my roommate sucks.

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<p>I am a junior living in an off campus apartment and have issues with one of my roommates. In my honest opinion he is a lazy spoiled brat who has always had mommy do everything for him and is now hoping the rest of us who live in the apartment will continue to do everything for him. </p>

<p>He doesn't like to do any sort of cleaning, so he will use a bunch of dishes and just leave them around the apartment. He won't even put them in the sink most of the time, and when he does they will just sit there for days and days until someone else washes them for him. </p>

<p>He made up a chore chart and assigned chores for everyone, but he specifically gave himself the easiest chores, and even said he didn't want to clean the bathroom because he thinks its gross. </p>

<p>He also has not contributed a single dish to our collection, because he does not like to spend money, and yet he feels he has the right to criticize the dishes I buy for the apartment for everyone to use. He tells me that some of the stuff I buy is ****. I don't have a ton of money to spend on dishes, so I just buy whatever I can. </p>

<p>He will also just take a lot of the stuff I buy for the apartment and just use them for his personal projects. He built a boat over the summer in our apartment, in our roommate's room. This other roommate wasn't going to be around for the summer, but left some stuff in his room. This kid built a boat in his room, which involved cutting and sanding a lot of wood, and then painted the boat in his room. He got paint all over the floor, used all the rubber gloves I bought for cleaning the bathroom, and ruined the bucket I bought for the mop. He then poured the rest of the paint down the shower and wouldn't clean the shower.</p>

<p>I do not understand why for someone who does not like to spend money he feels the need to waste it on things like electricity and heat. It is only October and he has already turned the heat on in the apartment. It reached 65 degrees outside today and yet he turned the heat on to 70. He is usually the last one to go to bed and will just leave the lights on all night in the living room, kitchen, and bathroom. His argument is that the lights barely use any energy so he shouldn't have to turn them off. I don't know if he knows this, but it doesn't matter, the electric company is not going to magically give us free energy, they still charge us when the lights get left on all night. </p>

<p>The final thing he does that is annoying is that when he wants something done he will say "we" need to do it, but what he really means is that he wants me to do it for him. Today he told me that "we" need to call the landlord because he and my other roommate smashed a window in the kitchen. I had nothing to do with this, and wasn't going to get involved in the who or how of the window getting fixed, yet he kept asking me when I was going to call the landlord to get it taken care of. He doesn't like to talk to the landlord because he feels like he is bothering the landlord and that the landlord will think he is annoying.</p>

<p>This kid is one of those people who is fine to hangout with every once in a while, but not someone who I want to live with. Living with him has honestly made me not want to be his friend anymore after this.</p>

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<p>Sounds like nobody really talked to him yet about it. I would still be friends with him, but get him to clean or make him pay, kind of like a fine.</p>

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<p>WOW! Im not in college yet but he sounds like Pain in the rear, but like kollegekid1 says, talk to him or give him an ultimatum. He sounds so annoying!!..</p>

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<p>Anyway to get him out? Do your other roommates think he’s annoying?</p>

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<p>Sounds like your roommake isn’t quite “ready” for college. Anything I would have to pick up of his would get thrown in his bed. No matter what it was, dirty dishes included. You are going to have to talk to him and let him know that his behavior is terrible. It’s awful that his parents didn’t teach him any better. Although I’m sure they are glad to be rid of him.</p>

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<p>You summed it up in your first sentence: “lazy, spoiled brat”. You will have to refrain from doing the things he wants you to do for him. “I’m sure you can handle that” type of phrases need to be repeated to him.</p>

<p>When he complains about your choice of dish purchase, be honest–“perhaps you can buy the type you prefer.” Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. Use a strong but neutral tone of voice and communicate your expectations. </p>

<p>As for his dirty dishes–this scenario is so common. If you don’t want to do his dishes, consider using your own supply of paper plates. (I had one college roommate who never did her dishes and would hide the dirty ones in the oven when her boyfriend came over.)</p>

<p>There is really no good solution except moving out, or getting rid of him. His selfishness and laziness are not going to disappear anytime soon. His parents failed to teach him respect for others and a work ethic.</p>

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<p>Today the most ridiculous thing happened. I asked this kid for his share of the rent, because I pay all the bills for the entire apartment and everyone just pays me back. He asked me to take him to an atm. We have one on campus, and multiple within walking distance. </p>

<p>We have talked to him about stuff before, but nothing has changed. One of my other roommates is just as bad as him, and they don’t get along when it comes to certain things. My other roommate will leave dishes next to the sink, he will occasionally wash them, and sometimes he will just put dirty dishes in the dish rack. Which drives the other kid crazy. </p>

<p>They are both well aware of what they are doing, because I have overheard them talking to each other about it. </p>

<p>Also, I took another look at the chore chart today. Some of the chores are absolutely ridiculous. There are things on there like putting a new garbage bag in the garbage can, after someone else has taken the garbage out. Another favorite is putting the garbage from the trashcan in the bathroom in a yellow bag for someone else to take out. ***? The city forces everyone to buy special yellow garbage bags in order to promote recycling.</p>

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<p>So I don’t know what is wrong with this kid, but I tried talking to him about something that he did that was annoying.</p>

<p>Basically, what happened was that I went grocery shopping and bought some brownie mix and a pan to bake them in. I left this on the kitchen counter for a while and he saw them. He just started being like “we should make brownies” and wouldn’t stop, even when I said no. So, I finally made them, and he ended up eating half of them. Then, once he was done, he was like don’t buy them with peanut butter chips in the mix next time, and don’t put so many eggs in them. I just followed the directions on the box. Once he said that I was just like you can buy your own brownie mix next time, make them yourself, and let me eat all of them. He just laughed… </p>

<p>There is clearly something wrong with this kid. </p>

<p>I don’t mind sharing stuff, but this was too much for me.</p>

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<p>Well, hopefully your lease is only a year and you don’t have to live with him next year?</p>

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<p>I know how you feel. I once had a roommate just like that, but a little worse. Any way you can get them evicted? If he ruined the carpet with paint, maybe you could do something with that?</p>

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<p>Have you ever had an honest face-to-face talk with him? If not, you better do it, because it’s important that you let him know that his behavior is absolutely unacceptable. Tell him that if the behavior doesn’t amend, you’re moving out.</p>

<p>If that’s done and the issues still persist, the next thing is to never give in. Your roommate needs incentive to actually do the dishes, etc. If you always give in and do it for him, why would he ever do it for himself? In fact, in the past, I was actually the one who almost never did the dishes, and it took a summer of living by myself (and some bits of cussing when dishes started toppling over the top of the sink) before I started doing them more often.</p>

<p>If you have stuff you don’t want your roommate touching, put them in a designated off-limits area. If even that doesn’t work, it’s time to get some locks.</p>

<p>Also, next time he asks you to call the landlord, you should simply answer with something among the lines of: no, that won’t happen, you better do it – I don’t like it either.</p>

<p>Finally, if the chore chart looks unreasonable, call him out on it.</p>