PLEASE BEFORE COMMENTING SEE POSTS #167 AND 169!
I am sure that the school has already figured out who she is. Not hard to do and reps are on these boards all the time. Hope this thread can be helpful for others who might find themselves in the same situation. We are here to support one another and help navigate the incredibly stressful situations that arise.
This is an open forum. People can keep commenting if they want to. Don’t shout. The OP will come back and give an update when she is ready. People still might have useful suggestions.
My oldest kid works in higher ed consulting, and one thing she suggested if they won’t budge on the admission is asking for the #1 slot on the waitlist this year, and deferred admission to next semester or next year if that waitlist spot doesn’t turn into admission. (I know the deferral was mentioned earlier in the thread, but we haven’t talked about the waitlist). That way if their yield is not what they expect this year, she could still get a spot.
Oh, and school reps don’t haunt these forums. A post in a specific school forum might get reviewed, but not a general forum. They are way too busy, especially this time of year.
@intparent I was not intending to shout only to make my post more visible as clearly many did not see my previous one or @sopranomtmom’s. The poster does not want any more comments and is clearly upset enough. Everything that can possibly be said has been said to her. Let’s be respectful now and let her be until she tells us the outcome.
I read all the earlier posts. Did you just read my full post? Everything has not been said… there may be other good ideas out there (or even others with similar stories about thus school or another that can help). And people are certainly free to share their sympathy and own stories if they want to. The OP did not ask people to stop posting those things.
@intparent it looks like the original poster has moved on to other forums. I am sure she’s looking into how to close this link. Sure you can post however you please but we are respecting what she clarified during her last visit.
Hello, everyone. Thank you so much for all of the advice and support. There has been so much activity on this thread that back at post #123, I was growing concerned that this was getting much more attention than I had anticipated and that I had inadvertently brought too much exposure to my daughter. We all know that research can be done by any enterprising person to gather enough information to find someone’s identity. I realized, much too late, that this information could potentially be used against her by another student to make her feel as if she didn’t belong. I AM BEGGING YOU as a fellow parent not to elevate the exposure further and to ensure that I have choices as to when/how/why/if to relay all of this information to my kid. I appreciate the support more than you can ever know, but at 180+ posts and 16K views, I really feel I have as much info as I can take in and to see this devolve into arguments and circular logic is emotionally draining and adds to the turmoil. If you have advice for me that you think I need to hear, please PM me. I am happy to have it! And I will certainly let you know eventually how this is resolved. Thank you for hearing me and for all of your support and well wishes. It has been humbling to know that so many people out there care about our experience.
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Based upon the above from the OP, I think we’ve reached a natural conclusion. Closing thread.
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For privacy reasons, I tried to edit out reference to the college name