<p>The district finals!</p>
<p>I see StudiousMaximus as the leader of a developing company, helloel as a biologist/geneticist, anaychi as… hmm, this is pretty hard. Great job, studiousmaximus!!! :)</p>
<p>Good job, studious. Nope, I don’t do debate. I’m not a great speaker. </p>
<p>That reminds me, there was this guy who did his senior speech a couple days a go. He is the shyest, quietest person in his grade and his speech was about why he was so quiet. He talked about how it was basically because he didn’t have much to say, and he would rather listen. And I was thinking, people really like him and he has tons of friends, but if he was a girl would it be the same? Because I’m very quiet and I feel like if I didn’t make changes and start being more outgoing, I wouldn’t really have a social group. I feel like girls are expected to be bigger talkers than guys. There are a few girls in my grade that are as quiet as this senior speaker, and people don’t really seem to like them. So, what do you all think, is it more socially acceptable for a guy to be quiet and shy?</p>
<p>@98: If I don’t become a doctor, business is probably where I’d go. Good job!</p>
<p>What do you guys think I’d be? I have no honest idea, but I have a few tentative plans mapped out.</p>
<p>@helloel- It’s more socially acceptable for a guy to be quiet and shy because he can make up for that by being athletic, or cultivating some persona of quiet hot dude. With girls, you gossip more, talk more. When I have a conversation with a girl, it needs to be meaningful and the other girl has to contribute something. When I talk to guys, sometimes it’s fine if you talk about nothing or just stay quiet. It’s just different.</p>
<p>@98 I can’t be <em>that</em> hard now, can I?</p>
<p>[insert statement pointing out the unintentional sexual innuendo in this post]</p>
<p>omg, that’s what he said. <em>rolls eyes</em></p>
<p>Hm. Scientist… (?)</p>
<p>Lol. It didn’t need pointing out, it was quite obvious haha.</p>
<p>It really didn’t need pointing out, anay 
lol but it is funny.</p>
<p>Elizabeth: I think what’s deemed “socially acceptable” is a bunch of bollocks. Speaking from a male’s perspective, I don’t think it’s “socially acceptable” to question someone’s social acceptability, especially due to their gender. Get me? Anyone who overlooks a woman because she doesn’t talk as much as the next person (or isn’t a man) is frankly daft. You’re an individual, which means you don’t have to bide by stupid societal stereotypes to gain from the system. Being a bit of a quieter person doesn’t stop you from forming a social group. You probably are a fantastic person irl who has nothing to worry about. Stressing over these idiotic aspects of life is unnecessary. I bet you’re fine, and you’re a great enough person to gain important friendships. Changing who you are to apease the norm is the last thing you would want to do.</p>
<p>This ended up being a long-winded, rambly rant that probably doesn’t answer your question very well. So, I apologize.</p>
<p>Ok, I still can’t use bb code. Darnit… did you guys do anything interesting this weekend?</p>
<p>I probably would’ve pointed it out though, haha. </p>
<p>Yeah 98, that’s what I thought. About how it’s more “okay” for a guy to be a shy than a girl. But I wasn’t referring to like between guys and girls. Being shy never seems to make a difference and isn’t usually a turn off. I meant more like within the same gender. Like guys don’t mind if their guy friends are shy, but girls do mind if their friends are shy.</p>
<p>Also, chicks that point out sexual innuendos are cool in my book.</p>
<p>Well, it depends… for me personally, I don’t mind if a girl is quiet, as long as she is really interesting and a person I like to be around. Now, if you’re so shy it’s painful, that’s when I start to mind. One of my best friends is really shy around new people- she is more comfortable around people she’s known for a while. However, in three weeks, I really made an effort to talk to her and be nice, and now, she’s such a bubbly, amazing, funny girl to me. </p>
<p>The shyness I’m referring to that’s painful… when the person won’t talk to you no matter how hard you try, when the person won’t look you in the eye, is the worst turn-off. </p>
<p>See the difference?</p>
<p>@Studious: Well done!</p>
<p>@98/Elizabeth: Being quiet isn’t necessarily bad in a girl. I think it makes things more interesting that way. I know a lot of girls (and some guys, now that I think about it) who blurt out every detail of their life to everyone. Being quiet is a nice change. Everyone likes to talk, but they always need someone to listen.</p>
<p>There are different types of quiet, too. Are you quiet because you like to observe people and then decide who would be a good person to get to know better, or are you quiet because you’re afraid to talk to people?</p>
<p>Anay, thank you! I’m not incredibly shy, just a little quieter. I’m not naturally as shy as that speaker or those girls in my grade I was talking about. I probably should have cleared that up. However, I have the friends I do because I started being a little more outgoing (without being fake), I mean everyone has to change a little when dropped into a new school. I still feel like myself. I didn’t mean to be stressing, I just found it kind of interesting. I know it’s not the way it should be, but at least at my school, that’s the way it is. </p>
<p>It’s great that you think that way, I completely agree. But a lot of people don’t feel the same way. I don’t really think guys overlook shy girls in general, however a lot of guys do make fun of those super shy girls in my grade. I was thinking more that it’s easier for shy guys to have a bunch of friends. More like a social group thing rather than an attraction/relationship thing.</p>
<p>smorgasbord: I wasn’t really worrying about myself, haha. I am more of listener, I guess, and people seem to like me for that. I am really not super quiet, I was more pointing out extremely shy people.</p>
<p>Off-topic, again- I think smorgasbord would be some sort of activist.</p>
<p>Oh and yeah I don’t really think anything should be deemed as “socially acceptable”, it’s kind of a term I borrowed from other people.</p>
<p>And now that I think about it, I probably have the friends that I do because I am not that overly talkative girl and listen to people more intently. But I wouldn’t have met them if I didn’t start being more outgoing. Does that make sense?</p>
<p>That really does make sense, helloel. @anaychi, are you more extroverted or introverted?</p>
<p>I guess what helloel is trying to say is that in the past she was really quiet and that really didn’t help her as far as initially making friends goes. Or probably people initially gravitate towards people that are more outgoing but prefer much better listeners when its all said and done. I agree with her because to meet various friends you have to get out there and put yourself on the line in order for people to see your personality for what it really is.</p>