<p>Reading all these bright, fine kids' reactions to deferrals/rejections makes me rethink the apathy my S is showing toward the process. I've harped on him about his grades for so long, maybe he thinks he won't get in at any of the places he's excited (with a very small "e") about. If he doesn't care, it won't hurt?</p>
<p>cpeltz I think you may be right but I also think that to a degree our kids (at least mine) are pretty well convinced that they will be fine wherever they end up and they know they will end up somewhere. My two only applied to schools they would be happy to attend and I think that I am more guilty of having a favorite than they are. </p>
<p>From a kid's persepective they really don't know what college is like and how the nuances found on each campus can influence their success and happiness. As their parents, who have been for the past 17 + years focused on making sure that our children are safe and well educated, we get our own opinons about the college or university where that will be most likely to happen. So our hearts often become more invested than theirs. </p>
<p>I think this may be particularly true of boys who as a group tend to just assume that things will work out for them so they aren't neccessarily invested in one campus over another because of it. I also think it is why our girls choose campuses because "I like not sharing a bathroom" (my D :( ) or "Their mascot is the Jumbo" (another CC poster) or "I already have really nice little colleges on my list I don't need more" (my other D in reference to Occidental :( )</p>
<p>I agree with you about kids not understanding the nuances that can be found at particular colleges. DS would only agree to one college visit trip, liked one, hated one, and thought one was okay. He still has 10 colleges he's applied to that he hasn't visited, and if he does, by some miracle, get accepted to most, we'll have a busy spring. </p>
<p>It really concerns me that he's so apathetic, and I wonder if it's lack of interest, fear, immaturity or, most likely, some combination plus more. No doubt my perspective is skewed by hanging out on CC, and I know he's a good kid who will land on his feet, but it would be easier on our relationship if one of us could modify our attitude!</p>
<p>Between Thanksgiving, a week out of town, kids' sports, orchestra concerts, etc. I've not posted on this thread for awhile. I've been reading though. So much exciting news along with difficult rejections and deferrals. It's a tricky time for all of our children. </p>
<p>While DH and I were out of town, DD received a phone call from St. Louis University informing her of acceptance and a nice merit scholarship. She was at practice so didn't actually talk to them. We're still waiting for the paper copy of this information. She mentioned last night that she may not apply to her "reach" school. I think she's rationalizing a bit because she tired of doing essays. She's leaning more and more towards our state school. She did also find out she was accepted into the honors program there. That makes it very attractive for many reasons. </p>
<p>As much as I would like her to try for a reach school, I'm not going to insist. It's her decision. If she's done with apps, so be it. She's in at two schools. We should hear from two more this week, maybe three since one is rolling. I know she's going to college, and I'm happy. She's happy. I just don't want her to regret not trying.</p>
<p>Hi rrah: The first college acceptance for my d - Saint Louis University. :) Called here also and talked with Dad as d was not at home. The phone call is a nice welcoming touch, isn't it?</p>
<p>Like your d, my d still has not completed the app (supplements) to her last school - a reach school. Says she still plans on applying, just will finish up after exams. While it is a reach school for her, it isn't her first choice which is nice - no angst expected if she doesn't get in.</p>
<p>How have schools shown your kids the post acceptance love?</p>
<p>Willamette: phone call from a student saying congratulations and a Christmas e card
Carroll: personal notes from the admissions counselor plus a gold embossed certificate
St. Mary's CA: phone calls from the admissions counselor
Linfield: phone call from someone. DD didn't really remember who.</p>
<p>Anyone get something more outside the box?</p>
<p>Ugh... this wait for an ED decision is killing my son (and me). Now the school has posted that the decisions will be available at the end of the business day on Monday. Of course, that's smack dab during the middle of one of his soccer games! He has a varsity game that starts at 4 on Monday. Do you think he'll be a little distracted? And he does NOT want me to check for him.</p>
<p>cpeltz and rrah--I think you have my son in your house. S just does not see himself as needing a reach--does not see the point as he feels he can be just fine many places ( I did a great job talking about safeties and matches I guess!). I just do not want him looking back this spring and ask why I did not "make" him apply to more places. That said I do like his acceptances so I am trying to learn to keep my mouth shut. 'tis hard.
Historymom--Linfield Admin called S and left a message to call him for the news. That Willamette greeting was sure sweet.
You and yours are going to Montana! D went to school in Vermont and wow it could get cold. I was always worried about the weather and students coming home late at night when it was bitter out. I did visit twice in the coldest storms--complete with airport closures etc. But there is nothing like a deep freeze to make it beautiful outside. Did you grow up with cold?</p>
<p>Rrah and Ignatius--congrats on that call--so nice! We're just doing college apps today n front of a fire, because we have some beautiful snow. I'm sure we're in for a snow/ice day tomorrow...</p>
<p>historymom
Yeah, Carroll MT.
