<p>My MIL waited until after our 2nd child’s 1st birthday and after her D left from a nice Thanksgiving visit with her to go back to SF to die quietly in her bed. My FIL waited until after he knew H and I had returned from a trip to Europe and were visiting him in the hospital before dying peacefully just before the hospital discharged him.</p>
<p>My SIL died quietly just after she had a nice weekend with both of her brothers, me and 3 of her nieces and nephews. She made sure she worked with the estate attorney and got her affairs in order as best she could, gave away her car, and gave away some artwork. She took some morphine to ease her breathing and died just as our airplane touched down in Honolulu after our visit with her.</p>
<p>My SIL’s grandmother was in her 90s or older & broke her toe and was in the hospital. She summoned all her relatives and loved ones to the hospital to bid them farewell, requested that she stop being given any nutrition (though she was in perfectly fine health other than the broken toe). She died the next night after saying her goodbye’s to all those who visited.</p>
<p>Another friend’s mom was in the hospital and not expected to live long. Her D was in SF but left a tape telling her mom how much she was loved and that it was OK to leave to join her beloved, deceased husband in heaven. She died peacefully in her sleep in the hospital, listening to the tape.</p>
<p>Yes, I do believe people can have some choice in when they decide to die vs. hanging on.</p>