need advice for a shy girl

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<p>I'm not sure my post was posted, so that's why you might see a very similiar message like this. </p>

<p>My Question/Post:</p>

<p>I'm going to be a college freshman this year, and i'm very excited. and nervous/anxious, because i have trouble making new friends. I'm not repulsive/weird(personality and physically-wise), but i'm just shy...too shy! I'm worried i'm going to be so shy that i'm not going to make many friends, unless people come to ME and be friends. I need some advice, pointers, tips, or something to help me make friends!!! I'm going to all the right places and stuff-(clubs, library, etc.), but i want to be ready in other ways as well. I will appreciate ANY help!!</p>

<p>Thanks!</p>

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<p>don't worry, you're roomate will hopefully be a great friend and will introduce you to her friends. </p>

<p>the great thing is that your a girl, so if your not repulsive or anything guys will come up and talk to you!</p>

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<p>Just relax. If something is going on (even if some ppl are just going for a walk) and you are invited go. Or invite someone to go with you. Don't worry and think about it too much. At least that's what I'm going to do. I'm reserved as well.</p>

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<p>Become friends with Al Cohol.</p>

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<p>what hobofromdowntown said.</p>

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<p>what Senior89 said.</p>

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<p>I'm shy, too! And I'm worried about the EXACT same thing.</p>

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<p>Ok, no one has really given you a serious response, so I’m going to jump in.</p>

<p>I was in the same position last year. Like you, I’m VERY shy. I was terrified of leaving my small, close group of elementary and high school friends, and I feared I wouldn’t find anyone to fill that void. It did take me some time to find good friends.</p>

<p>Some people do become best friends with their roommate(s), but that doesn’t always happen. To be honest, the first few weeks of school really sucked for me. If you don’t instantly hit it off with your roommate or your neighbors, you’re going to be lonely for a while. Joining clubs or organizations definitely increases your chances of meeting potential friends, so you’re on the right track.</p>

<p>Everyone has to take huge lecture courses at one point, but try to enroll in at least one smallish class about a topic you’re really interested in. This can actually be a pretty good way to meet people. You’ll inevitably end up chatting with your classmates before and after class. If someone seems cool, invite him or her to study with you. I know this sounds extremely dorky, but it really works. If you end up getting along, you’ll progress from studying to just hanging out.</p>

<p>Also, most schools have tons of concerts, plays, and whatnot. If you don’t yet feel comfortable inviting a new friend to hang out in your room, invite him or her to come to a campus event with you. It eliminates a lot of potential awkwardness, and you have a guaranteed topic of conversation when the performance is over.</p>

<p>Keep in mind that almost everyone comes to college not knowing anyone previously, so they’re basically just as desperate as you are to make friends. 9 out of 10 people will respond with enthusiasm and interest if you show interest in them. Never turn down an opportunity to make conversation with someone; you’ll get better at talking to people the more you practice. For example, we have shared bathrooms, so I often started conversations with random girls from my dorm while we were getting ready for bed. </p>

<p>Just be patient. I guarantee there are people at college who will like you and want to be friends; it just may take a while for you to find one another. Good luck!</p>