<p>A friend told me a great story. A kid she knew was accepted into 2 great schools and couldn’t decide which. He filled out acceptances to both and sat in front of the post office with 2 envelopes for over an hour until he finally threw one into the box. Is it true – I think so, but it’s a great story anyway!</p>
<p>One of my kids waited until the very last night to decide. For weeks beforehand, every hour seemed to indicate she would go in a different direction. DH and I were constantly saying, “I think it’s going to go this way or that way.” Finally, the last night, through a fluke connection, she had a long phone conversation with a student at one of the schools – an acquaintance of an acquaintance and when she got off the phone, she made the decision. Honestly, it was harrowing and she wasn’t sure she made the right decision until somewhere in her second semester. I am just grateful that the next kid had an easier time deciding.</p>
<p>S is undecided still, though he has winnowed the list to 3 (maybe 4). Any of them would be a fine choice and none will save us any money, so it makes it easier on us to wait. What makes it harder is that he is abroad, has been since August, and so the entire process - applications, essays, interviews, acceptances, and now decisions - has been conducted electronically via email, text and Skype. No revisit days, no late night heart-to-hearts. We expect a Skype or email on the 30th telling us which school gets the deposit and which the “going another direction” letter.</p>
<p>blossom - very funny!
Today, college B came in with a financial aid offer that puts it back on the table. Now, after a weekend in which my car broke down while taking her to see college A, she’s considering college B.
Xanax anyone?</p>
<p>I’m glad we are not alone. </p>
<p>Son finally sat down at the computer & researched all the schools on his acceptance list. (“Hey mom, what do you think of this one?”)</p>
<p>And, is having second thoughts about former first choice.</p>
<p>My daughter was undecided till the last minute; she had it narrowed down to 2, she made the “pro” and “con” list, she talked it over (a little) with us, and she talked it over (a lot) with her 2 closest friends, and then came out with a decision with about 2 days until the deposit was due! She surprised us with her decsiion, as we thought she was leaning towards school number 2. She is now a junior at school number 1, loves it, and it is clear in retrospect that it was the school for her. But it wasn’t clear cut decision at the time!</p>
<p>Crzymom–that must have been my DD1! She had both envelopes ready to go, and waivered minute by minute as the clock ticked off the seconds until post office closing. (I gave her my departure time for said P.O., would not allow her to come as I envisioned the scenario described above- remorse after the drop into the box!</p>
<p>We did not provide the Fedex option as I couldn’t see extending the agony until midnight!</p>
<p>She went with the school which had made her scream and jump a month earlier at the sight of it’s fat envelope in the mailbox. She had not even smiled at the second choice when it arrived , so I don’t know why she was so torn.</p>
<p>My S asked me if he has to decide BEFORE May 1 (i.e. on April 30) or if he can decide ON May 1. Does any one know for sure? :(</p>
<p>They have to be postmarked on 5-1</p>
<p>I think this is very, very common. It would be nice if everybody found a dream school, got in, and could afford it. But lots of kids are choosing between schools that they know would be OK – nothing really sets one apart.</p>
<p>D still can’t make up her mind and is not giving us any clues. She is not giving her B any clues or her friends. Valium 5mg keeps my wife and I very calm…but we’re running out!!!</p>
<p>Irvinemom,</p>
<p>Don’t worry. Honestly, things will be fine. Most likely she will thrive at the school of her last-minute choice. And she should rest assured, as should you, that if she really doesn’t like it there, it is fine to transfer. ( But most likely, she will love being at her college and transferring won’t ever come up.)</p>
<p>A friend of mine’s son is in the same boat. Was down to three and now he is back to four since Ohio State called and offered more merit money. She talked to our GC who told her that only 45% of the class had made a final decision and some wait until the final hours. And I think it has to be postmarked May 1, not received by. But itd be best to check that.</p>
<p>This is good to know. I’m deciding between 2 (and sometimes, in moments of weakness, 3) great schools. I know I’d be happy at any one of them. sometimes I think the real problem is just the sheer amount of information to base your decision off of…</p>
<p>When I first started this thread, I wasn’t sure if my D was the only one undecided at this late date. But after seeing the many “Help me choose college A vs B” threads, my D is in very good company!</p>
<p>She’s now down from 3 to 2 schools - Bard vs Goucher. She’s interested in Psychology, literature and writing in which she can explore these subjects at both. She’s worried that Bard may be a little more remote than Goucher and that Goucher offers more ballet - tho’ she’s not going to major in dance (she’s a longtime ballet dancer).</p>
<p>I wonder if Bard’s higher ranking & prestige should be a factor? Or, should it matter since Goucher seems to also have a good reputation, academic-wise??</p>
<p>Funny you should mention that - my D was all set for Bard until she attended Accepted Students Day last week. When we got back in the car to go home, she burst into tears and said, “PLEASE don’t send me here.” She said that, while it was a perfect fit academically, the location was far too remote for her (even though she’d be less than one hour away from home and what she quaintly terms as “civilization.”) The school she ultimately selected is less prestigious and far larger than she originally claimed she wanted, but she actually seems pleased to be going. We figure that, if she’s happy, we’re happy.</p>
<p>We’re still undecided and just completed our third and final Admitted Student Days. Nothing jumped out at her, she fell in love with nothing. Trust me, if I told you her choices you would be surprised, most would trade with her in a second! She wants no input or help from anyone, but wants to have a “party” for her friends who are still undecided (and that helps who, how?). May 1st is going to be a day of hysteria and tears. I know it makes little difference, she doesn’t. Oh well, it’s only 3 1/2 days away!</p>
<p>My D announces to me on her way out to school this AM that she will email me her decision today. What a hoot! Waiting with bated breath… :-)</p>
<p>I hated Bard’s location and campus, but I loved their educational philosophy. I was also disappointed in the lack of snow and ice removal on the paths. They seem to have a lot going on on campus - many interesting things to do if the flyers are anything to go by.</p>
<p>Wow, this thread has made me feel like I fit in! Thanks, everyone!
D has 4 remaining schools and I don’t know how I’ll make it another 2/3(I’m so worried it will be 3!) days!</p>