.</p>
<p>who said it would be anonymous?
I am not the one who is jeopardizing her future, SHE lied on her applications.</p>
<p>I told her she shouldn’t lie, and made my discomfort known… she didn’t care- she said she wasn’t exciting without it. She saw absolutely nothing wrong with what she was doing</p>
<p>^^ agreed. Speak to her</p>
<p>But I don’t understand why you care about that?
Do you not like her? Are you enemies? Did she something bad to you?
Do YOU never make a mistake? Are you always honest?
Are you without sin and are you able to cast the first stone?
I mean it does not affect you in any way. If she is busted, enjoy your glee.
If she is not let her enjoy her fortune.
And I meant anonymously in the way that you don’t want her to know
that you wrote the Mail to the Univ. That is coward.
If you insist in doing this and you see no way out of this impasse
then speak to her and give her the chance to do it on her own…</p>
<p>anyone can lie. shes doing what she wants to do. i say dont get involved. i personally hate people who try to get involved in others people business. get real…with thousands of applicants, do you really think she is going to be the one to take your spot? by informing them, you’re not being ‘righteous’ or ‘morally correct’…you’re being a backstabbing brat.</p>
<p>If you are so disturbed by her surprise actions, end the friendship. Any student complaint to the college(s) will most likely be ignored. I would not be surprised if there is a policy to discard these notices as they can have all sorts of nefarious origins. The juice would come from a GC.
Chances are the GC’s recc letter portarys a kid quite different from what your friend wrote about herself. Eg, if she wrote she was pres of club x and won award y- and the GC does not note this sort of pattern of responsibility- it will be obvious.<br>
I do not condone dishonesty. But, contacting the colleges? Four words: It’s not your business. If what is really bugging you is what she claimed that is really yours, speak to the GC; express that you don’t wish your achievement to be misrepresented by another.</p>
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<p>They don’t receive many charges like this. They will investigate by contacting the GC. </p>
<p>There is no system in place for colleges to identify liars, unless they notice that the friend’s recs don’t mention those positions and investigate (but, really, with thousands of apps–many of which, I imagine, have recs that don’t confirm every EC and award–that seems unlikely). The OP has a right to enforce what s/he sees as blatant dishonesty, since other students are the only enforcement mechanism. Would I do it? Probably not, and neither would most people on this board. But that doesn’t make it any less permissible.</p>
<p>OP, you risk 1) your friend figuring out that you leaked the information (who else would have told?) and 2) a bunch of people on an Internet forum thinking you’re sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong. Decide as you wish.</p>
<p>Either way, your friend did something that is very wrong. So she deserves to reap what she has sown. I would have told your friend right off the bat. But its too late, so I think the right thing to do would be to tell your College Counselor right away.</p>
<p>I do a lot of EC and things like that, so I am highly offended when others claim officerships and participation that didn’t actually happen when I have to work so hard for those couple lines on my application.</p>
<p>Anyways, if she is found out later, she might get kicked out of college and get a red mark next to her name for any prospective application/employment. The faster you fix it, the more easy it will be able for her to spin it as a mistake of a stressed, eager to please Senior.</p>
<p>Actually, my opinion is to tell her about it in a serious manner. Looks like you already have, well, in this situation, its too much off a hassle to get her caught. It’s senior year man, live YOUR life. If its an issue, don’t talk to this person anymore. Eventually it’ll catch up with her (karma, anyone?) Just do your applications and worry about your stuff. You have much more to lose than to gain by going through with this. Be smart. Intelligence isn’t just measured by what you do in the classroom…</p>
<p>It’s none of your business. What she’s doing is wrong, but it is none of your business. Worry about yourself.</p>
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If you do, you’re going to be a snitch
And we all know that isn’t good.
You could be stabbed in some alleyway for ruining someone else’s chance at colleges.
just kidding</p>
<p>I say just stick to yourself. Your friend is taking a risk and will either benefit from it or deal with the consequences. You just work on your applications.</p>
<p>Karma- It will hit her but please dont bother getting involved. Let her be! I totally understand how you fell and I feel the same way as you. Everyone gets mad when they learn while you work so hard while someone else overtakes you lying their way through. It happens all the time. But let her guilt destroy her but you dont let your guilt destroy you by sabotaging her.</p>
<p>Why would you do that to a friend? </p>
<p>And why do people come to CC to talk about their “friend?”</p>
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<p>Exaggeration is one thing, but if the OP is being entirely truthful (which it sounds like she is), her “friend” blatantly lied about numerous leadership positions and purposely fabricated major points in her essay(s). Basically, what you have here is a fake application - numerous major points were made up.</p>
<p>What would I do?
I would take my so-called “friend” aside and tell him or her to seriously consider the implications of what he or she is doing. Then, I’d leave it alone.</p>
<p>But there’s nothing wrong with what the OP is thinking of doing. It’s not like she’s the one who’s making things up. Just saying. :P</p>