Son has applied to Linfield as well. (who are very personal/able - they called to remind him to get everything in by the 12th and allowed us to have his transcripts faxed, so he would be eligible for the scholarship competition)
Son has applied RD, though, to everything, so he will only be hearing from those that have rolling admission (which I think Carroll does) any time soon. His Carroll application should be complete now, or will be, as soon as the counselor forms and transcripts arrive by snail mail. (mailed out the 8th)
Remind me, where did your current applicant decide to go? My H and I think Carroll looks great, we love the snow!. S is take it or leave it with snow. It will be about which place has the best math department for him. But I hope when he visits his <em>accepted</em> schools, something else will click as well.
ALMOST done with the MIT app - one more essay, then on to the Caltech and Stanford ones. I guess this is a good experience for him, even if I fear these 3 schools are a pretty big stretch.</p>
<p>We've got a great deal of the does n't care - will not hurt -theory going on in my house</p>
<p>My son learns his fate with one school tomorrow -- and fortunately, he seems to be doing all right. He went to town with me to grocery shop and visit Borders. He also submitted a pair of supplements to two Common Apps. But he won't be able to check on that EA school until about 10 p.m. -- he has an away academic team match. And like other parents have said, our son won't let us check for him.</p>
<p>Thanks SJ--D thought the call was pretty neat. Congrats Ignatius. Did your D apply for the Presidential Scholarship? My D choose not to do so :( She didn't think her stats were high enough. It kind of irritated me, but I'm really trying to take a hands off approach these days. So hard sometimes. </p>
<p>To answer historymom's question:</p>
<p>Just two acceptances thus far so not much to report. </p>
<p>St. Louis--The phone call/voice mail.
Indiana University-Bloomington---A cool scarf congratulating her on the scholarship arrived the same day as the St. Louis phone call. I understand some students received a phone call. D did not. Based on the IU forum, I suspect it was OOS students that received a call. She also received a holiday card from admissions</p>
<p>On another topic--anyone else going through "last timeitis"? We spent a very quiet weekend at home doing holiday things--decorating the tree, baking cookies, wrapping gifts. Tonight I asked D if she would want us to wait until she came home to put the tree up next year. She was noncommital about it. I've been trying to avoid the "last time" thoughts, but out it came tonight. She and younger brother actually cooperated on the tree instead of arguing about it. It was sweet. I thought it would be okay to bring it up.</p>
<p>oh rrah--I envy you--it was more like "WHY would I want to watch that movie with you AGAIN this year. I have had to see it every year forever". OK, so it IS Chevy Chase and Christmas Vacation...but couldn't he just humor me! Nice! that your D(and S) were so sweet. Oh- I graduated from IU both undergrad and grad. Really liked that school and town.</p>
<p>hi rrah: Yes d did apply for the Presidential Scholarship. If I remember correctly the application was not difficult - a resume (already had one done) and essay. The recs were already in place.</p>
<p>University of Alabama sends love on a regular basis. Funny, UA wasn't on the original list for d, but if I had to pick a university that is doing an impressive recruiting job Alabama wins hands down. (Engineering dept. sent a card; general admissions sent a card.)</p>
<p>Oregon101, we are sharing the same S. Mine resisted helping decorate the tree...a lifelong tradition, until I gave up. Those boys are definitely doing the separation dance.</p>
<p>Ignatius, my son did not show much love for the U. of Alabama at first. But when the school gave him a full, out of state tuition ride, he suddenly warmed up to the place enough to say that we needed to visit. And yes, the school does do a lovely job of recruiting -- so does Wash U, and my son hears from them still at least twice a week (yes, he has applied there.)</p>
<p>rrah, we're having lots of last-timeitis. Cutting down our tree this morning was in danger of becoming very weepy for me. And there wasn't even enough snow for anybody to break the mood with a snowball fight. I don't think I can bear to go to school on Friday for the concert/candlelighting. That's been sweetly weepy ever since 6th grade.</p>
<p>S1 did get happy news about his own first-choice school on Friday - and was REALLY over the moon when he found out a good friend got in, too. </p>
<p>Good luck to those still holding vigils for decisions tomorrow and in the coming week, and hugs to those who got less happy news. It <em>will</em> get better.</p>
<p>well, I have been complaining about a non-acceptance (I refuse to say the "R" word!) and lack of work done on other applications (one of which we had agreed was to be completed this weekend!!). On the other hand, however, DS did suggest that he and I go to a movie Fri nite which we did ...and he ran in to tell us about how big the moon was the other night and told us to come see--which I did immediately. Very reminiscent of his younger days when I had to "come see" everything. He's still in there somewhere!! Lucky me.</p>
<p>cpeltz--I think S started the seperation dance when he entered my life!! Still, he did surprise me and came in to watched MY movie and did not complain and did laugh. As far as I am concerned that was my Christmas Gift. I teased him that someday he will "make" his kids watch this in honor of their grandmother....
But, yes--are they twins??????</p>
<p>All the rest of you--hoping every S and D gets exactly what they want and need this next week . My love and concern will be with you. AND I am so glad to be over the anxiety attacks!!</p>