Tomorrow most of my son’s friends will get their results from independent day schools. He has said that he is happy to wait more. It will be interesting to see how he feels when he sees his friends both get their dreams realized and get disappointed. It may become more real at that point. .
The sun will still come up on M11. For those holding disappointed kids, tell them “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!” Be their cheerleader. Remind them life is a journey, not a finish line. Although not a great feeling, It will help prepare them for the roller coaster that is college admissions with plenty of ups and downs. But in the end, all hard work pays off. Also, for those who are celebrating, remember to give thanks to our Lord, for all good things come from Him.
24 days left. I’m a little sanguine about it. There is a part of me that hopes he doesn’t get accepted anywhere.
@preppedparent - Great post. Yep, “Where you go is not who you’ll be”! and “Bloom where you’re planted.”
Did the 10 out of 10 wait list student go to a BS after all, or LPS or ?
And impressive that she’s at Ivy college now!
I am not always sure “we” or “they” should get what we think we want. The Gods laugh and all that. For as fabulous as these schools may seem and in many ways are, they are not perfect and they have changed a lot over the years and not necessarily for the better. Young people have very wide ranging maturity and needs. In some ways these schools have turned into pressure cookers that they were never intended to be. They were intended to instill morality and goodness while providing a fine liberal arts education. Many of the alum did not attend or complete college way back when… Certainly their collective pasts werent saintly or perfect either but I think they are mostly shadows of their former selves. Many paths to success and fulfillment–BS is just one possible path.
So true. That mixed feeling is so me right now. I’ll miss her like crazy but I know personally what a great experience it was for me. And I think that, despite my efforts not to helicopter too much, there are often times she looks forward to being a little bit further away lol.
Ok, so I think I am paying too much attention lol. I was watching something on youtube and checked my history to find it again. When I did that, I noticed that the hit counter on DD’s Hotchkiss video had gone up. Now, it’s a hidden/secret video you need a link to see - if we didn’t watch it they must have! It went up by 3 hits. That is MY top choice for her - so fingers crossed they enjoyed it 
Here’s an awesome thread: http://talk.qa.collegeconfidential.com/prep-school-parents/1453920-the-worry-thread-parents-only-please-kids-can-worry-on-the-chances-forum.html
Edit: Sorry I took you to the last page!
last post only took 24 hours to be approved. But there are 3 others sitting in my drafts folder. what the heck? I emailed the web page through their “contact” address and have heard nothing. This is pretty annoying. While this community seems interesting, the hassle just isn’t worth it.
great quotes indeed
@makp715 I too was monitoring the hits to my daughter’s YouTube. I’m not sure if the count was from me looking so many times though:)
Also @makp715 do sign up for the UPS, Fedex, and USPS notifications as Hotchkiss was the first school we knew about on M9 as there was a mailing destined for our address for the next day. I just don’t recall which service it was though.
I’m not sure if that will work for us because we live in Canada. I read a post thread that said packages etc are only for US people.
@Korab1 - maybe it is taking longer because you are new. My posts go up instantly. If they are in your draft folder they are not posted.
@makp715 some schools say they only send packages in the US.
And some schools will send the packages without any dutiable product (e.g. t-shirts); it depends upon the school.
A small but important detail for parents who may be going to revisits after M10: be sure to take comfortable shoes with you that can handle any kind of weather. Outerwear is important too. It rained cats and dogs when we went on one of the revisits.
So Thursday the day school acceptances came out for my sons friends and classmates. Wow. It has become a numbers game. Both boys I know well (highly ranked in their n-8 schools) got accepted to only one school (one that they viewed as a safety). Wait lists are pretty meaningless here also. As a parent older in the game (and with a lot of experience with the schools in our community) I am reassuring both parents of course and emphasizing their job is to convey both calm and enthusiasm for their sons. Both boys are bright and had excellent scores and will succeed where they land. It is just hard for the parents to look back and think of all the work the children did to get to this point and to not have choices. At the risk of sounding cynical, hooks are really important here to get into top schools. Legacy. Sibling. The kind of money that builds buildings. Fame. Other hooks such as underrepresented minority. Girls have more options as there are 3 tippy-top girls schools and several other excellent ones while there is only one analogous boys schools as the n-8 boys more commonly chosen boarding schools historically. I wish people had been more open to at least visit boarding schools where there are far more options and depth with respect to rigor. Most of the k-12 schools take in 25 or so new boys (some more) and there just are too many qualified boys. I counsel families in this predicament and also lamenting the options to consider boarding school and if it isn’t on their radar they look at me stunned. We have all read the threads about this. I wish they would just visit one school and not pre-judge but I can’t push too far. These sort of beliefs run deep. Anyway I am sure after the weekend passes people will all be ok. The results just were a bit shocking.
@sadieshadow are you in NYC? Because what you’re describing is exactly the situation that we have here. It also seems to me that the day schools are more stats-oriented; you absolutely have to have top grades & scores to be admitted to the top schools. Whereas even the top boarding schools tend to be a bit more holistic. At least that’s been our experience.
Yes NYC. Born, raised. My children attended the same lovely N-8 school. DD went from there to elite HS I attended. This was a disaster would discuss if you want on PM. Transferred as a 10th to a lovely girls school and now a Junior at Vanderbilt. I refused to enter this toxic HS environment with my son. We considered 10 schools, visited 8, most a couple of times and applied to 4–happy with all of them. So many varied choices. I agree-more holistic admissions yet hooks like legacy and sibling are still very powerful.