<p>Is there a "proper" way to notify the colleges that have accepted you that you are turning down? Should you include info on the school you have chosen?</p>
<p>Oh man, I have NO clue! I'll have to ask my dad.</p>
<p>colleges should send you a decline card which you then send back to them if you plan to decline, i dont know if all schools do this though</p>
<p>My daughter applied to three schools and all three accepted her. One included a form where she can accept, change majors or decline, the other school however did not.</p>
<p>same thing here jesscollegemom.
One school that my daughter just got accepted to the other day did have a form enclosed in the acceptance letter, which we will send back. It was a nice offer complete with honors, but she has her heart set on another school.</p>
<p>Write a kind letter. Well that's what I'm doing.</p>
<p>Won't they assume you've declined if you don't reply by the given date?</p>
<p>I imagine a call to the office should suffice.</p>
<p>"Won't they assume you've declined if you don't reply by the given date?"</p>
<p>yes, but you want to deny so someone on the waitlist has a better shot at getting in.</p>
<p>Indeed, they will, but saying no early is polite, and it makes it easier for the class to see who's coming and who's not.</p>
<p>does anyone feel guilty about declining ?</p>
<p>You shouldn't be. Admissions now has turned into a game (unfortunately or fortunately, depending on the person).</p>
<p>I applied to a lot of schools and it was worth it just to see what kind of attitudes each college had. One school REALLY stepped it up and blew me away, that's why I don't feel bad, because the other schools could have done more to influence me.</p>
<p>I just wrote my letters thanking schools but telling them I was declining. If they didn't have a place on their form for what college I decided to attend, I didn't mention where I was going.</p>
<p>The one school so far that has offered the most to my daughter is a smaller, lesser known ( outsie of New England at least ) college.
They are really trying to get her to attend. It was her safety, though I know it is a fine school. She had little or no interest.
As soon as my daughter returns from a mini vacation, I will have her send them back their form , declining their offer. I have not heard that there have been people having difficulty getting in, but I am sure that someone will benefit when she turns them down. I think she got their most prestigeous merit award.</p>
<p>Yeah, most schools send a decline card. Some of the UC's you could decline online. Oh yeah, and for me to decline USC I had to hunt for like an hour until I found the decline card within a booklet in the acceptance packet. It was hidden. Screw USC.</p>
<p>I guess I knew what most of you are saying, that just a polite thank you for the opportunity but... kind of note if there's no decline card. I'm wondering now if there isn't a bit of a guilty feeling like lje62 suggested. (or maybe it's just that the two she's turning down are state schools and the one she's accepting is private and my wallet is keeping us from declining faster!!! :)</p>
<p>don't some colleges have a statement of intent to register, where you can accept or decline their offer of admission. well at least i saw that with the UCs</p>
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Won't they assume you've declined if you don't reply by the given date?
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And wouldn't you assume that you didn't get into a school if you didn't get an acceptance by April 1? But how would you like that?</p>
<p>Just as colleges send rejections so applicants don't have to go nuts thinking that maybe something got lost in the mail, so should applicants send their "rejections" back to the colleges. (After all, just think what would happen if a student did send the Intent to Enroll, it got lost in the mail, and the college just assumed that the student wasn't coming??)</p>
<p>Good manners can have good rewards. After my daughter sent letters of regret to her colleges, two responded that they would keep her admissions offer open for x number of years. One even offered to keep her merit scholarship open.</p>
<p>^ Wow! That can't be common.</p>
<p>All my schools have included response cards (where you get to check the accept or decline box) within their welcome packages.</p>