<p>My grandmother was in an Independent Living place owned by Holiday, in AZ, and it was very well run. But, pricing will vary by location. (True in general.) And I think it’s safe to say that the culture/style/recreation at any depends on the group of residents. In our case, AZ was pretty darned inexpensive. Even in ILiving, they usually serve meals on their schedule. On occasion, they will bring a meal or something light to the room (if someone is ill, eg, but it wasn’t a long term mode at any of the places she lived.) There can be one or two practical nurses, not affiliated with a company, but available on their own. My Grandmother had one to remind her of her pills, when she had a doc apt coming up, etc. She didn’t need much, so this was probably about $10/day, less than an hour. The woman had a varying number of clients in the building. We liked having that pair of eyes.</p>
<h2>It can be AL that runs costs up. Need meal reminders or escorts, Rx, management, regular BP monitoring, showering assistance? Cost, cost, cost. There’s a lot good on the web by senior advocates. And, info provided by the states.</h2>
<p>My mother is also a night owl. Often goes to bed about 5 am, which will be a meal issue if she does move to a retirement place. Last week, we set a date for lab tests on Monday am. I was firm, matter-of-fact that we needed to keep to this, other obligations to work around, the car was going for repair on Tues-Wed, and we leave on Sat. </p>
<p>This triggered a long lecture (you know the song.) More about how many different ailments she has (all related, btw, to those 3 appts where she bailed on D2.) And, YUP, cancelled on Sun night. </p>
<p>How do we keep our composure? Beats me. I have to admit, I don’t feel guilty. If we are basically trying our best, juggling, etc, we have to rest on that.</p>