On vacation, it rained most of the week. D1 And D@ here with D2 fiancé. We are trying to get the basic stuff done for the wedding. have venue, church and photographer.
Sounds like everyone is doing well!
I live near cape cod.
CQ nice that you can meet up with people. With your traveling do you see daughter much. I know you mentioned a recent visit.
D1 has one more year of law school. she likes DA work. working now with violent crimes department.
I am still looking for a job…If not I will retire soon. Then if I am home I can get a dog. LOL
Back from a good vacation. Weather was simply excellent for the beach. Everyone enjoyed themselves after the first day. Drove over from Albany - having stayed with MIL the night prior. Took us forever. 2 accidents on 495 and then one going over the Bourne bridge so routed to the other with everyone else. Sigh… H was in a state - he hates sitting in traffic which then got me upset so I started clenching my jaw so started vacation with a lovely bad case of TMJ. Didn’t think I would need my mouth guard in the car! I basically told him later in the trip when we both had calmed down that if he couldn’t do road trips then we wouldn’t take them anymore - his comment was that if the plane is delayed it’s the same so my next comment was to keep it too himself then because it stresses me out too much. 
Came home and I wanted to just relax but no we cleaned out the rest of our bedroom and he is painting. I really hate this. We have moved everything into one of the other rooms for now and my house is a disaster. Need to get it painted and then put in a wood floor then we can move back in. I think I will find some new fabric and do curtains and a quilt or comforter. Like I need to add something else to do.
DTE - wish I had seen this. We might have been able to get together while I was over there. Sigh…
Just returning from Toronto from my niece’s wedding. She is a bright gorgeous girl (modeled when young) who works in the fashion industry in NY. She invited a big group of friends – finance guys and very thin, attractive women mostly in fashion. It felt like snooty Princeton eating clubs (aristocratic or upper class guys, in my days WASPS) do a Jewish wedding. Kind of weird. Also the friend group did not interact particularly with the two families.
It was black tie and out of doors – at my in-law’s farm. We now have a black-tie wedding coming up at a farm near Portland, OR. Why outdoors and black tie? Is this a fashion?
Shaw - my D’s wedding was at a barn and though not black tie people were “dressed up”. Sister-in-law kept saying well it’s at a barn. Yes but the guys were still in tuxes and bridesmaids in long gowns as was D as well as the mother of the bride and mother of the groom. She kept insisting that people should dress down. I basically then told her she could where what she wanted. She was telling my MIL that she didn’t need to wear a dress. I then proceeded to show MIL my gown and the gowns that everyone else was wearing. MIL wore a dress.
Second wedding. Also lovely. As high end as the second, but the kids integrated well with the other folks. also very thing very attractive women (not in fashion though) and men in finance. We felt more connected.
One interesting thing. We ran into a kid whose parents we knew. She is an English-person with a BF or husband who is in the sciences and was applying to grad school. I’d given them some advice at the parents’ request a couple of years earlier. They had moved to Portland OR and the kid, felt it was unethical to take a job for a year knowing she was probably going to be leaving, so was without income. Her dad figured he could get her to supervise the renovation of a house for that year given that she wasn’t going to be working, so he bought a house. She then went to meet contractors and decided that she didn’t want to work with any white male contractors because a) she was privileged and want to help non-white male contractors; and b) didn’t want to be mansplained to. ShawWife asked her what the alternatives were and there weren’t tons but she’d settled on a lesbian couple but they couldn’t start for 1.5 years. ShawWife was almost apoplectic (though she kept it in) and asked, “So, your Dad is making the mortgage payments on this for 1.5 years while nothing happens to the house and then you are going to go away?” She was almost uncomprehending about her combination of entitlement and political correctness – she was in effect happy to waste her dad’s money to a) support her while she does nothing; and b) support her politically correct cause. The dad was none too happy about this, when we asked him about it. We asked our Portland-based friends who said, “Oh, that’s Portland. The head of the opera company told us that there would be no work there for cis straight white males.” He was sorry but they’d made a commitment to bring in minorities, gays, transgenders etc. and wouldn’t be hiring cis straight white males. I wonder if the donors to the opera feel the same way.
Shaw–BIL’s dad was here and saw so many young people out and about during the day that he asked
if any young people work. The reply was, “No, but the parents work really hard”.
I can say that is not the circle we run in and all the young people are seriously employed.
I can’t believe we’re more than half way through August!! Hope everyone is well – clearly we’re all busy!
After 2+ weeks of having the A/C on here at the beach, it’s finally off. We’ve never had it on for such a long stretch, but the heat and humidity has been just horrible. This weekend the weather broke and it’s actually cool. I’ve been playing lots of golf, getting marginally better – or at least that’s what I keep telling myself. H has successfully closed the first round of funding for his new business; they have their first customer. Needless to say he’s busy!
A couple of months ago my father said he really wanted to go to Europe, but he guessed at his age he shouldn’t go alone. (Remember, he’s 90.) That pretty much guilted me into saying I’d go with him. H agreed to come with us since I really didn’t want to be over there alone in case something happened. But, then one of my brothers and his wife agreed to come, so H is off the hook. (See above as to why he really doesn’t have the time.) SO, we’re off to Austria, northern Italy and Germany in October. Only 10 days, and at a slower pace than H and I usually go. Somehow I’ve become the designated trip planner, which is pretty annoying – am I the only one with a computer? Sheesh!! I know I won’t regret doing this trip – I’m quite sure my father sees this his last international excursion. He and my mother traveled quite a bit – no doubt this will be a bittersweet trip down memory lane.
@shawbridge – this “kid” from the wedding you attended? IMO she needs a good smack – or at least she needs to have the enabling income from her parents cut off. Unbelievable!
