<p>This is my second yr at my school. I live on campus. I have a roommate. But not too many friends. Me and my roommate get along great. We've had lunch together this week and we talk a lot. But she's ALWAYS so busy with work off campus. She hasn't even spent one night in our dorm since we moved in. Since she works night shifts she often just goes to her house to sleep after. I have this other friend here who i met last year. We hangout a lot. But since she lives close by she almost always goes home on weekends. I also have a boyfriend. We spend a few days during the week together. Which is awesome. But when I'm not with him i can't help but feel lonely if my roommate or other friend isn't around. </p>
<p>I'm grateful to have these 3 people. I know some people have no one. But I would love to have more friends than this. I do talk to people. But it never seems to go anywhere. And the only people who I noticed to really take initiative to hangout are guys who want to go out with me -_- If you look at the contacts in my phone most are all guys I met in class! I want real friends! Not dates. Lol. I'm just really tired of lying to my parents by telling them I'm having a great time with friends when I barely have any. </p>
<p>I admit I'm a little shy. In class I kinda try to sit next to people who I noticed are also quiet. I don't like sitting next to people who are sitting with their own group of friends. I feel like I have a higher chance of making friends with someone who is also the quiet person in class. Idk. Maybe I'm just thinking too much. This was the first week of class after all. </p>
<p>Are you involved with any clubs on campus? If not find something you love and join. Clubs were one of my two main ways of making friends. When you have at least one thing in common that you love with someone, you usually end up liking the other people. The other way I met a few great friends was just being around in my residence hall. Some people were out in the lounge during the polar vortex and invited me to watch Sherlock with them. Now we’re living in the same building and I’d say we’re all good friends. So those are my two suggestions. Clubs and just being around. Of course, I’m also not the most social with people I don’t know, and I’m the same year as you (but not back in school yet) so I don’t know what being a sophomore is really like yet.</p>
<p>I’m not involved in any. Last fall I did go to a few club meetings but none seemed to interest me. I know I should also leave my dorm door open more. Maybe some people see me as unapproachable. </p>
<p>That’s similar to me my first quarter. I was in one club and I was in my room a decent amount. Just try opening the door, working in a common area, or something similar.</p>
<p>And since I don’t know your school, I can’t guarantee this, but I’d venture to guess you have a lot of clubs around. Just keep trying stuff out until you find something you like. Figure out what you’re into and find something that matches!</p>
<p>I will open my door in a sec lol. I just don’t want people to pass by and think, “She must not have friends since she’s sitting alone at her desk playing Minion Rush on her iPad.” lol. </p>
<p>I go to a small liberal arts university. Less than 3,000 students. I feel like theres not many club options. At least none that I’m too interested in. I think I will try joining the same club I tried last year. I just always felt weird and too quiet at meetings. Me and my friend went together last year. </p>
<p>Plenty of people have nothing to do sometimes, so you won’t look lonely haha. </p>
<p>You’d be surprised how many different things you might have. I mean my school only has 8000ish freshman and we have somewhere around 400 clubs I believe. See if there’s a directory or something and just go through the whole thing. It sounds tedious, but you might find something really interesting.</p>
<p>Lol i know they do. I did leave my dorm opened earlier while I was hanging up some clothes and . People passed by. I didn’t expect anyone to come in and start hanging out. I just wanted to make myself seem more approachable. </p>
<p>Yeah, that’s really all it takes. No one will necessarily just walk in every time it’s open, but at some point someone will be like “Hey, their door is open, I’m gonna stop in and say hi” or some other similar line of thinking.</p>
<p>I do say hi to people. People here are pretty friendly. My floor-mates say hi to me during the day. But i just feel like everyone had their own group lol.</p>
<p>It’s takes time, listening and taking an interest in those you are around the most. Generosity with your time, assistance and your ear make a huge difference. Good luck!</p>
<p>I think most the people in my hall are guys. There are girls. But they live further down the hall. I am going to try talking to more people in class. Yesterday when I left my from door open people passed by and said hi to me.</p>
<p>I definitely didn’t have my friend group in the first few weeks. It might seem like it, but people are very open pretty much the whole first semester.</p>
<p>“Some people were out in the lounge during the polar vortex and invited me to watch Sherlock with them. Now we’re living in the same building and I’d say we’re all good friends.”
Now THAT is how I want to make friends.</p>
<p>Everyone is nice here. I do hangout in the cafe lounge a couple times a week between classes. I sometimes eat dinner in there alone since I get out of one of my classes a little late. I I feel like it’s mainly guys who I talk to in class. Which is nice. But it would be nice to talk to more girls. </p>