<p>I come from a very umm angry family. Very horrible things have hapenned in our lives that it has turned my mom, grandma, and brothers into very angry people. I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I don't get angry very easily and don't like to get yelled at. This makes for a bad combination. When I mess up, they can't seem to resort to anything except for yelling, and it makes me pretty depressed. They don't let me explain myself and expect me to be the perfect obedient child. We do have good times and they are pretty invested in me academically, which I appreciate, but sometimes it gets to be too much. </p>
<p>Also, I'm very different from the rest of my family. I am very interested in Japanese/Asian culture, and sometimes I feel I was born the wrong race(Black/White). My brothers make fun of my interest in Japan, and my mom/grandma seem to have a distaste for asian women.</p>
<p>I hope things get better soon, but if it doesn't I will need to resort to the alternative: Repeating 11th at a boarding school. My mom has repeatedly told me that she won't let me apply as a repeat, but I feel that we need some time a part. So my question is should I go ahead and apply to BS and maybe after I tell her she will changed her mind? Or should I hang on for the next two years?</p>
<p>Sorry for the rambling guys, I just don't know what to do :(</p>
<p>I’m not exactly sure what your options are as you have outlined them here. Sorry. However, I just wanted to note that the same attitude that keeps you from angering yourself over things they anger themselves over, can prevent you from unnecessarily making yourself depressed. Depression is no different from anger with the exception that anger is directed at others while depression is “self-downing”. </p>
<p>I suggest you take whatever route you are most comfortable with. I also suggest you look into my personal favorite book, by Albert Ellis, “How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Absolutely Anything, Yes, Anything”.</p>
<p>You cannot choose your family, but you can choose your emotional state. Good luck to you.</p>
<p>I’m confused. Are you currently at a boarding school? Why would you have to repeat 11th - are you failing? Or is the boarding school an option for you to separate from your family for a while, and if so, do they agree to the idea and have the funds? In any case, good luck.</p>
<p>If you’re going to be a senior this fall, you need to start applying for COLLEGES & find ones that will offer full RIDES to students with your credentials. That is only ONE year and sounds like something that might be more likely to happen than to hope to get accepted for two years of full aid boarding school. If your folks won’t cooperate & complete paperwork, you won’t get Financial Aid from most sources, so you need to figure out how to work with them & get them to cooperate. If your credentials are good enough for merit aid, cooperation from them is somewhat less crucial but might not be enough to meet ALL your financial need.</p>
<p>Bear in mind that many boarding school applications require parental signatures. You are assumed to be a minor and so they do want your parents to be involved in the process much more so than the college process. There is also this matter of payment; like who is going to pay for this. Not to mention that you are too late to apply for many boarding schools. The season is ended. You need tests scores, you need all sorts of things.</p>
<p>As Himom says, you need to be looking at colleges. The process is well underway for kids of your school year. Have you discussed this with your parents? Do you know what they are willing and able to pay in terms of college for you, and what colleges they will support?</p>
<p>I would focus on getting into college, not on boarding school. There’s really no benefit to you in repeating a grade at this point. Connect with the college counselor at your school (if you have one on hand) and work on finding a school that you think you would be happy with. If you have strong grades you may qualify for some excellent scholarships.</p>
<p>I would say focus on maintaining a level of excellence in your school work so that you can attend the college of your choice. Adversity is a part of life and I would suggest channeling the feelings being consumed by your relationship with your family into something constructive. Perhaps you could take on a volunteering project. I don’t think that your boarding school plan is the best option. It is pretty late for such a change. As you enter your senior year, your collegiate fate is sealed.</p>