<p>Ugh, we need this waiting to be over with soon. D is waiting for her #1ED letter - should be in today or Monday. She got accepted to #2 or what I thought was #2 but she just told us that she doesn't want to go there. She has cried, been sad, anxious, etc...getting close to serious melt-down.
She did pre-college summer art/photo programs in Manhatten in '07 and '08. Loved the city - loved what she experienced. She applied to big university with incredible photo department and a few other art/photo schools in NYC. Also applied to state privates and publics. Got into everything so far.</p>
<p>I haven't been through this before but I think she just needs to find out and then she can move on with what is on the table. #1 is a long shot but there is a chance so we just don't know. </p>
<p>It is getting rough here in North Carolina.
Mail, hurry up!</p>
<p>So sorry for all of you (and your kids) with ED deferrals :( </p>
<p>As someone who was waitlisted at my #1 school MANY years ago, and who ended up at my #2 (a school I hadn't even visited) I can honestly say that, at least for me, there was no wrong turn in the road. In hindsight, school #2 was a much better fit. So hang in there and look forward to this time next year, when you will be giving sage advice to all the class of 2010 parents ;)</p>
<p>ellemenope and SJTH: BAH! I know this news is hard on your households and I'm sorry. </p>
<p>The 09s will be fine despite these blasts of cold wind and icy air. (I think we need a song from historymom, here.) Hugs and mugs of cocoa - with something stronger for the parents - to all.</p>
<p>No deferral here--just an outright no. My S said "Oh darn" and is now out shopping for fun. Taking it better than I am, but also not delving into the next round of essays. Oh well, at least a very good friend wasn't admitted either, under the misery loves company idea. In my heart of hearts I didn't think he'd make it, just knowing how competitive it is, but there was a bit of hope there, too. I was also hoping the EA answer would arrive first, so that the first word wasn't a negative one, but that's the way it goes as he didn't get that app'l. out til the last minute.</p>
<p>Mmmm...not taking it so well, as he is a musician and isn't sure what "deferred" means there, as he was applying for a 5 year dual degree. Was he deferred for one or both programs (where the music side said they don't defer...) argh! For the moment, he's pretty much decided now he won't get in anywhere, but fortunately he's at a music lesson so I'm sure his teacher will buoy him back up. Damn. I really thought this was the time he'd get his recognition--in a senior class with many stars, he's always been pretty un-sung. The audition process for this school was so disorganized, and the director didn't even seem to know he was applying ED. I'm kicking myself for not following up and making sure the right hand knew what the left was doing...and now am pretty unsure how to proceed. Maybe when the packet comes in the mail it will have some more definitive information. Thanks for letting me vent, everyone. :(</p>
<p>Very sorry for your S's and D's deferrals and non acceptance. Know from experience with D how bad it feels. D started with an ED in the fall and did get her last waitlist until (first deferred and then waitlisted...) the middle of July. Of course we did not know anything about anything to do with the college search so were just waiting and checking mailboxes and she was sending supplements and calling. Anyway--again my thoughts are with all of your families right now, it IS hard to see our kids dissappointed. end of my story (which I know I have told before--sorry to some) is that she went to a NOT well thought out safety and transfered in Jan frosh year to THE school I had picked as #1 but she had not even applied to. But, truly it did work out and she had an amazing 3 /12 years. Oh--maybe that is why I keep asking S if he needs to look at more schools....is he sure....</p>
<p>One thing I will mention is that a good GC can be very helpful here. If it is the students #1 then a phone call or contact from the GC could help. (D's GC would not help any students...he's no longer there...). The GC might also know if your D or S should send in awards won as the school goes on/more rec.'s/sample writings/acedemic papers. Some school will accept a few and some not. An e-mail contact or a phone contact with the admin for your area/and alum writing..
OK I am just avoiding going out in the wet sleet to get our tree,
Will be thinking of all of you...</p>
<p>Sorry SJTH, and I hope the perspective that it will all work out comes soon in the EA decision. </p>
<p>My S just gave me a big "WHAT?" when I reminded him that senior grades do count toward possible acceptances, but I'm not sure he's very clear on the potential deferrals that may be coming. I AM sure he's suffering from a big case of senioritis, and I worry that he may not buck up enough. Hopefully today's "new" info reaches him.</p>
<p>We're waiting on 2 EA's for Monday. I am worried and my DD is not communicating! She has also not completed the supplemental essays for all of the other schools on her list. Making me crazy. This too shall pass. This too shall pass. My current mantra.</p>
<p>Son is STILL foot dragging on his top choices (essays are not his thing)
Meanwhile he has heard from Washington State University - accepted with $5000 renewable scholarship
Should hear from Western WA U, U of Idaho, Lewis and Clark and Carroll soon.</p>
<p>I am so sorry to those of you whose kids were deferred or rejected from their favorite choices. I am cringing with the expectation myself. WA State was my son's safety, and while it is gratifying to get his first acceptance, it's not too exciting too him. I think he would do just fine there, if that is where he ends up, but I will hurt for him if MIT and Caltech end up not panning out.</p>
<p>Bad news here last night from the EA school. DS took it in stride. He's out laser tagging with friends - one of whom was the lucky recipient of DS's former shirt with the name of the EA school... As Coach K says "Next play..."</p>
<p>I am remembering my own college applications and I don't recall being all that phased by not being accepted at my first choices (Bennington and Oberlin) I remember just taking it in stride. But things seem so much more "pressurized" these days. I sometimes think, <em>their</em> top choices end up meaning more to us than to them. As parents we "want" for our kids. Both my husband and I went to schools other than our first choices and were very happy in those places. I think taking it in stride is an excellent strategy and your son is wise.</p>
<h1>theorymom Carroll Montana?? Both my Ds are in there and we are planning a visit this winter to make sure they can hang w/ the temps tonight it is -7 but on a happy note if feels like -23!! BRRRRRRRRRRRRRR</h1>
<p>uhhh if you're not referring to Carroll MT please treat the above as a newsy bit of geographical information ;)</p>
<p>To all whose kids were deferred or denied I will compose something tomorrow...I need to consult my muse. But until then try to remember that it is not a rejection of your child whom the ad com doesn't really even know. It is often an arbitrary and serendipitous decision which may have more to do with the number of files in your child's admissions counselor's stack and how late at night it was when said file was read than how clearly amazing, talented and gifted your kid is.</p>