<p>Jk, but seriously, he can sleep whenever he wants, if he wanted to sleep at 7 PM you’re not really in any place to tell him that he can’t.</p>
<p>If the roomate is so tired, she can learn to sleep with some of the lights on, too (at least for a little while). I think there is room for compromise on both sides. Perhaps lights out at 11 rather than 10:30. Until then, roomate is entitled to be in bed and close their eyes. After that a clip on light or the roomate can move somewhere else.</p>
<p>Maybe people here are not quite understanding. I went out of my way to make sure my roommates sides is very dim. There’s even a huge desk between our sides. So my roommate side is very dim, you can’t even see letters on a page.</p>
<p>My issue is that when its before bedtime. I’m trying to do my work, that’s when my roommate decides to scream on the phone, sing in a high pitched voice to annoying songs, and bang on the desk. Then when finished tells me to turn of the light when I’m obviously trying to get work done. This happens even on the weekend. Then when I want to sleep on a Saturday, at 8am I have to wake up to annoying bangs on the desk, and high pitched screaming on the phone. </p>
<p>I had my old roommate to comeover and experience this, and its not me going nuts. I have a room to live in, why can’t I be in it? I tried the library thing, but I hate walking back to my dorm in the dead of winter past 1am alone. Especially on an open campus. </p>
<p>Now does anyone understand the situtation? Should I record this?</p>
<p>You could have originally stated that in your orignal post, ya know…</p>
<p>Do you have a roommate agreement contract? If not go to the RA, and tell them what is going on.</p>
<p>Also, you may just have to adjust to studying at different times, it sucks but what can you do? :/</p>
<p>You need to just be frank with this girl. People nap all the time in the day so a little light is not going to kill her. She’s not a vampire.</p>
<p>Just be like: “Look, I’m not trying to be inconsiderate, I need to study and this room is mine too. If the light bothers you so much, cover your head with the blankets or look the opposite way. OR if you really don’t like it stop being so loud when I’m trying to study and maybe I’ll actually get my work finished before your bedtime.”</p>
<p>If all else fails, change roommates or talk to the RA.</p>
<p>Get yourself some earphones and a very small reading light.</p>
<p>My freshman year, I had a roommate who went to bed at 9pm, while I went to bed at 4am. He’d use a sleepmask while I’d use a small light and turn on the fan to drown out any accidental noise.</p>
<p>It actually pretty well and my roommate didn’t know my bedtime and I didn’t know his awakening time until we asked each other.</p>
<p>Why are people ragging on the OP? There is absolutely no reason his roommate should get to say when he should turn his desk light off. That’s ridiculous. Some of you are saying the OP is acting “entitled.” How can he be acting entitled yet the roommate telling him to turn off his light isn’t being entitled too? Geez, it’s a desk light…no, 11pm isn’t early but at the same time countless people stay up MUCH later than that. It’s not like he’s got the ceiling light on. It’s his desk, he should get to keep that light on for as long as he wants to work. Just as the roommate should be able to go to bed whenever. If the guy seriously can’t sleep with the desk light on, then he should get an eye cover or something. You shouldn’t have to stop working in your own room just because your roommate has decided its bedtime.</p>
<p>well try rearranging your room so that you can keep your desk lamp on so that it doesn’t disturb your sleeping roommate. and let him/her know that it’s your room too and that you need to have your desk lamp on to study.</p>
<p>Try working in a lounge.</p>
<p>My roommate goes to bed early too, like by 10 every night usually, and I don’t go to sleep til anywhere between 1-4 am…but she sleeps though anything so I make whatever noise I please and we’re fine!</p>
<p>I’m so very shocked at many of the responses.</p>
<p>OP, it is very much your room just as it hers. You both will need to find compromises and it sounds like that is just what you are already attempting to do by moving things around. However, you really should address the other issues you have as well with her. It’s not good to let things like that fester and have a chance to become a bigger problem. Perhaps she might be harboring some other issues as well against you that has made simply turning the light off earlier than you would like to be such a big deal. Open communication is a good and necessary thing to have.</p>
<p>There are several studies that have been done regarding sleep patterns and study habits. We all have better hours of the day in which we function and even when we fall asleep. I’m definitely like you and in that “I do my best thinking late at night.” While there can be ways to adjust such a schedule, it’s not always ideal. My point? Ignore those who are ripping into you with the assumption you want your roommate to adjust entirely to your schedule and telling you to instead adjust to hers/change your own schedule. I found it pretty clear you were trying to find a real compromise, but that you have become increasingly frustrated by this situation which seems to be what some people are focusing on. I can only speculate, but it seems to me that much of that likely stems from other unresolved issues (such as cleanliness and morning noise).</p>
<p>The best suggestion you have been given by another person is to talk to your roommate and have you both find a middle ground you can agree on. If you have a roommate contract and anything is being violated, bring that up as well. And, if that does not work, bring your RA into the discussion. Good luck and I hope you and your roommate are able to come to an agreement about your shared living space.</p>
<p>Your room mate is being entirely reasonable for the sleep schedule. (S)he is obviously very light sensitive, and that shouldn’t be her problem. Residence is a place to study and sleep, and since she is choosing a VERY reasonable time to go to bed, you’re going to have to respect that. Now, she should be allowing you to have the light on for a few extra minutes to finish something up, but otherwise, tough luck for you.
You’re making all these complaints about your roommate not respecting you, and that you’re oh so lenient because you let her do her annoying crap, so she should let you. Well it’s not your fault that you’re not complaining. So do NOT try to pin it on her that she should suffer her sleep schedule because you choose not to complain about her loud noise during the day.
