<p>I agree with Weenie. I say this as the mom of a 23-year-old son, a really bright guy who had been proudly and responsibly employed since age 16 (responsible for buying his clothes, entertainment expenses, etc.). However, after he dropped out of college, and had a 6-month job not extended, he moved in with my SIL who allowed him to stay in her very nice condominum for free while not working, something my H and I would not have allowed because we feel that unless adult offspring are in college fulltime, they need to be paying rent even if living at home. Unless they do that, they get a very unrealistic idea about how to manage their money.</p>
<p>Anyway, my son then decided that he didn't need steady work, but could devote himself to his punk rock "career," which earned him about $40 a week. It wasn't until SIL retired and moved away and S had to live on his meager earnings that he found a fulltime regular business job, one that he has now kept for close to a year. He is now proudly supporting himself again.</p>
<p>Anyway, yes, you need to pay for the loan since you co-signed, and out of concern for your D's health, you need to pay for health insurance (something that we did for S until he finally got coverage on his job).</p>
<p>However, you need to tell her that she needs to get fulltime employment -- even if that means working 2 parttime fast food jobs if that's all she can find -- before you finish packing her things.</p>
<p>You also need to tell her that she will need to repay you for anything that you paid on her loan. Spell out to her that she can not duck out of obligations. Her owing that money means that she may have to delay buying a house, a car, etc. so she can pay back her obligations.</p>
<p>I am writing also as a person who did take out loans to go to an Ivy, my dream school. I never missed a payment even though sometimes I was repaying that loan out of my unemployment check. I also did things like work temporary clerical jobs to help make my payments.</p>
<p>I feel very fortunate to have been able to go to the school of my dreams. The least that I could do was to pay back the loan as I had promised to do. I also have been very involved in alum affairs in order to give back even more to my alma mater.</p>
<p>And there was one really nice guy who had wanted to marry me. One reason that I said "no" was that he was living a comfortable lifestyle while defaulting on his student loans. I believe that those loans help students attain the education of their dreams, and it's imperative that those loan earners have the integrity to pay back those loans as they had promised when they signed on the line.</p>
<p>I agree that the D may also need counseling. However, she can get counseling while also holding at least a parttime job. There are plenty of depressed people who work. Indeed, I was one of them. The fact that the D made it through college also indicates to me that she has the ability to work a job. If the D refuses counseling, the parents need to go to figure out how best to cope with the situation. They seem to have been enabling the D in not being responsible.</p>