Nothing Matters Anymore

<p>It's weird how nothing matters anymore. Decisions are made, letters are printed, envelopes are sealed, lives will be forever changed. I find it funny how people still ask others about their chances or whether or not they are strong candidates. The admissions game is a tricky one, a puzzle within a puzzle that only you can solve. But by this stage in the game, the puzzle has been solved, and soon enough its answer will be revealed. I too, am playing this game, plagued by uncertainty and doubt, as it does many others-waiting, hoping. April 1st cannot come soon enough, the nights are long and the days unbearable. We see happy classmates knowing where they will attend college, most of them applied to public universities content with their choice-nevertheless they have the satisfaction of knowing they were accepted-they were chosen. I know whatever answer this game holds for me, I will accept it, because I know in my heart that for the past four years, as have most of us, I've been working my ass off and know full well that there is not one thing in the world I could have done differently. The minutes are ticking for that life changing April morning, but Nothing Matters Anymore.</p>

<p>Well, if you treat admissions as a quantum process, it's essentially the Schroedinger's Cat scenario . . . the quantum process has occured, but until you make an observation (in the form of an admissions letter), your admission decision is in kind of a half-in-half-out state. =)</p>

<p>that's exactly what i was thinking.
right now we're in a state where the probability of rejection is below 1. decisions are the concretization of a possibility of failure.</p>

<p>I love it.</p>

<p>someone has to say this, so it might as well be me. </p>

<p>The adcom is not deciding your fate, nor forever changing your life, nor deciding whether anything in your life matters anymore. You are the only one in charge of that. Take it from an EA applicant who's still awaiting decisions from other colleges. For the past four years, I've been similarly intense about colleges. The four days before my EA acceptance, I refused to let myself even think of being accepted, and to get used to the idea of being rejected, I imagined the disappointed faces of my family and friends. As I reflect over that time and the past four years, I've realized that it really wasn't worth all the stress and pain. No matter what college you go to, it's you who will determine how you do in that college, and what you make of your life. The college is only there to help you in that voyage. If you don't get into your dream school in 10 days, cry a little, wipe off your tears, and then pick up your feet and go.</p>

<p>So there it is. If I was condescending or lecturing, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be. Just wanted to provide some perspective and reassurance that all is not lost.</p>

<p>easier said than done, asterstar</p>

<p>eh....put some effort into it.</p>

<p>hahahaha ...
i saw this post on dartmouth thread :D
well newho, everybody good luck!!!</p>

<p>....oops. Nothing has mattered for me since second semester began :D</p>

<p>School-wise, I can't seem to let it not matter. I'm so used to caring about my grades and schoolwork; it's a really hard habit to break! I mean, I know that even if I slack off now, I'll still graduate, still have a decent gpa, still get into college, all that stuff. But the thing that worriest me the most about slacking off is what teachers will think of me. I think that all this time, I haven't been working hard to get into college or get a good report card to please my parents. A considerable part of it was to not disappoint my teachers. Has anyone else felt that way?</p>

<p>Well . . . for us in Malaysia and Singapore, school term ends in November/December so REALLY nothing matters any more! Most of us are either working (like me) or slacking off while waiting for our fates to be decided -- some hoping to go to the States (like me), some to England, some to Australia, a handful to a couple of other countries like Canada, France, Germany and Japan, and a great many planning to go to a local university.</p>

<p>I'm just saying, Asterstar has the luxury of giving us this advice after (s)he has already been accepted to Yale. I mean, it's like taking diet advice from Dr. Phil. I'd feel a lot better about it if someone who was deferred or who applied RD were telling me this. Preferrably someone deferred, because it's like they've been through this before.</p>

<p>Yeah i know.....im just messing with you ;)</p>

<p>..Dr. Phil is a quack...lol</p>

<p>haha he really is!</p>

<p>he just states the obvious</p>

<p>i was just typing that!.....</p>

<p>Woman: Im 400 lbs...how do I lose it all?!</p>

<p>Dr. Phil: Ma'am you need to go on a diet....I helped Oprah with her weight problem....blah blah blah.."</p>