Not ASU but U of Arizona (Tucson) where the 4.0 gets you $32K off the $40K tuition and the Honors program is solid and dorm unreal.
OSU does have merit but it’s over $57K COA - so again, $35K likely not plausible. Also, not plausible but maybe less and also big city, UMN.
If you have a budget, it’s ok to apply to schools that may but likely won’t hit budget). But you really need to apply to schools that “will” hit - and that’s Arizona, Alabama, maybe Kansas, and some more. Florida State close enough.
Few are like Ohio State - massive and near the big city (in the city but near the downtown). ASU comes to mind as similar and you can get close to $35K but not quite. UCF might be another to look at. And Texas A&M although it’s not near the downtown.
Purdue is large population wise- but not as sprawling as OSU- and hasn’t raised tuition in more than a decade. It’s full COA is very low 40s - and merit, while not probable, is possible. It’s a strong b school, especially on the operations side. But it’s not near the big city like OSU but it’s in a town.
Regardless of what your daughter wants, the first thing is budget.
If it’s $35K, then it’s $35K. It doesn’t matter that she has “concerns” about a school. You can’t send her to a school that you can’t or don’t want to afford.
So yes, OSU is a fair one to apply - but she needs significant aid - whereas there are some schools like a Bama and U of Arizona and Penn State and others that will 100% hit the target.
If you’re going to be flexible, it’s fine - and you can do so. But if you are worried about perceived value or your retirement or making ends meet, then you have to draw the line.
PS - my kids both chose safeties over reaches. They chose them because after visiting, they loved them.
In the end, do you think someone cares (an employer) if you go to - since she’s looking at rankings - #49 Ohio State, #77 Penn State, #105 Oregon or #151 Nebraska. No one cares.
As I showed you with Bama and the NM Scholars, no one has more. So there are smart kids - EVERYWHERE.
Your daughter shouldn’t conflate a made up rank with quality. I’m not saying UNC or UVA or Michigan don’t have stronger students, etc. because they do - but the opportunities are everywhere or companies wouldn’t be hiring grads from these schools year after year.
And in the end, there are tradeoffs.
Your daughter is outstanding academically. That gets her money. You’ve got a budget. So it allows her to go to college.
If she had a 3.6 and 1260 and you had a 35K budget, outside a Millersville or West Chester, she wouldn’t be going to college at all.
Check into affordable colleges, their Honors Programs and other special programs - such as at Bama they have Randall Research and Blount Scholars. Other schools may have similar enrichmment or learning living communities.
US News rankings aren’t the real world but they do create peer pressure in school. But your daughter has to look past as you have financial concerns.
If you “waffle” right now - then just raise the budget because it will show you won’t have the discipline to not cave in - and I get it - it’s tough to say no to a daughter.
I’m a full pay dad and set a $50K budget.
So acceptances like Washington & Lee, UMD, American, Miami and more - were throw out.
If you chase merit - you need the:
Will make budget schools - which I only see Penn State and you need two unless you’re 100% sold on Penn State. U of Arizona, Alabama and others fit.
Possible to make budget and a likelihood of money - Pitt and Miami. A Florida State, U of SC, SUNY B, Arizona State could work here. You need a few here.
Those two - especially the top category - are the most important schools on your list.
Then you can do the - I’ll apply but I know they’re highly unlikely to get me there - and again, I’m using $35K - IU, OSU, SCU, Syracuse, UMass, UMD, Tulane, Southern Cal.
These are sort of your dream schools - really most likely a waste but since you shoot for the stars.
But you really have to decide on your financial flexibility. If you really want to chase merit and with good quality schools, there is a right way.
But part of it is saying no to the student - and the earlier you do that, the better off you’ll be. It literally has to be - we come in at this cost (whether you decided 35K or 55K)- or even with an acceptance, it can’t happen - so they know!!! My kid knew right away as she got offers - yep, not going to American. Yep, not going to UMD. W&L at $81K - and no money. Dad not paying. She crossed them off on her excel.
U of Denver at $43K - maybe. UF at full pay. Possibly. U of SC- at $30K - I can go as it’s under budget. Charleston, which she chose - at the time was $40K even though she got more money after accepting - it was in budget so yep. Those and others all made the cut.
Best of luck.