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Um, what? So your mom said, “I’m not sending you to a distant college unless you add me on Facebook.”? </p>
<p>I think this is a bigger problem than it seems. Your mom needs to realize that you’re an adult, and even if she is paying for (or contributing to) your college, you still have personal privacy rights, decisions, and choices that you can and should be able to make on your own.</p>
<p>Okay, first thing, she’s your mom. Unfriending her would just be rude. You need to call her and have a serious conversation about this. Tell her (calmly) that you feel like she’s being invasive and controlling and that you need this chance to have a life of your own. It’s important for you to have a relationship with your mom, and Facebook is a great way to do that, but she needs to be reminded that this is borderline stalking and that you are your own person. It sounds to me like she’s having a really, really hard time letting go of you. If you unfriend her, how much worse would that make her feel? I believe a phone call is in order.</p>
<p>It seems as if your mom still hasn’t accepted the fact that you’ve grown up now and entered the phase of life called college.</p>
<p>Maybe something went wrong during your mom’s transition of having you at home to having you far away; maybe she skipped the transition altogether.</p>
<p>Nonetheless, you need to speak up and take command of your life. How old are you? 18? 19? If you were still a baby then this would make some sense (if prepubescent teenagers use facebook nowadays) but you’re not. Yet if you do nothing, there’s no indication of her stopping her activity anytime in the near future. Or you can always wait until you’re twenty-five and ask your mother for permission to live on your own in an apartment or whatnot.</p>
<p>Most of the other facebook advice is only a temporary solution, an evanescent escape to a minor conflict of a greater war: the struggle for independence between your maturing self and your overcaring mother.</p>
<p>I comented before, but i wanted to add something. I am friends with some of my mom’s friends on fb and my aunts and uncles too. Its kind of cool to have older people as your freinds. None of my friends make fun of me when my mom posts stuff on my wall. So here’s my idea for you. What you should do is make your mom change her name on fb so when she posts it will look like one of your friends. Maybe ill ask some of my friends what they would do cause they use fb more than me. And i would be really mad at my friends if they posted bad pics of me. That’s asking for trouble and i think if one of my friends posted bad pics of me on their page or mine, i would yell at them and if it was bad enough, i might even remove them from my friend list.</p>
<p>^I don’t know about you, but my mom would be extremely offended and hurt if I asked her to pretend to be someone else.</p>
<p>^Well, it was a suggestion from Kollegekid after all, and it’s either a ■■■■■ or someone too young to even be on facebook, let alone a forum about college. </p>
<p>Seriously OP, do something. I have to second hermaphrodite. Personally, I’d probably say something directly to my mother. Be blunt. No need to be mean, but do something.</p>
<p>I facebook stalk my kids… But I wouldn’t dare comment on anything they have. I sometimes post something to their wall but rarely…If I did they would for sure delete me and I know it!! I could see my oldest daughter calling me out on her status telling me to back off. I could even see her posting crazy wild things just to mess with me.</p>
<p>Ok- another mom prospective here. I am friends with my son on FB. So are many of my friends, and I am friends with his friends. The rule I made to myself is this: I would not request a friendship with any teenagers. But his friends friended me, and I accepted. Not all his friends, but some of the ones I have known for a while. </p>
<p>Here is what I would do if I were you. Call your mom and say "When you make negative comments about my fb posts it makes me feel (and then insert how it makes you feel.) The only time I told my S about something on FB was when he friended a Dean at his school. I told him he ought to unfriend him, because there will ultimately be someone who posts party pictures with stupid behaviour, and even if my S isnt in the picture, it will reflect badly on him. </p>
<p>But also, and here is the mom advice, only you know if her comments make sense. But it sounds like they dont, so tell her how you feel.</p>
<p>from a fb stalker pro: she made a fake account and added u or she has friends whos added u</p>
<p>I am quite conservative. I don’t know why mom and dads are on facebook these days.
Sorry I am just way too conservative.</p>
<p>My mom and her friends play farmville. I think its korny, even though i never played it, but if my mom plays it it cant be cool. That’s why parents like it so much. I know.</p>
<p>She’ll be on TV soon…</p>
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<p>Delete your facebook. It’s probably a huge distraction from studying/homework anyway. When your mom asks, just tell her you deleted it because you don’t like having a facebook anymore.</p>
<p>OK so first of all, just bc moms and dads are on fb doesn’t mean it’s all about stalking their kids. And there isn’t any reason you can’t be friends with your parents except you have to be willing to speak up maturely when boundaries are crossed. Deleting your fb account or defriending them, hiding your status, etc. These are all just ways to avoid the conversations that you need to have.</p>
<p>Your mom should not feel the need to comment on every status update. It IS hard to be so involved in your kid’s life, one of the most important things to most parents, and then to be practically cut out of it when they leave for college. But that is life. Yet it’s not like a parent’s love and desire to be involved in your life just disappears because you went away to school so cut her some slack. Maybe you need to set up a weekly phone call to fill her in on all the exciting things you are doing and then the fb comments will stop. Maybe you also need to tell her that while you think that what she has to say is important, you feel smothered by all the comments and you would like her to be more careful with the number and content of her posts to you. And don’t forget to tell her how much more important developing a real relationship with her is to you as opposed to an online one. See what happens after such a conversation. Then, if the excessive comments continue just delete them. She will either get the hint and act more appropriately or she will talk to you about it and you can reiterate your feelings on the matter, maturely, of course.</p>
<p>It IS possible for parents and their kids to have a fun online relationship as long as they both respect each other’s privacy and feelings. My S deleted one of my comments once and I wasn’t offended. I asked him to consider deleting one of his comments once and he wasn’t offended either and actually agreed with me and deleted the comment. Because neither of us ever goes overboard, it’s not a problem. Of course, some people are just too stupid to have a fb and are just plain clueless re public posting etiquette. Hopefully your mom isn’t in THAT category. 
Good luck!</p>
<p>^Listen to this person. She knows what she is talking about.</p>
<p>Second point - deleting your Facebook is not necessary. Millions of students with Facebooks have graduated from college and done just fine for themselves. You don’t need to study 24/7 to be successful. That’s just totally ridiculous.</p>
<p>Yeah, I have to agree with the majority of other people and suggest you call her out on her behavior. Tell her that you’d appreciate for her to treat you like the adult you are.</p>
<p>Well, OP, now you have a variety of options stemming from the plethora of posts here.</p>
<p>So, the question becomes: what are you going to do now?</p>
<p>i’m friends with my parents on facebook… and guess what? no problem here…</p>
<p>I kind of changed my mind. I think you should be friends with your mom on fb, but tell your freinds not to put any photos of you doing bad stuff on you page.</p>