<p>A few pages back, someone mentioned that the idea of applying to these tippy top schools came as a result of counselor feedback. Same here. Two years ago, D was struggling with the idea that she might actually be interesting to a school like UCLA. Me, too. When she asked for permission to blow $55.00 on a UCLA sweatshirt, I asked why. I didn’t want her to get her hopes up too high for an impossible dream. (And, I didn’t want to waste $55.00! )</p>
<p>Don’t get me wrong. She has always been a stellar student: Her name was placed on the boards of classrooms (the best grades on big tests are written on the chalkboard) so often that other kids and teachers whom she had never met would stop her, congratulate her and ask her how she did it. And, D2 just rolls her eyes now when “random” kids and adults walk up to her and congratulate her on having such a smart big sister.</p>
<p>But, “our world” (our “paradigm”) never consisted of the thought that 1) she should apply to a top 10 school, 2) that she might actually get in, and 3) that we might actually be able to afford it!!!</p>
<p>So, when it was time during her junior year to have the required parent, student, counselor chat about college app plans, D recited our local public schools as her safeties and UCLA as her reach. Oh! If only I had a picture of the look on her GC’s face when D finished her list. My knees actually began to tremble. We assumed that the GC was upset because he thought D was overreaching and I quickly placed my hand on D’s lap to soothe her impending pain and embarrassment.</p>
<p>However, the first words out of the GC’s mouth were: “I’m not sure I understand why you have decided to limit yourself in this way!”… “Limit”? Did he say “limit”? And, why is he so angry? D and I looked at each other. Then, finally, *I *asked “What do you mean by ‘limit’”? And, then he began to explain in a logical way (looking at his naviance report, no doubt) why it was unbelievably short-sighted of us to only apply to the colleges my D had placed on her list. Especially, he noted, in light of our desire for financial aid, D’s demonstrated success in school and on national exams (SATs & APs) and her somewhat unique profile.</p>
<p>He made it clear that we had obviously been poorly advised (well, actually, Mr. GC, we hadn’t been “advised” at all at that point!) and suggested we buy a Fiske book and do our homework. Once we were finished with our research, D was required to submit a new list of schools to him. (Humph!)</p>
<p>Fast forward to the Day After the lottery and she has actually been accepted to all of the schools she applied to – only two of which (including UCLA) were on her original list. We are all (D, myself, DH and even D2) thrilled, shocked and a bit numbed by the results. And, oh so very thankful.</p>
<p>For most of you, it seems, aiming this high has been a normal part of your lives and the lives of your kids. I actually thought I was a big dreamer too. That is, until I saw the look on the GC’s face that day and started reading the words that you (and some of the “overachieving” CC kids) have written.</p>
<p>I want to thank everyone, again, for all of your help, advice and insight throughout this process. My D thinks I’m a nut for reading this site and we actually went through a little drama about it early on. But, once I was able to intelligently advise her on certain things, including summer programs that she ended up attending, taking her SATIIs in the same month as the corresponding APs, and why applying ED was not an option for her, she finally had to acknowledge that, although still embarrassing, mom certainly knows her stuff and helped her reach her newly found goals.</p>
<p>Thank goodness for angry GCs and shifting paradigms! And, mostly, for smart kids with big dreams! Oh! And, although my D will not be attending UCLA in the Fall, thank goodness for UCLA as well! :)</p>