So this may be something totally scandalous, but my D has two very close male friends from law school that she has asked to be her “Bridesmen.” Fortunately, both of them were so stoked to say yes. We live in Texas, where this kind of thing is rarely to never done, but I’m tickled that my D did this. When she was a little girl, she could always be found at recess playing touch football with the boys. She has always had more male friends than female. She pledged a sorority but spent more time at her male friends’ frat houses.
She will give her bridesmaids her colors and just ask them to find a flattering dress that they love rather than picking one dress for all. What do y’all suggest for the guys? I’m thinking just tell them to wear whatever the groomsmen wear, probably a tux. Or is there some kind of creative thing they could do to signal by their dress that they are one of the bride’s attendants?
Coincidentally, we are going to a wedding in a couple of weeks in CA (groom is Texas born and raised, and son of our very close friends) where the “Maid of Honor” is actually the bride’s best friend - male. Love it.
My MIL is hoping for a very elegant traditional church wedding. She is going to flip her lid when she finds out a)not in a church b)officiant is DH’s best friend who happens to be legally ordained but certainly not of the cloth and c)two “bridesmen.”
What does bride want? How formal is event going to be? Maybe have them men get a shirt made in fabric that coordinates with the other female wedding attendants or even a sash they could wear with their tux/suit?
Wedding party will be black tie. Yeah, maybe their cummerbund could be the bridesmaid colors or perhaps the tie.
D hasn’t mentioned it and probably hasn’t even thought about it yet. Her Law partner mentor told her that was a dumb idea and I’m ready to wring his neck.
I think it’s a fine idea if that is what bride/groom favor. I went to a lovely wedding where the bride had her 3 sisters in wedding party and groom had his sibings (a brother and a sister).
Yeah, I love that people are doing what makes them happy vs being a slave to tradition. Tradition is fine-I followed it, but I did it rather blindly. I love it when people are intentional-they do what makes them happy.
I was originally asked to be “best woman” when a friend got married but the bride vetoed it and let me just give a toast instead. I had known the groom for about 10 years and there was never any romantic feelings but bride was & remains extremely jealous.
I think it’s best not to overthink and just have what B&G want!
@Nrdsb4 My DIL had her MoH back out 6 months before the wedding. Her best male friend stepped in to be the “man of honor”. He wore the same gray summer suit as all the men and a coral tie to match the women.
My niece who was married a week ago also had a male attendant. He matched the men with a white long sleeve shirt and black pants, but wore a purple tie that matched the bridesmaids’ dresses. The groomsmen wore green ties.
When my nephew was married, his wife had a “man of honor” and a “matron of honor” and two “maids of honor” and she had 3 bridesmaids and 5 “Brideboys” for her wedding entourage. The women wore pale pink dresses and the men wore pale pink suits. Nephew was more traditional with an all-male group (best man, multiple groomsmen) who wore matching blue suits.
Yeah, but I was trying to think a little outside the box. That’s certainly the easy thing. D2 is creative and will probably come up with something. She’s just busy now going through quotes and worrying about budgets.
How about having them wear a flower lei that somehow coordinates with the bridesmaids bouquets and instead of the traditional grooms men’s boutonnières?
I’d have the guys wear a tux. People will figure it out by where they stand during the ceremony. If they are ok with a tie in the bridesmaids color that is ok but IMO not necessary.
For my D’s recent wedding celebration my S was the only attendant (“person of honor”) and he wore the same tux as the groom and the two fathers and walked down the aisle alone.
If the groomsmen are wearing just a tux, maybe the bride’s attendants could wear a vest in the bride’s colors to have them a little different?
Or they could just have a group theme, where groomsmen and ‘bridesmen’ dress the same. If it is is formal/tux wedding, there are only so many ways to go before it looks like the groom’s side is formal and the bride’s side is casual.
Is there also going to be a different processional too? I think it would be weird to have a groomsman walk a bridesman up the aisle.
My daughter was just in a wedding where two bridesmaids dropped out less than a month before the ceremony. I’m not sure how they did it, but they had 2 extra groomsmen and just made it work.
I attended a wedding in which the groom had a female friend as a groomswoman. She wore the same dress as the bridesmaids, but stood on the side with the groom. She also attended the shower with the bridesmaids.
I’d have the bride’s men friends wear the same as the groomsmen.
That’s how they did it in the wedding I attended it a few weeks ago, and they didn’t have any bridesmen or groom’s women. Groomsmen entered the church from the front with the groom, and the bridesmaids entered from the foyer one by one to music. We will probably do the same.
My 2 kids have always been very close. When D got married 4 years ago, S was her “man of honor”. He wore the same suits and coordinating ties that the groomsmen wore. The attendants all walked in/out individually. S got married earlier this year. It was a COVID micro-wedding. D was the only attendant on the groom’s side. DIL chose her sister as her only attendant. The 2 attendants coordinated the general colors of their outfits.
