<p>A portion of the article from the online edition at <a href="http://www.nytimes.com%5B/url%5D">http://www.nytimes.com</a></p>
<p>December 25, 2005
Admissions and the Cold Slap of Rejection
By BILL PENNINGTON
Kevin Friedenberg was certain he had played by all the rules of the college recruiting game. </p>
<p>A top high school lacrosse goalie from Needham, Mass., he had e-mailed coaches to promote himself and had attended showcase camps and tournaments. An A student who said he had College Board scores equivalent to 1,380 on the two-part SAT, Friedenberg narrowed his choices to three Division III institutions, including Haverford, a small, selective liberal arts college.</p>
<p>Friedenberg twice visited the Haverford campus outside Philadelphia, with astute questions for the lacrosse coach, Mike Murphy: Could he study a year abroad? How many advanced placement high school courses did he need to take? Did Haverford need a goalie? Would the coach support him in admissions?</p>
<p>Assured he was in the top half of the list of athletes Murphy would forward to admissions, Friedenberg completed Haverford's binding early-decision application in November. He spurned overtures from Swarthmore College and Connecticut College.</p>
<p>"I thought I had all my bases covered," Friedenberg said. "But what I got in the mail was a thin letter."</p>
<p>A thin letter, as opposed to an envelope thick with acceptance forms, is code for a rejection.</p>
<p>"I was completely shocked," said Friedenberg, whose application was not among the few deferred to Haverford's regular decision process in the spring. "I didn't know what to do. I have to get back in touch with all those coaches again, but they've probably already recruited their goalies and moved on without me.</p>
<p>Pretty scary stuff!</p>