my grandmother + my mom = a BIG problem

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<p>(ok this is going to be a long post, but read it all if you will, it's not that boring lol, at least i dont think soo..)</p>

<p>so recently my grandmother came to visit from Korea (she comes every summer, so it's like a routine thing) and it's fun to have her around. she cooks better than my mom (..>__>..) and is more enthusiastic about the culinary arts than my own mother, so we enjoy what she has to offer on the dinner table.</p>

<p>my grandmother also brings a sense of family-hood in the household, which is a good thing considering the children in the household (my two older brothers and me) are always busy doing our own things.</p>

<p>so all in all, it seems like the family picture seems good, right? not.......</p>

<p>my grandmother also is the type (and now i know this is where my mother gets her traits from) to impose herself and her views on others, especially family. here are certain examples that happened just in the past TWO days:</p>

<p>-i came in the living room one day wearing a summer-like skirt, and my grandmother hit me on the thigh with her cane, angrily saying that girls these days had no shame...jeez hal mo ni (grandmother in korean lol). as a result she tried to convince my mom to change my whole wardrobe to more "proper" clothes</p>

<p>-my grandmother disapproves of me being up at night doing my own thing, being suspicious that i talk provocatively to random guys i dont know. she brings up the story over and over of how she heard of a pedophilia case in Korea before...</p>

<p>grandmother: what are you doing up so late?
me: oh nothing, just online..
grandmother: i hope you aren't wasting your time on buddy-to-buddy (its the korean version of AIM and she can't seem to realize that people dont use it here lol)
me: im not...
grandmother: good because you don't know what type of guys are out there</p>

<p>-i was on the phone with my friend and i caught my grandmother eavesdropping out of my room door (i find this quite funny now that i think about it lol)</p>

<p>OH and LASTLY:</p>

<p>-my grandmother told my mother that she knows of a "suitable guy" i should "begin seeing" in my youth and possibly "dating with parental supervision". UMM....??????????????</p>

<p>and my mom is having a party and is inviting that guy's FAMILY over this weekend. my mom also seems to be agreeing with my grandmother on a lot of what she's saying why? because she's her daughter!</p>

<p>she's so old fashioned, and it's clashing with my modernity lol</p>

<p>oh what do i ever do?? -___-!!!!</p>

<p>oh by the way, the guy my grandmother mentioned goes to my school, and i already told him the whole deal (i shouldn't have? oh well lol...) so we're just going to keep it cool as friends and <em>nothing</em> more (thank God)</p>

<p>talk about imposing traditionalism in America....lol</p>

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<p>Ignorance is bliss. Take it to heart.</p>

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-i came in the living room one day wearing a summer-like skirt, and my grandmother hit me on the thigh with her cane, angrily saying that girls these days had no shame...jeez hal mo ni (grandmother in korean lol). as a result she tried to convince my mom to change my whole wardrobe to more "proper" clothes

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This part made me lol for some reason</p>

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<p>Ahahaha. When I visited my grandparents in China, they didn't say anything to me. However, they called my parents behind my back to express disapproval. >.<</p>

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<p>Wow, all I can say is that you seriously need to lay off these skimpy "summer-like" clothes and put on REAL clothes. Have some modesty, please. Your g-ma sounds like an extremely intelligent and considerate woman who is so NOT out of line. Respect the elderly!</p>

<p>/lol</p>

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<p>Hmm... I have the opposite that goes on in my household. My older sisters, who all live with me, are against the whole american - romance thing. My parents want them to find suitable mates, or whatever. Don't worry, your grandmother only cares for you.</p>

<p>And I would wouldn't really make out traditionalism in america to be some paradoxical juxtaposition. It pretty common, in most conservative households, regardless of race. Maybe she sees that a result of male-female contact is something bad.</p>

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<p>My grandfather imposed his views of Communism and anti-Japanese racism on me when I was 6. I had those views until I matured in 10th grade.</p>

<p>During that period, I've been a Communist, Way left Liberal/Fascist, Militant, Revolutionary, and Anarchist.</p>

<p>So I decided to settle for the moderate view on the spectrum. The one thing that I have retained is love for firearms and the Second Amendment. Go figure.</p>

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<p>Haha, I'm always tempted to demonstrate the full extent of what I'm capable of whenever someone disapproves of my conduct.</p>

<p>Or at least to pretend to be fully capable of it (hyperbole is my friend).</p>

<p>Like over the tee-shirt thing, I (if I were a girl) would probably be sure to be seen waltzing around the house either a)nude or b)in a revealing piece of swimwear (take that no sense of shame!) or going out in the skimpiest outfit possible.</p>

<p>If ever accused of, say, doing something naughty, I tend to spin a yarn so perverted that the perp who dared comment is stunned in disbelief (although I make it clear, usually, that it's a fabrication).</p>

<p>Not sure how it would work on your grandma though...</p>

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<p>Grandma might have a heart attack if asian sensation took moodrets' advice.
: o</p>

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<p>Seems to me that your grandma is enforcing you to be the conventional, traditional type of female. </p>

<p>For some reason, I despise eavesdroppers....</p>

<p>Later Tiffiny. wink</p>

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<p>I'm sure your grandmother picked a very nice guy for you.</p>

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<p>One day, you'll become your grandmother.</p>

<p>We all become more conservative as we age.</p>

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<p>Obviously your grandmother cares for you, and walking out of the house in a miniskirt and sleezy tank is a bad idea. For a summer skirt, however, I would just let her give you grief and then wear it anyway. If the love-life thing gets way out of hand, just sit her down and tell her that while you respect her opinion, you also have the ability to choose your own "suitor" (lol)</p>

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<p>"One day, you'll become your grandmother.</p>

<p>We all become more conservative as we age."</p>

<p>That's the conventional wisdom, but research is indicating it's not necessarily true.</p>

<p>"From The Mature Market.com</p>

<p>The baby boom generation has always defied categorization, refusing to conform to the values and traditions of their elders.</p>

<p>And that's proving no less true in their politics.
One might think that as they age, boomers as a group would drift to the right in their political values, as prior generations have tended to do.</p>

<p>But in reality, as a new study reveals, boomers remain independent thinkers, uncommitted to any one set of political values or beliefs, even as the nation as a whole increasingly divides along harsh ideological lines.
Indeed, boomers' values remain highly variable and nearly impossible to label, according to a study by RoperASW for the AARP.</p>

<p>Boomers are far more likely than their predecessors to fragment along issue rather than party lines.
"When it comes to politics, boomers are very issue-sensitive," says Jeffrey Love, research director of AARP.</p>

<p>"The generations before them tended to be party-loyal and follow their parents' lead. But boomers want to see issues played out on their own terms, regardless of which party believes what."
The survey was conducted from a pool of 1,804 Americans belonging to the Baby Boom generation (ages 40-57), the Silent Generation (58-69) and the GI Generation (70 and older).</p>

<p>It found that boomers tend to share a mix of political views simultaneously, being liberal on some issues while conservative on others."</p>

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<p>I never knew that [some] Korean's were so strict, until glimore girls. It's actually kind of cute, maybe because my family doesn't have any traditional values.</p>

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<p>sounds like my dad..no, sounds exactly like my dad..i just can't wait to leave for college in one year!</p>