<p>I know Mallory she was my suiete mate. I actually have heard of Ardsly. giraffe we sound very alike lol. Seasonsofluv ya i feel like that also sometimes.</p>
<p>i know her too....(not from sdm!) small world we theater people live, huh? (and i've heard of ardsley being that it's like 4 minutes from me and my bff goes to school there lol!)</p>
<p>I have been following this discussion with some interest. I realize that it is important that this forum is a safe place to vent and I'm glad that both students and adults feel safe using CC to express their insecurities, their anger and their fears as well as their joys, their pride and their knowledge. So I hope that what I want to say to you students, primarily as a regular Mom and only secondarily as a Mom of an MT, is not perceived as an attempt to limit the topics of discussion. </p>
<p>My concern upon reading your conversation about your various experiences with casting is that you are focusing on things that are negative and that you cannot control. As difficult as these experiences may be, you must learn to recognize them for what they are, be done with them and move on. Yes, I think that it is healthy to vent. It's a way to offload the negativity of the experience. But if you continue to let these situations frustrate you and if you fixate on the people involved as a cause for your not getting what it is that you want, you will be taking energy away from the work you need to do. You cannot control the behavior of others. It is a waste of your time to complain about favortism because it will ALWAYS exist, no matter what the endeavor. The best thing you can do is use every audition as a learning experience. Try to honestly assess your performance in the audition and whenever possible, solicit the feedback of those who observed your work. Take what you learn from each audition and incorporate the feedback into your continuing work. Focus on the positive, focus on what you have to offer and allow it to inspire you each and every time you courageously put yourself out there to be judged by others. For make no mistake about it, the life of a performer requires constant courage: to keep working on your craft in the face of disappointment, to keep auditioning and to make difficult choices, both within and about your work.</p>
<p>Negativity is a weight that will inhibit your creativity and slow you down on the path to success in the life to which you aspire. Don't associate yourself with negative people and make every attempt to remove negativity from your life and your work. You'll be amazed at the difference it will make. </p>
<p>Best of luck to you all!!!</p>
<p>Mallory!! You were at SDM right? My D. was the blond in the room next to you (320)-sorry dont want to name her online. She just cut her pop demo which is online ..(email me if you want the link)
If you are the gal I think you are I saw you in Let the Good Times Roll and your energy, enthusiasm and dance are awesome! </p>
<p>Defying, as far as getting picked for shows and stuff..it is tough but High School and such can be really political and show favoritism. And thats just how it is.</p>
<p>In the business you will have lots and lots of ups and downs and you just have to accept that or you will have a tough time.</p>
<p>Someone said to me once that they do their best but go in with no expectations and if something good happens..GREAT! and if not they let it roll off..its really hard but you have to get that mindset!</p>
<p>haha I'm not mallory, sorry I keep confusing everyone. She was on Let the Good Times Rolld though and has lots of energy and enthusiasm!</p>
<p>I use rejection as a tool to help me, I'm use to it. It upsets e at first but I get over it. I'm using the time I won't be spending in rehearsal as an opportunity to take more dance classes a week and I want to looke into theory classes.</p>
<p>I really like this thread! As I said on my last post under the "You are All Special" thread, I have community theatre auditions this weekend and next (I'm only a freshman in highschool so I'm not worrying about college too much, but I love to read these forums so I'll be as prepared as possible when it comes my time to audition!) and although no one has posted on this thread for a while, I'd like to thank all those that have! Last summer was the first time I tried out for any type of larger theatre production, and although I got a few callbacks I wasn't cast in anything. So this year when I started looking for material I started stressing more and more and worrying about "how much better everyone else was" than me. And then I realized (after reading many of the posts on CC) and talking with some people that the attitude I had was going to get me NOWHERE. So although I might forget to follow my own advice and the advice of the people on CC, like babygiraffe, I have to use rejection or discouragment to help me, not hinder me! Thanks!</p>
<p>I can understand your frustration, Defying. But I have to say that if you plan on majoring in theatre, you are going to have to give your attitude a COMPLETE reconstruction. From this post, not only do you come off as being conceited, but you also come as as being very immature and unfamiliar with how theatre works. I'm not saying you ARE all of those things... but if you keep this mentality, people are going to view you this way and most likely will not want to work with you again. How do you think it will be in college? Are you going to openly criticize the other auditioners? I know being a young performer who just auditioned for many programs, I wouldn't want to be around someone who claims that they know how much better they are for a part than someone else. Also, its not always about being able to sing better than the next girl... it has to do with what the director is looking for. If you're not what the directors looking for, then you need to accept that and just take whatever part you get. Also, don't let you're friends and families opinion of your nice singing voice give you a big head. If you are one of the only singers in the family, of course they're going to root for you. But there are plenty of other girls out there just like you. I've been where you are, believe it. And sometimes it's a blow to our self esteem... but everyone needs to eat a big old slice of humble pie from time to time.</p>