<p>Noncustodial Parent Waiver - University of Rochester</p>
<p>I sent them a letter from me and my mom. But they also want a third party letter. I haven't seen my Bio Dad since I was around 8, no phone calls or money (except for child support, which was very miniscule). I also sent them a form which closes the child support case.</p>
<p>I'm a transfer student so I'm not sure who to ask to write this. I know no lawyers, or have any deep relationships with members of a church. On another thread someone mentioned your doctor but I don't see how my Doctor is going to know anything about it. Guidance counselor in high school was not that great and I don't know how she's suppossed to know about it. How do I prove somebody isn't there?</p>
<p>There is my mom's friend, or my uncles, grandparents. I didn't go around introducing myself to people of various professions saying "Hey, can we develop a close personal relationship in which I tell you how I haven't seen Dad in awhile and he hasn't provided me with any money. At least until I can a letter from you for my noncustodial waiver for the CSS profile."</p>
<p>So...I don't know. Also, what are they suppossed to write exactly.</p>
<p>I’d think your mom’s friend, or one of your relatives–they are looking for someone to attest to what you & your mom are saying.</p>
<p>I’d have them say how long they have known you/your mom (unless it’s a relative, of course, who is writing); I would think telling about how well they know you would be good, ie, “I have known Sam’s mother, Shirley, as a co-worker and friend for over 16 years. Sam’s father has not been an active participant in Sam’s life. I have not seen Sam’s father for xx years; he did not attend Sam’s birthday celebrations, or send presents. Sam was for all intents and purposes abandoned by his father after the age of x.”</p>
<p>Demonstrating that they have witnessed your mother raising you without the involvement (or minimal involvement, or only court-ordered involvement…) of your father.</p>
<p>Or something like that.</p>
<p>I am just saying what I’d do, maybe someone else has a better idea?</p>
<p>What IUmom7 describes is precisely what my friend and her son did. They had a close friend of the mom write the letter. This was a person who had known the mom for a long time and known the son since he was young, and she witnessed that the mother was the only parent in the child’s life, and that there was no financial support from the father.</p>
<p>This kid did end up being granted a waiver, but it took an appeal after an initial denial. </p>
<p>It sounds like your mom’s friend might be the best person. I know some schools specifically do not want a relative, but if your school(s) will accept that, then your uncles or grandparents might also be a good choice.</p>
<p>Well, I don’t if my mom’s friend ever sent anything but I did get a letter from my doctor stating that he’s never seen him or has had any record of him. I was told that it was waived. I still have not received any admission or fin aid decision though :-/</p>
<p>Most high school college counselors have a standard form that basically says that the parent has not been in the kid’s high school life, to the knowledge of the school. This form is used if no transcripts, bills or anything is sent to a non custodial parent, that there is no mention of such a parent except in terms of being absentee.</p>
<p>However, if this parent is paying child support that is income for your financial statements, it is not going to be easy to declare him as a totally disinterested party even if he is doing so under court order. If his payments are part of your family income, he is part of your life is the way it usually is taken by those schools who want non custodial information. This is really just a warning on what could happen, because there are schools and circumstances where a waiver can be gotten nonetheless.</p>
<p>My friend’s daughter was hit that way. Dad only paid court ordered child support that was forcibly taken from his paycheck after many legal battles. But those amounts were received and had to be included in income for that year, and for those schools that required non custodial info on PROFILE, the fact that he refused to fill out he forms did not give her a waiver. It really was a non issue that he did not complete the forms because he earned enough money to knock his kids out of financial aid contention anyways if the schools had the information. So it was a lose, lose proposition. My friends kids both went to schools that used FAFSA only; one of the commuting to a local state school, the other borrowing money to go away to school.</p>