My son is a first year student at UVA. He is from Ohio and is very happy there. UVA limits its out of state students to 1/3. U of M takes up to 40% of kids from OOS.
My husband and I both did our undergrad at U of Michigan. That is where we wanted our son to go, but he chose UVA. We are slowly getting used to the idea; his happiness certainly helps. I will always be grateful for the education/personal growth I had at U of M, both academically as well as due to the vibrant nature of the campus, diversity of the student body, and overall awesomeness of Ann Arbor.
The schools are very, very different. UVA student body as a whole is much more conservative than U of M. My son has appreciated the smaller size of UVA vs UM as well as focus on undergrads as opposed to grad school presence at U of M. Charlottesville is a lovely town and the mountains are beautiful, but I still prefer Ann Arbor–feels more cosmopolitan to me. My son does not feel like UVA is too Southern, and he also joined a fraternity. The weather is Charlottesville is MUCH better that that in Ann Arbor. U of M/Ann Arbor have a much “grittier/urban” feels than do Charlottesville/UVA, which feels much more gentile. Ann Arbor feels edgier.
UVA application of AP credit is MUCH more generous than U of M. My son had to take only one class his first semester to fulfill all his proficiencies/distributions at UVA. U of M gives AP credits, but won’t let you use them to fullfill distribution requirements–its a big deal, particularly to double major, study abroad, get out in 8 semesters.
U of M has a tons of kids from Chicago–and NYC for that matter. I think NOVA is to UVA what the Detroit suburbs are to U of M.
My son has friends from NOVA, other parts of VA, and “random out of state” kids. He has international friends as well. He has had no problems being OOS, although he does thinks its funny how kids from the East Coast have tremendous negative biases towards the Midwest. My husband and I lived in DC for six years–I have some knowledge of what he’s talking about. His sense has been that the kids from VA do NOT hang out with their high school friends, that they really want to meet new people.
My son was ready to send in the deposit to U of M in February when he got into the honors college, but my husband encouraged him to attend DOTL at UVA in april. That was all it took–he loved the campus, the students he met, and the classes he sat in on. For him, it was the right choice. I would really encourage you to visit the campus and take a hard look around. Hopefully your child will feel “right” about his choice.
Mostly, I would encourage parents to support their kids “process” and decision making. Also, we told our son he wasn’t coming home until Thanksgiving if he insisted on going to school in the middle of nowhere, seven hours from home through the mountains and WVA turnpike–I think that certainly made him think of UVA as his new home, make friends, transition.
Oh, and GO BLUE!