It has been hot this summer but I refuse to complain after the brutal cold of the winter.
We are in the midst of doing our bedroom so all furniture is out and stuffed into the other bedrooms. H finished laying the hardwood floor yesterday in the bedroom. Walls are painted and some of the trim. He will need to finish up the trim and then we can move back in and then it’s up to me with curtains, bedspread, etc. We will then pack up the dressing room and start on that. After that I think it will be the dining room and then the kitchen. After that we should be okay although I guess we will do the sewing room which to be truthful is going to be a big chore to pack everything in there up. Oh well. All will be great once it’s done.
In our spare time we help out the kids with their houses.Sept 1st we have “weeding party” at my Ds.
My Portland friend said that “Portland is where 20 somethings go to retire.” He said after a few years of working as some combination of a barista, waitress, performing in an indie band, etc. while sampling craft beers and spending a surprising amount of money on nice restaurants. Some then decide to get more serious professionally. Unclear what the others do.
Hello! I’m at the airport, hoping for a few days away with H that is fun and drama free. I’ve traveled more than I wanted this summer but none of it fun.
I won’t go into it all, but I will say that my mom went to CA with her H and his son’s family and before they got to the hotel, she became convinced that they were going to kill her. Expensive, exhausting, last minute travel to bring her home ensued. Her H finished the trip but he was home less than a day and had to be hospitalized; his Son won’t allow his dad to return to Mom’s house.
The situation is even more heartbreaking and stressful than it sounds.
Oh, no! That sounds very troubling.
H and I are at the airport en route to Europe for a vacation. I just got home very late Friday from over 2 weeks in the UAE for work. We will be visiting D in London.
Missy - that does sound terrible! Hope things improve.
CQ- have a fantastic trip!
I’m on the hunt for a specific sneaker for my H. I am NOT having any luck. Seems like as soon as these hit the streets they are sold. The company releases different colors in waves. I missed the last wave when I was on vacation and as far as I can tell they are all gone. I really don’t care what color I end up with if I could just FIND one. It’s the only thing he has mentioned for his birthday. I ordered a biking jersey for him and that is back ordered and won’t be here in time. I am just striking out these days.
MP I am so sorry about the family issues. I know you are the person who takes care of everything. I am glad you are taking time off for you and H.
I wish I could help on the sneakers. I guess they must be pretty special. to be in such demand.
I don’t know much about Portland, but I was talking to a friend and her son is doing a similar thing. They feel less pressured to get going on jobs because they stay on their parent’s health insurance.
I have had a six week sinus infection and then the GI bug. I have zero for energy. I guess I was too testy with H. so he is not talking to me. Plus he gets mad when I complain I want things done in the house. I wish I had an H like RM who can do things. It would be much easier. I just want to live like a grown up with things fixed. I think it is my Karma to be continually frustrated.
We are going to Europe in Sept (if we are speaking to each other by then LOl). I am trying to build myself up because I am so tired. As one ages I think these things knock you down.
D is moving slowly on her wedding. I wont be for over a year. so we have time. I am glad she is not a bridezilla.
MP, dang. Some mother’s never stop (I had one). Hope it was just her meds or such.
Maybe if you started a thread about the shoes someone on CC would be able to tell you
where they are available. Or at least here.
Shaw, Portland IS weird. It is a mixed bag. I grew up in Indiana so realize JUST how different the PNW
is compared to the rest of the country.
dt, I think about you and hope your health is holding.
D is due in 4 weeks. She is SO TIRED of being pg.
SIL continues to be great. Sometimes his table manners are a little disappointing but
that is super small potatoes.
We just booked the same condo in San Diego for January as last Dec… DIL says they will be there at
least part of the time. D said a maybe for a few days. There are three bedrooms and there would
be a shuffle but that will become their problem <:-P.
G’son will get his LEGO LAND!!! fix. He is still talking about it from last December.
So happy to give him some memories with us.
The air quality has been simply awful with the oder of diesel inside the house.
We lived through MT. St. Helens and this was 1,000% worse. Finally lifting.
Putting up with H’s disappointment at not hiking is nearly as bad as the burning eyes
even inside our homes.
Tomorrow is my review. I already know that I am not getting any salary increase or any bonus - happened to see something today that I probably shouldn’t have. Didn’t matter how hard I worked on that project from hell. I will either get a “you are terrible” or “you are really terrible”. When I saw things going south I should have figured out a way to get out. My fault on that one. Max time left here is 2.5 years. Question is do I just suck it up and stay or do I quit and go someplace else? New job isn’t bad and fits with what I want - leaving as I need to, boss for the most part leaves me alone, people are okay to work with, etc. I could just suck it up and stay - question will be if my pride gets in the way. I know I didn’t do everything perfect but I am being held as the scapegoat - no question there.
So sorry to hear that, RM. I guess staying or leaving might depend on what the alternative/s are. It sounds like the job isn’t so bad, so with just a short time to go maybe staying is the best thing.
I do get it. I swallow my pride every day at work.
Hugs.
I did reach our to an old boss who I met with a few months ago with his boss and they are still interested in me going to the company that they work for. It’s an alternative. We will see how today goes. Meeting will be with my new boss - why he has to deliver the news seems stupid to me but that is the way we work. The person who did it should be the one so that I can have my say.
Thinking of you both last night and today RM. Worrying actually. I do not believe that you deserve a
poor review just knowing how competent you are in your life. Here are best wishes for you.
RM hoping it went better than you thought.
I also suck it up. It has affected my attitude. I am trying to go to work and leave it behind. RM its about you. do what is best for you. If it works to suck it up, so it. but only if it benefits you.