Go to her, respectfully, and explain that you’re trying to study, and that you need her to shorten her phone calls. Explain that it’s your room as well, and you’re there to study, not socialize. Since she has an early bed time, you need the time she is normally on the phone to work. Explain that the compromise is that she shortens the phone calls, or you keep the light on until 12 pm or 1 am. Giving her the choice will make you both happier, since you’re providing the possible fixes, and she can choose which works best. If she still continues to be loud on the phone and complains about the light, then you need to bring in an RA, because no, that isn’t fair for you.
Now, if you’re just going with “I’m a night learner” and are simply not able to work until 11pm, when she sleeps, you’re going to have to find a new place to study. The room is for sleeping and studying, but she can’t sleep anywhere else. You can study elsewhere, whether you like it or not. Find a good spot at the library, or a quiet lounge (I imagine you have a few open areas for activity, not just one single lounge). Ask another night owl friend if you can study in their room. You’ll find other areas that work for you, because there’s always other options, and you’ve obviously found other places when you were in high school.</p>
<p>to be fair, the man should be allowed to at least use his desk light. esp if it is set upwhere it is not really bothering him.</p>
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<p>But it is ENTIRELY reasonable that any person should be allowed to use their desk light to do work after 10pm. Dorming is about compromise. The roommate can get an eye cover thing if the little desk light is seriously too much to allow them to fall asleep. You can’t tell your roommate what time they have to get their homework/studying done by. You’re not their mother. “Tough luck for you.” - Are you kidding me? No. It’s a desk light, it’s not like they’re like “oh I need the whole room lit up.” And once again, eye cover if it’s really an issue. Just as some people like to go to sleep earlier than others, some people like working in their room, with all their books/printer/papers/pens/chargers/younameit in one place and easy to reach.</p>
<p>Wow the responses here really make the OP look like he’s at fault completely. The roommate has got to be a little more tolerant. In my dorm, there’s one room that smells like weed on weekends but the roommate puts up with it. There’s another room in which a dude gets sexiled almost every weekend once but puts up with it and stays in another room (the two get along quite well in fact). </p>
<p>And yeah 10 PM or 11 is quite early. Literally no one in my dorm sleeps before 12 (it’s college…) even if they have lifting at 5 AM. If you’re sleeping that early, you gotta learn to tolerate your roommate- it’s not your room only.</p>
<p>In my room, we both go to bed whenever we want. I have a large TV and often times he’ll be sleeping and I’ll be watching TV at low volume. Some weekends I’ll even get up early and play video games while he is still sleeping. He on the other hand plays loud music from time to time and I don’t mind at all. I’ll admit I’m much noisier than he is but the fact is we tolerate one another. A desk lamp is such a small thing to get annoyed about when you compare it with a TV. Your roommate sucks lol.</p>
<p>Mizzxvii got it.</p>
<p>I’m the one who goes to sleep early and my roommate stays up (but I go to bed around 1AM and yes, she is still up at that time haha).</p>
<p>What she does sometimes is turn off the lights (because she’s kind) and has her lights shining specifically towards her bed, so it is nice and bright on her side of the room and dim on mine. It is dim enough for me to comfortably fall asleep.</p>
<p>Perhaps you should invest in a better lamp or organize your room so you can shine your light on your side only. Our room is organized so our beds are across the room from each other.</p>
<p>The alternative is to find another place to study/do your work. When my roommate is in our room and she’s blasting her music while I try to work, I just go to the lounge for less distractions, but there will still be maybe the TV on or some little noises.</p>
<p>Edit: Just read the responses. LOL your roommate sounds annoying. Tbh, if it’s that much of an annoyance, you should check with your housing policy and see if you could get a single room for it. I know some people on my floor had a HUGE conflict. The girl would always be on her phone loudly, so they compromised and made some “rules” about stuff, one of them broke the rules, the other complained, blah blah. One of them now has a single! Not sure what happened to the other person, honestly.</p>
<p>So your roommate does annoying things? Confront him about it instead of whining to a message board. I have had bad roommates but I highly doubt he is screaming in the phone at 8AM EVERY saturday. Sounds like a one or two time thing that you are blowing out of proportion.</p>
<p>Even if its true, just because your roommate is a jerk doesn’t mean you should be. Be a grown up (which is apparently hard for someone like you) and respect that he wants to go to bed before midnight. </p>
<p>You can’t study in the library because its too quiet? Seriously? Bring headphones, wow problem solved!</p>
<p>So either study in the library like everyone else or stop being such a drama queen and talk to your roommate about it</p>
<p>Dude, a normal waking time as an adult, who you now are, is 6:00 a.m. Subtract a healthy 8-hour night of sleep from that and you have a bedtime of 10:00 p.m. No person in the real world gets all pouty because he/she cannot “focus” until after 10:00 p.m. Really? Sounds like you’re still stuck in high school. Grow up and leave your responsible roommate alone. He/she probably hates the **** out of you and is just too polite or mature to tell you about it.</p>
<p>I got to sleep early (around 11 pm) and my roommate can stay up until 2 am.
When shes working, she tries to be in a place where her light wont reach me, and, as our beds are bunked, i hang a blanket over the side of my bed and use my scarf as a sleeping mask.
She tries to stay quiet.
I deal with the bit of light that comes through.
We work together. </p>
<p>(but seriously, TALK TO YOUR ROOMMATE - do they know theyre being annoying?)</p>
<p>I can only read in the mornings 5:00-9:00am so I can understand your frustration not being able to read at certain hours. For me if I try to read at any other time of the day even the slightest little noise will ruin my concentration and frustrate me to no-end! </p>
<p>Perhaps you should try waking up at 5:00am and reading instead; then you’ll be nice and tired by 10:30-11pm and both you and your roommate can call it a night.</p>