I understand the hesitation. I think you’d have to invite the kind of people who wouldn’t be offended, and I’m that kind of person. I would’ve invited people and stressed no presents. I think the invitees get that you’re kind of helping them out – no one wants lots of empty seats at their reception and the food already is likely locked in.
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Right, just don’t invite people who are easily offended!
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Funny timing for the discussion. I’ve been watching Gilmore Girls during exercise (so lol, it’s taking me a while to make progress). Yesterday Lorelei’s parents had last minute invite to Suki’s wedding after relatives cancelled. Her parents scoffed at being impolite “pity invites”. But they did attend because “it would be impolite to decline”. These fictional characters seemed to have a good time 
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Lorelei’s parents seemed like just the type that would scoff or be easily offended! Glad they pushed through and enjoyed themselves!
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We were happy to get last minute invites to D’s friend’s weddings when other guests were unable to attend. We wrote a nice card with a check and had a great time. We knew parents of the bride and/or bride and often other last minute guests who were other parents of D’s friends.
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We were invited last minute but didn’t know either family. For us, we knew lots of the college and DC friends of sons (groom invited younger son too as they all shared a house in DC for awhile). So much fun seeing lots of guys we first met when we visited in their college, lots of them already married and fathers now. They were so nice to us and greeted us very warmly.
Very fun wedding and unique for me. Groom was Chinese and bride was Jewish. They had a Chinese Lion Dance which was so much fun! Had never known about it before and we really enjoyed it!
Life is too short to turn down a last minute heartfelt invitation. Go and enjoy, if you care at all for the people who are inviting you!
Hope you’re having fun @Youdon_tsay !
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I had a GREAT time! The bride was so beautiful, and I got to meet some online friends IRL. Y’all aren’t my only online community!
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That could really be taken the wrong way! 
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Thankfully, the medical field is moving away from using that term. Those are called STI nowadays. 
I was going to say the same thing, but @momo2x2018 beat us to it upthread.
Gosh, I think we need a “learned something new” emoji on CC. Ha, I only knew the STD medical term, not STI.
I think that’s what the light bulb is for, that “aha!” moment.
We attended the wedding of a friend of D2’s yesterday that we have known since the girls were 3. It was a formal wedding and I was worried when we received the invitation about what to wear. In the end H and I looked great. The wedding was outdoors at the historical society over looking the ocean and the reception was a block away outdoors at a museum. San Diego weather was beautiful for their day. They had an amazing live band and we danced all night. At the end of the reception they had pizza delivered then many went to the after party at a pub nearby. It was a really fun wedding!
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I don’t think there is anything wrong with extending last minute wedding invitations at all. Though, if you’re the one doing the inviting, you probably need to realize that some people might not be able to make it. It would be somewhat of a faux pas to invite someone last minute to a destination wedding or any other destination where they would have to travel…
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Beautiful family. Beautiful photo. You all look great 
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First off! Such a cute picture! Looks like a fun day!
Speaking of weddings…something sort of related to weddings happened to my D recently. She recently found out that a friend of hers is engaged and getting married soon. The only thing is D just found out via social media. She isn’t invited to the wedding. She has known the bride to be since they were babies. And while, they aren’t best friends and aren’t super close, they are still good friends who keep in touch and see each other when they can.
What’s odd is that D has talked to her since she would have gotten engaged and they talked and D asked how she was doing, but her friend never said anything about getting engaged or married. This friend didn’t post anything about getting engaged on social media (which is unusual these days), at least that D saw. D only found out about the whole thing, when mutual friends were wishing this girl happy birthday last week and many of them said, “Happy Birthday to the Bride to be!” or “Can’t wait to celebrate you again next week!” D isn’t offended, just perplexed. It is kind of an odd situation but oh well! Friendships change!
My guess is that it’s sort of an elopement thing or they’re keeping it small…
My daughter just got engaged and has told very few people. She doesn’t wear her ring to work, didn’t tell anyone at work, didn’t make a social media announcement but did tell a few friends. Now they have been dating for 8 years and own a house together and have talked openly about getting married, so people assume they are engaged, and they sort of were, but now this is official except they aren’t telling many people.
Well, they told my sister and that’s as good as putting an announcement in the NYT…but there will be people ‘just finding out’ right up until the wedding day.
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Yeah, I was thinking the same thing too!
Well said. We have a rehearsal for the main participants at the church, at a time convenient to them all. There is no meal afterwards. I also had not heard of gifts to cover the cost of the plate. Here guests often ask the couple to provide a list of items they might like to set up their new home. These range from the cheapest e.g. a tea towel to the more expensive. Anything too expensive would be frowned upon. Thank you letters are a must.
One couple I know who had been living together for some time hired a marquee for their reception and asked guests to bring a bottle, or savoury or sweet plate as a ‘bring and share’ if they so wished. This was mentioned only if the guest asked. It worked well. Requests for money would be unacceptable.