<p>Good morning all, and congrats to your kids that have made decisions. The best is yet to come!</p>
<p>We’re 99% sure here at our house, pending admitted students day on Friday. I would be extremely surprised if anything happens there that will change her mind. So here is our saga, in a (big) nutshell.</p>
<p>This is our second go-round with this process. S is a junior at University of Maryland. He was never really interested in college visits, but D was a different story. We’ve been excitedly visiting colleges for a couple of years now. At first, D was sure she wanted to go to California. We visited USC, Occidental, Chapman, LMU, Pomona, and CMC. Then the next year we went back there and revisited most of them again. At that point, she decided she was sold on Chapman. This was one year ago. She had a small list of schools that offered merit aid, and that was where she was going to focus her attention. </p>
<p>Then she got her ACT score back, and it was much better than her SAT score had been. She’s always had a 4.0 and taken the hardest course-load available. So she suddenly wondered if maybe she could get into some really selective colleges - and suddenly that became her focus. She took almost all the other schools off her list (kept Chapman, although it lost its lustre awhile ago for her) and set about writing essays and crafting her applications to these tippy-top schools. I wouldn’t say I encouraged her, exactly, but I definitely supported her. I took her to the midwest and east coast to visit schools. And I asked her to keep a financial safety and a couple of matches on the list. Sadly, I watched the merit money prospects slip away.</p>
<p>She applied ED to a school which rejected her, and that sent her into a panic which made her want to add more reaches, rather than more matches. I let her go that direction, knowing that we had a rolling school in the bag and one safe bet coming. That was my biggest mistake. I should have reasoned with her to add more matches, but any time I suggested it, she took it to mean that I didn’t have faith in her. It was tough, and I didn’t want to crush her spirit any more than it already was.</p>
<p>She did not apply to any local schools, unless you count the one state school 5 hours away. And then the boyfriend came into the picture. Just one (long) month ago, she applied to Willamette University at his suggestion. (It is his “dream” school - but he might not be able attend because of finances.) She applied there last minute, thinking “why not?” We visited, she absolutely loved it, met an amazingly supportive professor in her major, and she was accepted with a large merit scholarship. </p>
<p>I worried that she would end up having to choose between the school close to home (read: boyfriend) or the big-name school back east. Turns out, she didn’t have to choose. She didn’t get into any of the big-name schools back east. She ended up with four acceptances, one being the in-state safety she never seriously considered, one being Chapman (big scholarship from them, too), one is Macalester in St. Paul (which she liked OK but it was never high on her list), and Willamette with merit $. And a couple of WL that she doesn’t want to stay on. So it’s down to Chapman, Mac and Willamette. Chapman is sunny and near Disneyland! And they gave her lots of money. But other than that, doesn’t have a huge draw for her. Mac is a cool college in a cool city, but no merit $, far away, never high on her list anyway, and in a very different climate. Willamette gave her less $ than Chapman, but costs less too, so it about evens out. There is a hospital right across the street, which is important to her because she volunteers regularly and will be pre-med. It’s an easy 1 hour drive from home, but not close enough that Mom and Dad will be popping in to visit all the time. It’s a nice campus in a downtown location with just the right number of students. And the vibe, the fit, the feeling, is 100% Willamette.</p>
<p>A year ago, I never imagined she’d end up at Willamette. But I am so happy now because I think it’s exactly the right place for her. If all goes well, after Friday, I’ll be posting on the Drumroll thread!</p>