<p>I had my Brown interview today at my interviewer’s husband’s dental office. She had only called me prior to the meeting to schedule the interview, and I don’t have any other form of contact. In this case, is it acceptable if I don’t send her a thank you card? Should I send it to the dental office?</p>
<p>I’m an alumni interviewer and have been for 25+ years. I think I’ve gotten one thank-you note in all that time. I’ve never expected a thank-you note and never thought badly of students who didn’t write one (which would be 99.9% of the ones I’ve interviewed). You can send one to the dentist’s office, but I wouldn’t stress over this.</p>
<p>You could call the denist’s office and ask. Those receptionists are usually very helpful.</p>
<p>Wow, Fire, I am pretty surprised that you only got one thank you note! Our GC strongly urge our students to send thank you notes to their interviewers. I know that when my daughter sent her interviewer a thank you note he was very happy, and told her so. She also thanked him again when she was accepted, and, again, he seemed to be pleased. It just seems to be common courtesy.</p>
<p>OP-- I would also suggest calling the receptionist. It sounds like you are a very nice person. Good for you! And, good luck to you!</p>
<p>Not only do I never receive thank-you notes (and I’ve interviewed students in different cities in three different states), I have not always been called when students are accepted. </p>
<p>I know other long-time interviewers who have never received thank-you notes, either.</p>
<p>For many years, I interviewed students in my home. Sometimes it would have been easy to figure out my mailing address, but in other cases it would have been difficult (street address different than mailing address). Now that I (and most other interviewers) meet students in public places, there is no reason to share my address. I just did a few phone interviews with students who live in a different state. It would never dawn on me to give them my address, and if they asked for it I’d think it was strange.</p>
<p>The students almost always thank me at the end of the interview. That is sufficient for me. My report would not be one iota different if I received a thank-you note. Of course, I’m not a big stickler for thank-you notes, so I might be an exception to the rule.</p>
<p>I’m likewise surprised (and a bit horrified) that fireandrain is not getting thank you notes. Of course, my entire family was raised that no gesture is accepted without thanks. These days, when all one might have is an e-mail, I’d be accepting of the “note” being via e-mail…but would PREFER that it be a physical note. There is something different/special about it. It’s a surprise in your mailbox, you get to see the person’s taste in the note, their handwriting, their expression. I think it says so much more. </p>
<p>So, for MY opinion (fwiw)…I might hand deliver it to the dentist’s office. That way, you could explain to the receptionist. “I wonder if you would mind giving this to Dr. ___. It’s actually for his wife, who was kind enough to offer me an interview here at this office, so this was my only way to reach her to thank her”. They’ll say “Of course, that’s very nice, I’ll make sure he gets it”. Then of course you’ve put HER name on the front. </p>
<p>If you DO actually mail it - I’d put it inside ANOTHER envelope, address THAT envelope to the dentist, and put a note inside “Dear Dr So-and-So: I hope it’s OK that I’m sending this thank you not to your wife c/o your office”…</p>
<p>Works for me.</p>