Agree with using the current coaches and club coaches to help. Even the boys’ team coaches can help. They all know someone’s uncle/brother/college roommate who knows someone else. It is a very small group and everyone knows each other.
Getting recruited to a D3 school can get you accepted, but it doesn’t get you any extra merit money. the NCAA still makes schools prove they aren’t giving more money to athletes. Whatever she’d get from the Claremont colleges without lacrosse is what she’d get with lacrosse - lax might just tip the scales in favor of acceptance.
You don’t say what she wants to study.
My daughter sort of did the same thing and said she didn’t want to play in college, and then toward the end of junior year said she wanted to play, and wanted to play D1! Sorry, honey, that ship sailed without you. We started hunting and visiting schools. There were in fact a few D1 schools she was recruited to but they weren’t winning teams and academically weren’t great fits for her. She was also recruited to some D3 schools (again, great schools but not great teams). My daughter didn’t want to go to an LAC, and especially didn’t want to go to one in Ohio, Indiana, or Kentucky. We found the sweet spot at Div 2 schools, both with academics and sports. Daughter decided (also late to the game) that she wanted engineering, and after looking at a few schools that had 3+2 engineering that she wanted ‘full’ engineering for all 4 years. I happened to be reading about a new program starting at Florida Tech and that worked out great for her. Team struggled for 2 years and then got really good. The engineering was perfect for her. She got a merit scholarship and an athletic scholarship, and since it was in Florida (where we were living) she also got to use Bright Futures, a resident scholarship, and any other local scholarships she could get.
Was it the perfect school? No, she really wanted to go to school in California. Was it the top D1 lax school in Florida (at that time UF, #4 in the rankings)? No, she could never have been recruited or even made the team as a walk on. But, she started every single game for 4 years, played almost every minute of every game, and went to the NCAA tournament twice at the D2 school.
Lax is growing in the west. Your daughter may find a new program like mine did. They are willing to pay for good players (athletic merit if D1 or D2). Some of my daughter’s middle school teammates started college lax at a school in California but jumped to D1 ASU when ASU added the sport (in 2015 or 2016). Those girls would never have been recruited to D1 programs on the east coast but a new program? Good fit. She also had former teammates go to big D1 programs (one to BC) but those kids, who were top players in hs, never got off the bench in college (and their scholarships were tiny).
There are several D2 schools in the west with ‘up and coming’ lax programs. Regis U, Colorado Mesa, Western (in Utah). If your daughter is interested in engineering, the Colorado Mesa program is run by CU for jr/sr years and the diploma would say U of Colorado on it. It is also a WUE school so cheaper tuition for an Oregon resident for at least the first 2 years.
Lax in the west is very different from lax in New England and the mid-Atlantic states. It is almost impossible to be recruited unless you are a top top top player (best in the state) AND if you know someone to one of those NE/mid’A schools. Look at their rosters and you’ll see almost everyone comes from that area and ‘lax royalty’, having played since they were 5 years old. The best female college lax player for the last 2 years is from Texas, and she’s considered a unicorn. If your daughter didn’t play club and didn’t travel to tournaments on the east coast, the coaches won’t know her. Just went to an international tournament and the announcers were STILL talking about where the players played club lax when they were in 6th grade! Like I said, a very small community where everyone knows everyone else.
TL;DR?
It is not too late for some schools but it is for others. Make a list of the schools she’d like to go to without lax, then a list of the lax programs she thinks would be a fit and see if any schools are on both lists. If not, then she needs to decide if lax is important and where she’s willing to make the compromise. Location? Type of school (big school or LAC)? Team winning record or just happy to have playing time?
Some schools have club lax but that will cost YOU (and club doesn’t get you accepted to the school). My niece played club at USD and really enjoyed it for 3 years before she decided she wanted to be in student government. I will also say that lax made my daughter a much better student. She had to organize her time, get her assignments done in advance of weekend travel, get sleep (I knew where she was at 10 pm - in BED). She made lifelong friends. She just played in an international tournament and 3 of her old teammates traveled to the event to support her.
Good luck.