Hi. So I came across this video about this idea which would help making friends easier hehe.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1RGORid4lU
But on a serious note, I struggle to make friends or even speak to people for advice at college.
Does any one else face this or know how to overcome this?
Thanks
I didn’t watch the video (don’t have time now) but I have the exact same problem! I started college in Canada last year. I still have problems making friends with them and I think it’s that I’m just too shy.
I would try to get a room at the student residence. Then I would immediately get to know the people on your floor…like don’t stay in your room the first days, or it can be too late when they already knew each other. That happened to me.
Also try to join clubs, even if you’re not really interested in them. Just do it with the goal of meeting new people there and eventually who could become your friends. I met my boyfriend in a language club and I taught Canadian students German at the language club. If you’re an International Student, that’s a great way to make friends. Many North Americans at my University want to learn new languages from International Students (especially Chinese…) and by doing that, you spend much time with them. This can lead to relationships. A Chinese friend of me also met most of her friends by teaching Chinese once a week.
Also some people also say it’s important to get to know your coursemates. But I found out that it only leads to acquaintances and study-friendships tied to the course, not real friendships. But definitely try it, maybe it works for you so be open to meet friends in the courses you take.
I don’t have more tips…and the funny thing is, I know what I should do to get to know people/ these tips but I’m too shy to actually do it:/
You should also know that sometimes, it just happens unplanned. I met one of my friends (who unfortunately changed to another college) at 1am on a Monday night in the laundry room doing laundry haha
Building off of @NewVancouverite 's last post I would leave the door to your dorm open (obvi only when you’re inside) so that your hallmates can get to know you and realize that you are looking to meet new people.
I don’t agree with joing clubs you’re not interested in because you’ll be surrounded by people who most likely will be interested in whatever club it is, so you won’t have similar interests. I suggest only joining clubs that you have a legitimate interest in.
Try and get into a study group or something like that. You may not develop close friendships with those people, but at least they’ll know who you are and you never know, maybe they could introduce you to some of their friends and they might be a better match for you!
Also, have you thought of doing an internship? You meet tons of ppl there. Not just posible future employers, but other interns could become really great friends. You never know!
Best of luck!
True you shouldn’t just join any club…but I even joined a church club at my college, although I’m non-religious which is truly ridiculous! (I wouldn’t do it anymore now because it’s kind of disrespectful to Christians). However, I still met one of my friends there. She was only an exchange student so she went back home but still.