We are from Indiana, not Ohio, but have spent a lot of time at all three and know kids at all three. All are wonderful schools, and many kinds of students could find their niche at each of them, though the overall campus feel varies. Take this all with a grain of salt, as your mileage may vary. My kid thought Oberlin was his top choice, then Kenyon, and then both fell down the list as he got to know Denison better.
Oberlin has the music thing, which is huge, there is always something happening with the Con. It has the painted rock and albino squirrels, plus almost 3000 students, which is large by LAC standards. Pronouns matter - not assuming specific gender identify seems to be part of the campus culture – my kid was asked what pronouns he uses, as a prospective male athlete, and others we know had similar experiences on visits. There are some very strong sports teams, and the athletic facilities have been getting an upgrade. On our visits, we felt like the vibe was fairly intense, with smart, creative kids and a quirky vibe.
Kenyon is a lot smaller, and has the Kenyon Review, and the theater thing. There is about 30% greek life involvement, about the same as Denison. Kenyon apparently sets aside clusters of housing in the dorms for the fraternities/sororities, so even though the greek houses are non-residential, members live together – that’s what we were told on multiple visits. For my kid, after a handful of visits, there just wasn’t a lot of “there” there – the art department did not include ceramics, which was something he wanted to continue with, the athletic facilities were down a seriously long hill (I get that Denison is on a hill, but you can’t see Kenyon’s athletic facilities from the main part of campus). The village of Gambier seems charming, but also seems like it could be claustrophobic to some. It did not seem a particularly diverse campus.
Denison became the goldilocks school – picture perfect village, an enclosed campus up from the village, enlightened leadership, and strong merit aid which draws really talented students. Sports gets lots of student support, but so does the student blue grass band, theater, art etc. Some people walk on campus and see lax bros, and think that’s all there is, but we saw kids arguing politics, scruffy kids in flannel who live on the organic farm homestead, lax bros, and kids who don’t fit any stereotype. President Weinberg is dedicated to fostering a community where students learn to communicate across differences.
They are all well worth a visit, with students on campus, to get a feel for the overlap and where there are differences.