Opinions on this prom situation?

Hey guys,

So I know this isn’t the typical CC post, but I wanted to get some anonymous advice on this situation that I’m in.

Long story short, I recently got selected to be on the prom court since a received a large number of votes from my peers. However, I knew all year that I wouldn’t be attending prom. I had no desire to do so, since the environment and other aspects of it are simply contrary to who I am. In addition, for all of my life, I’ve viewed “homecoming court” and “prom court” as nothing more than a popularity contest, something that I never want to become involved in. For a few days, I had a lot of pressure from many people to attend, now that I was nominated. But in the end, I decided to withdraw myself. After talking with a teacher, I was told that I was voted onto this prom court because many people wanted to recognize me in another way, since the title of valedictorian was (for a variety of unfair reasons) not an option, but they believed I was deserving.

Therefore, some people are discouraged that I declined, even though I had sound reasoning for declining and not attending prom. First of all, was this even a good decision in the first place (it isn’t reversible, at this point)? Second, do you think it would be worth it to share my thoughts with my classmates in some way (such as a Facebook post) just to explain that I am humbled by the fact that they think highly of me, but that it isn’t something I’m interested in?

Thanks for the advice!

Honestly, no.

What’s done is done, and while it was a nice gesture to nominate you, I’m pretty sure it did not deeply effect them. If anyone is particularly upset about it, you can tell them why, but I would just let it go.

As for if it was the right decision, doesn’t really matter since it’s already done; however, I think you probably should have just gone with it, but if it made you extremely uncomfortable there is no reason to put yourself in that position.

I think you made the best personal choice you could. Whether the other people are or aren’t disappointed, they should realize that you can’t force recognition on someone if they don’t want it.