<p>She can’t waste next year at a community college or gap year, etc. Go to Brown next year, borrow 7.5k get one year of high quality college. Next fall apply to other places. It is much easier to transfer from brown to flagship state university than the other way around. Then see what comes up. There might be scholarships at a good place. (This reason for transfer is a pretty good story and many a place would be proud to snatch up a brown student under this circumstance.) Or maybe Dad will come around. Or maybe Brown will come around. </p>
<p>In any event, the choice is not go to Brown and graduate with 30k in debt, or go to CC and take a gap year. She can go to Brown with the idea that she can transfer later if she can’t afford it.</p>