<p>No man. Don't play video games. Just join some clubs. A better setting for meeting people. I'm shy too but I still get out and try to meet people. Just need to remember that 99% of people will want to meet you anyway! College is not meant to play video games in your room all day. You're around a ton of new people. Why not meet some through clubs at least? Or some campus event?</p>
<p>I feel ya--I'm in sorta the same situation. I've been here for 2 weeks now, and havn't really made any decent friends. My whole hall is close, and we're all friendly wth one another and go out and do stuff, but outside of that no one comes and hangs out in my room, as I don't in anyone elses really. One example of the situation--last night our whole hall walked downtown to get dinner. While walking there I got a massive blister on the BOTTOM of my foot--like the size of a quarter. dinner went great and was fun w/ good conversations and stuff, totally felt included, but when the time came to walk back, I told everyone "oh F I have a huge blister on my foot--I'm deffinetly going to be limping" so then I told them I was starting to walk to get a head start. I walked up a few blocks on my own, then th group cought up to me and passed me quickly (I was limping--duh). Not one person slowed down to walk with me. If this were my friends from HS everyone woud've. or at least one or two people. No one even asked me if I was okay. Now, I'm not the crying type, but I seriously almost lost it as I saw all of these people who were really friendly at dinner just walk right by w/o even saying anything.</p>
<p>I joined my school's riding (horses) team, and thought that would be a good way to meet people with my similar interests, but it turns out that we basically only see and hang out with the people in our lessons, and I'm in a lesson with only one other person--who happens to be in one of my classes, and I alredy know I clash with. haha, I guess my last hope is that I've also joined photography club, and hopefully once that gets going I"ll meet more cool people.</p>
<p>There are people in my classes I can totally see myself being good friends with, but when we're in class--we're in class, and I have all of my classes one right after the other so can't just stop after clss to talk to people--I have to rush off to my next one so I'm not late. It's just akward. And my school has one giant caf, so even though there are people I'm friendly with, it's difficult to find them at lunch or dinner, so I usually just sit down by myself, eat quickly, then leave. This was so not how I expeted my social life to be. I can only hope it gets better.</p>
<p>You need to initiate things then. Ask someone in your hall if they want to grab some coffee or a bite to eat. Or someone from your club.</p>
<p>There is an activities day next week at my college where all the clubs have stands and stuff. I think I'll pick up an application for several and consider joining one or two. Hopefully I'll find some people there.</p>
<p>A blister on your foot caused you to limp?</p>
<p>It's litterally the size of a quarter, maybe a little bit bigger actually, and it's right on the ball of my foot, smack in the center, like, just a bit under my middle toe, on the bottom of my foot.</p>
<p>I drained it this morning, cause I really couldn't put any weight on it without it hurting like mad and worrying about it bursting, and even drained and with bandaids on it and pain killer anti bacterial gel, the skin below the blister is so effin raw it still hurst to walk around a lot.</p>
<p>so yeah, I had to limp.</p>
<p>Aww I feel so bad they just passed right by you.
I really hope I don't meet people that do that when I start.
I am panicking as well not knowing if I'm going to be able to meet people or If i'm gonna end up hiding out in my car between classes UGH</p>
<p>Just talk to people guys. You'll find some good people eventually...</p>
<p>equine99, i feel ya. I was in similar situations where i felt just invisible. Sometimes i get a feeling people only care about having fun. In a group, when i'm hyper and funny, people pay attention to me, but if i'm depressed or whatever then no one seems to care. Maybe it's just me...iono</p>
<p>I guess people like us have to try harder to make friends.</p>
<p>Would you rather listen to someone who seems depressed or someone who seems fun/interesting/funny/whatever?</p>
<p>I'm in kind of a similar situation. I transfered to my school last year, and there was no one in my dorm that I had any common ground with, so I made no friends there. I joined a club on campus a few months later, and eventually made some friends and ended up meeting a fair amount of people, but they're really just acquintesses, and not good friends. I would often go to parties at their apt. complex for a few months last year, but then they didn't have as many parties there later in the year and they started to drift away from me. It sucks because back home in HS and at my JC I had pretty good friends, I hung out with the right crowd and many people knew me in HS, but now I don't have much of a social life in college, where it should be a lot easier. I'm starting to give up on having a good time in college, even though I still have 2 years left, because I've had terrible luck with making good friends who I actually hang out with regularly and don't just see at parties. It's odd because I've gotten an overall sense that I fit in decently at my school, when I meet new people they're usually pretty nice to me as long as I'm in a good mood, and when I am I'm pretty outgoing, but I haven't been able to take advantage of that.</p>
<p>I can totally relate equine. I go out with the people on my hall occaisionally, but I don't really feel included in the group. When we're walking down the street, I'm always on the end of the line of us (walking shoulder to shoulder), when we're in the dining hall, I feel like I'm just there (plus my hearing isn't so great, so I miss a lot of the conversation), and when we're standing around in a group, it seems like I'm always on the outside of the circle. I can and do talk to them all individually, but when they're in a group, it's a lot harder, and I'm on the outside.</p>
<p>Yeah- feels kind of the same here, Bing and Equine.</p>
<p>And for the record, I would have walked with you...and anyone who wouldn't probably wouldn't be much of a friend anyway.</p>
<p>Do all of you with friendship difficulties have roommates? Isn't a roommate a "natural" friend at least at the beginning? What about inviting a roomate pair or two from your floor to your room to make popcorn, share a pizza or whatever--sometimes a conversation floats up topics that suddenly offer at least two of you a new link. </p>
<p>Also in the cafeteria, notice who else sits alone . Take the initiative to ask "may I join you?" You already have in common that lonely feeling of having a meal by yourself. </p>
<p>I think someone should have walked with you, equine, but the other freshmen are probably also afraid of leaving the group. Keep an eye open for the needs of others--a sympathetic or kind gesture can win you a friend worth having.</p>
<p>people suck! be a misanthrope.</p>
<p>Aw thanks you guys, but yeah, it's weird not having friends who you ca be your entire you around. Like, not everyone's happy go lucky all the time, sometimes you feel depressed or just a lack of bubbley and you need to have peope around you who will still talk to you and not just abandon you because your momentarily not "fun" to be around. And I know you have to know someone for a while to get that close to people, but it just sucks right now.</p>
<p>I actually just had a decent conversation with two of the girls in my hall (and yes I do have a roommate, we're just not close) and I'm gonna go out to a frat party with them on wednesday, and hopefully that will help some. </p>
<p>PLus my foot is better now :) and photo club is looking very promising. Things are looking up.</p>
<p>Hey everyone i just joined and im having the same problem here. I have been here for about 3 weeks now and I havent really made any friends. I talk to some people in class but never outside of class. Im starting to join clubs and stuff so we'll see how that goes. I feel like some of you guys feel, unapproachable. I think people see me and think he doesent look friendly so just walk away. If anybody has any tips it would be greatly appreciated. I dident think this was how I was going to spend my time in college.</p>
<p>Just smile (or at least don't frown or look insecure), join clubs, and things like that and you'll do fine.</p>
<p>I don't think I know how to make friends anymore. I hate it when I say hi to someone and clearly we have met but he would just pass by looking at me.</p>
<p>Try the featured discussion: Your New Image For Starting College. I left some tips of my own about making friends and being confident a few pages in.</p>