making friends in college

<p>Maybe the solution is not to expect "friends" right away. Start small--think people I can talk to during breaks or at meal times. Work on finding out stuff about whoever will talk to you and on skills for keeping conversations going--asking questions that get responses, get people to open up a bit and talk about themselves. Look for other loners and offer them some companionship. Or find out if there is an organization for international students-they are sometimes happy to meet some Americans and learn more about their new culture as well as share their own. Over time, this will lead to friendships.</p>

<p>That's great. Just try to be people's friend. Go around with the attitude that people want to be your friend you only have to be willing to give them the chance. So start up a convo, invite them out for the weekend, come and visit their dorm, start a study group. Pretty soon you'll have a lot of friends.</p>

<p>If you are taking a course that reads plays, a good idea is to organize a group to read the play out loud. I did that with Shakespeare Junior Year Abroad in GB. We met three hours a week to read a whole play out loud in one session. It was fun, it got the homework done, and led to friendships.</p>

<p>i guess what it all comes down to is who you can "relate" to the most, since you cant expect everyone to be your friend.</p>

<p>its funny how when your in high school, every1 complains how they cant wait to get out! How everyone gets typecast, sterotyped and its boring. Hows theres lame drama and immature kids in class and school. Then we all go to college expecting new exiting things. But after two weeks we wanna bust a Holden Caufield and go back to high school, where every1 has there own clicks and friends. I guess this is all part of growing up. and feeling alone at one point is neccessary to appreciate "the good times". **** if you guys want something, dont trip youll get it. U cant expect to make BFFs in 2 weeks. and i must say, most of you in this post are really cool and sweet. i havent started college, still have to wait a week to move in, but once i move in ill probably make a post about how I dont fit in and i cant find my best friends and life companion. Better than making a post about the rash some gurl gave my first day in college:)</p>

<p>Mavin... other people dont bite.</p>

<p>It's very easy to meet people and make friends at my school. It helps that the dorm structure at mine allows people to live with their peers for the first year, plus we have to take a class together and the cluster of dorms is small enough that it's easy to visit the people you know but large enough that you run into new people all the time. </p>

<p>But it helps that we're not in high school anymore and nobody's confined to the group of people they were in back then. I'm in my first year but it seems so long ago.</p>

<p>Im in high school and ive always been that popular star athlete/smart kid that everyone knew but when i took classes at ohio univ. over the summer i felt totally out of my element.. i never really had to meet people usually people tried to meet me but neway i basically just talked 2 ppl while we waited for elevators or i'd smile at ppl in the hall and stop by the community room every once in a while and by like my third day i had a whole group of friends just like high school.. it also helped that ohio univ. is known for its friendliness but im sure this will work pretty much anywhere. Just smile at ppl in the hall and after youve seen them a couple of times just stop them to introduce yourself (only if they smile back of course).</p>

<p>By 3 days you already had a group of friends? You mean acquaintances I'm sure.</p>

<p>yea acquantices of course.. it was only a two week program but we still talk to each other online and stuff</p>

<p>I've been at school for a 4 days now and I've started to make some friends. This is actually the first time I've felt kind of lonely since I got here. Last night I decided to get involved with building government, since that seems like a good way for me to meet people...</p>

<p>I'm a transfer student plus I live in a Suite which is far less social then the res hall. So I guess my situation is different then many of yours.</p>

<p>Gahh I'm such a boring person... can't keep a conversation going.</p>

<p>dont worry, u can make friends by just saying 'hi' and asking 4 names. after all ur busy schedule will limit u to ppl who take the same course or live close by, and u'll certainly have stuff to discuss with them.</p>

<p>Are we all using the same definition of a friend here or are we using it with acquaintances interchangably?</p>