<p>Well, boysx3: Somehow we grope our way toward each other. I don’t particularly like girl drama either, even my own!!!</p>
<p>I don’t think we can always help it, and eventually guys do learn to deal with it as we learn to deal with their general reticence. Sometimes talking to my darling S on the phone really is like a visit to the dentist. Other times it’s like flying.</p>
<p>Girls initially met in drunk situations (parties, bars, etc.) rarely amount to anything beyond a hook up or future booty call. I don’t think she has any expectations, the flirtiness was likely just bc she was drinking.</p>
<p>Maybe it was a slow news day and they needed a few filler articles.</p>
<p>I guess most of the posters are parents. </p>
<p>I am 18 and will go to a top LAC in September. I am currently dating a very nice girl with whom I have been friends since we were freshmen in high school. We do not have sex, and I am okay with that. I am happy being around her, and she likes being around me. </p>
<p>We both know that we’ll break up, because she’s going to Dartmouth next year. We plan to meet again at Harvard Medical School in 4 yrs, but that’s a long time from now. </p>
<p>I am intelligent, good-looking (people tell me that I am), and a nice guy. Nevertheless, I am also glad that the gender balance is in my favor. </p>
<p>My lunch 1/2 hour is over… my two cents</p>
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<p>That’s great. Best wishes.</p>
<p>Hey sorry I’m not on subjet here but how do you start a trending topic or post a question?</p>
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<p>I meant it sincerely, but in rereading it, I see that it could be seen as hubris. I did not mean it that way. I realize that this is not facebook, and you do not know me.</p>
<p>Initially, I wrote to state that we are not all brutes. I went off topic. Sorry.</p>
<p>Nothing to apologize for, notnoah. There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want to do and believing you’re going to do it. In fact, there’s everything right with it.</p>
<p>I’ve ran this past many of my former classmates both male and female. None of us really noticed it or gave much thought to it. As there were many colleges in the area, it was always easy to “hook up” if one was so inclined. The male/female ratio of any particular college was not a factor.</p>
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<p>hahahahahaha.</p>
<p>So women are trying to get guys, and finding that when the ratio is against them that they have to, I don’t know, compete? Welcome to equality, men have been doing things they don’t want to do in order to get a woman’s attention since arranged marriage went out of style.</p>
<p>I can actually relate to the female interviewees in the article precisely because I am a male student at Georgia Tech. In fact, the quote</p>
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<p>It’s not impossible to get a date at my school; I personally think I have atrocious pick-up skills, but even I’ve gotten a grand total of ten dates since my freshman year. Granted, none progressed past the first date, but still - impossible it is not. My freshman year roommate, for example, was universally hated by our hallmates because he got laid twice a week for one-and-a-half semesters before finally settling down with a relationship. He was actually a wonderful roommate, but everybody else hated him because he made it look so easy while the rest of us, myself included, struggled mightily. To this date, I still criticize myself for not being brave enough to try to ask him and learn from him. Whatever, I’m graduating this semester, and I’m going to one of the schools mentioned in the NYT article that has a 60/40 female-male ratio. If I can get dates at Georgia Tech of all places, it’s gotta be a cakewalk at those schools.</p>
<p>^^^ which is why the idea of a womens college, where this
won’t happen on campus, is refreshing. You probably don’t notice that there aren’t as many men when there aren’t any AT ALL! :)</p>
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<p>Somewhere there is a button that says “Start new thread” – it may be at the top of the page that lists all the threads under a section. (For instance, click on Parent Forum and look there) Poke around and you’ll see it.</p>
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If a consequence of an imbalanced F:M ratio is that more girls are forced to be proactive and stop sitting around like Victorian dolls, then I see no problems.</p>
<p>Aha! The button is above all the thread titles. It has a CC mark and the words New Thread.
Good luck</p>
<p>On a lighter note, does the skewed male-female ratio mean that girls will be easy to score ;)?</p>
<p>Fascinating thread. Thanks to all you smart people, led by MythMom. A few thoughts:</p>
<p>Just because a young woman wants to be around young men and possibly have a relationship does not mean she is looking to get married. No one’s talking about marriage here. </p>
<p>Young people “dating” ended with Leave it to Beaver. I’m 51, and there was pretty much no dating when I was in college, just groups of friends and parties like now, and then somehow couples would sometimes just happen.</p>
<p>I know a bevy of smart, sensitive college and high school kids, including my girls (college soph and HS junior), and they are able to have good, happy, fun lives away from the trampy over-sexualized media culture we’re in. It helps that we have been fortunate enough to send them to private schools with cultures that do not buy into that culture (a progressive, no-grades, alternative grade school and a liberal, feminist, very diverse Catholic girls’ high school). But it’s doable anywhere.</p>
<p>As for Samantha, remember that pretty much the entire writing staff of Sex in the City was gay men (my husband has worked with many of them). Their perspective very much influenced that character.</p>
<p>I agree that the bigger issue is how to get more young men to succeed in college. Society needs them educated. And a gender balance is good for all. My older D is gay, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t value her male friends, and she wants a gender balance in her school, and is bothered that in her major (education), 80% are girls. My younger D is adamant about no women’s colleges, but NOT because she’s looking for a husband! That’s insulting to these girls. She’ll have spent four year’s at a girls’ school, and for goodness sake, what’s wrong with wanting to have boys in your life, with or without sex/marriage/FWB?</p>